SweetAsSugar

After having sex with a H+ person, how long do I have to wait to go get tested. Does the H virus take a while to show up when tested?

So I'm getting close to finally having sex with my bf who's H+. Is there anything I can do to protect myself besides condoms and him taking antivirals? Like vitamins or herbal supplements? Just trying to do my part to help me stay negative.

@WCSDancer2010 I see exactly what you're saying. I know he needs help dealing with this. It's been 3 1/2 years for him and he still thought it was only bad during OB. I told him about the viral shedding and he said he had no idea. You're right though, it does say a lot about he handles difficult situations. I can imagine how hard it is to deal with, but I know if I was in his shoes, I would want to know everything about it. I told him I signed up here and he was shocked. He did support me and told me to do what I need to do to get informed., but I think it freaked him out a bit. He did say he'd do whatever it takes to protect me, so I just need to tell him to suck it up since in the same sentence he told me how much he hates condoms. I'll find an appropriate time to discuss what I need to with him. I really can see myself spending the rest of my life with him which is why I'm trying really hard to make this work for us. Thank you for your support and honesty. I appreciate it so very much.

Thank you for writing back. I really appreciate it. I'm not sure which one he has or where his OB are. He hates talking about it and won't even say it out loud. I'm trying to find a way to help him feel more comfortable. Any suggestions? As for the antivirals, he's not on any. He said it affects him once every 18 months or so and he hates using condoms. We haven't had sex yet cuz I'm still trying to wrap my head around it all. I'm going to look into ways to bump up my immune system and stuff like that. Especially because I hate the idea of actually planning a pregnancy. I just want it to happen when it happens and not have to track my cycle and stuff.

I'm negative so I have lots of questions. I've read a lot of the posts on here and I'm no longer ignorant about how it all works. My question is more about how it works exactly if we want to have children, which he's already said he wants soon. To be with him and start our lives together, do I pretty much have to accept the fact that I might end up with H? Is there anything else I need to know about seriously marrying my bf and starting a family? I love him so I want to be with him. Any input would be appreciated.

I'm negative so I have lots of questions. I've read a lot of the posts on here and I'm no longer ignorant about how it all works. My question is more about how it works exactly if we want to have children, which he's already said he wants soon. To be with him and start our lives together, do I pretty much have to accept the fact that I might end up with herpes? Is there anything else I need to know about seriously marrying my bf and starting a family? I love him so I want to be with him. Any input would be appreciated.