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  1. Hello all! I hope everyone is doing well :) To update on my life: I had started seeing someone seriously for a few months; it didn't work out and I ended things a little over a month ago. I took a month hiatus from the dating world to reflect on life, to spend some time by myself, and it was seriously so refreshing. I just recently last week decided to go back on Plenty of Fish and see what's out there I'm taking a more light hearted and less intense approach to dating at this point in my life and am just thinking "whatever happens, happens". That being said I've been tal
  2. Hello all! So, I've had H for almost two years; this past month has been rough emotionally and physically. I had a yeast infection in the beginning of the month that was treated accordingly and I'm going through a break up amongst financial stress so my emotions are all over. The past two weeks I've noticed an almost constant irritation down in the nether regions along my bikini line and the hood (I think it's called?) of the vagina and today I noted blistering (my last outbreak was actually a year ago so it's been a while and I've never had it in this area so I was a bit taken aback); ge
  3. Hello All! It has been forever since I checked in but recent development that I need to pick someone's brain about: I've had H for a year and 8 months; my outbreaks have been few and far between a after the first 6 months, I generally know the difference between when I have an outbreak or when I have razor burn (I have super sensitive skin so I just am prone to razor burn no matter where I shave). BUT this past week I've been super stressed, getting my period, you know the perfect situation for an outbreak and I had shaved Sunday, no problems just the usual razor burn but by Monday n
  4. Gold Bond Spray is my best friend! Honestly, my body has gotten so used to H at this point that I am not limited in any physical activity at all! But like Dancer noted, everyone is different! Gold Bond is great, washing right after a run helps too with gentle no scent soap. Honestly, my first couple of months were rough, but I've been at a year now and things are much better, I felt great after the initial six months and really do feel back to normal. Hoping the same goes for you!
  5. @Elise1977 @Anna01 @FirstTimeFrustrated @2Legit2Quit thank you all for your responses! I spoke to him more last night about it and told him my feelings that he cares more about having emotional intimacy with me first and the physical part after, he said that's exactly what he meant and that I am no less desirable he just desires me as a person first and foremost. I actually feel really positive about this and what I have with him so far, this is the first man in my whole life who is putting me first before having sex with me, it's a really beautiful thing :)
  6. Hello All, Looking for some thoughts. I recently met someone who is 1300+ miles away on a STD dating app. He is wonderful and we've been talking for just over a month and I am going to visit him in about 6 weeks or so. He has H as well. The reason I'm posting is because, he expressed how sex is not a top priority, which I fully respect, and did discuss that while he's extremely attracted to me that he doesn't want to have sex with me necessarily when I go to visit. I've been thinking a lot about this, and part of me feels rejected but then part of me wants to smack myself and be like...HE
  7. Hi All! So unfortunately, things did not work out with my long term boyfriend, we moved in and realized we just were not on the same page. So we decided to go out separate ways, thankfully the break up was amicable. Now, I am back on the single market and of course my first thought was, WHO IS GOING TO LOVE ME OR DATE ME WITH HERPES?! It's amazing that after all the progress I've made in accepting H, I reverted back to that after the security of my long term boyfriend left me. Well the past few weeks were rough to say the least, HOWEVER, I decided to just throw myself back into the
  8. Hi Brynn! Everybody's experience can be different and the same! Dancer is 100% right! I personally have Genital HSV1 as well. The first three months after my initial outbreak were awful, but things settled down and now I generally only feel irritation with no sores. The irritation is far and few between for me. Keep being concious of it for your health, it's great that you know your body so well! I have begun to realize the things that really do prompt irritation for me: rough sex and really strenuous workouts. I always use Gold Bond Spray before a workout and then wash up as so
  9. Hello All! I first have to apologize for neglecting our beautiful forum the past few months. I hope you all are doing well and keeping up the good fight :) I am writing because it has been exactly ONE YEAR since my first herpes outbreak & diagnosis. I cannot believe the whirlwind of my life this past year. I was in such an incredibly dark place the first few months after my diagnosis due to multiple outbreaks, one after another; I felt depressed, alone, and absolutely disgusting. I have to give a HUGE thank you to this forum, you all really saved me and helped me see how life rea
  10. Hello all! It's been awhile since I've posted but I just wanted to give a check in. For any newbies I have to tell you when I was first diagnosed I was DEVASTATED, literally hit a low I haven't felt in a long time. The truth is time really does heal! It's been almost 5 months since my diagnosis and my life is going great! My career is wonderful and I have someone who loves me for me and accepts me, H and all :) At first I thought about H 24/7 but now it barely crosses my mind, I did have a breif outbreak two weeks ago but it was so incredibly mild and I didn't even take antivirals and it was g
  11. Hey all! So, it's been three monts already since my diagnosis, wow times flies! For the most part I hardly think about herpes now, until it comes to being intimate with my boyfriend whom I got back together with officially earlier this month. He's been my rock and amazing with the Herpes diagnosis. However, everytime we are or attempt to be intimate I kind of freak out and have a crying fit because I'm terrified of passing this too him. Yes, I take a daily antiviral and we use protection and I know the risk is only 1% with both but I just can't help but feel that I am putting him at such risk.
  12. Hello all! So, I am a quote junkie. I love quotes because I love words and feel like words are so incredibly healing sometimes. As a therapist, I've also learned that these words cannot merely be said, but put into some action or somehow internalized. I have a ton of go-to quotes for my not so great days and wanted to share them all with you *heart* I hope one of them can give you some hope, a smile, or just a little bit of sunshine on a rainy day :) "You have to fight through some bad days, to earn the best days of your life." - Unknown "Tough times don't last, tough people do.
  13. lm44


    Hey Everyone, It's been about a month since I've checked in here and just over two and a half months since my diagnosis...I just wanted to thank this forum again because I was a mess the first month of my diagnosis and this forum really helped me. Herpes may have been the best thing to happen to me because the past month I've removed toxic relationships from my life, started putting my needs first, got into therapy, have been thinking more positively, and was able to reconnect with the love of my life who I so foolishly let go of but all things work out, not just as they should, but when
  14. I've made an appointment to see a therapist for next week and I'm really looking forward to going. I've been to a therapist before and I'm a therapist myself. I think having that outsider person in your life can be really beneficial. I just wanted to know if others have gone to therapy after their diagnosis and how it was for you? If it helped? Thanks so much all. <3 L
  15. Thanks @WCSDancer2010 you're right! Thank you to everyone who responded!
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