kcgal1986

I'm not worrying about him breaking up with me for it. He also has a problem staying erect so we both have our own problem. I think once he understands that its not a big deal he will be fine. We just need a doctor to tell him that, so he has a professional opinion instead of just mine and google. I'm more worried about me wanting to leave him because of him just going without sex. He's very sweet to me and feels terrible about how I am feeling. Maybe we won't work out, I would just hate for it to be because of this.

We had sex one time before I got tested. It is possible that he gave it to me, but its also possible I gave it to him. I'm afraid whether his results are negative or positive. Positive, I'm to blame. Negative, he may not want to risk it like you said. He hasn't left yet and doesn't seem like that's what's going th through his head. It's so hard to talk to him about this, and I can't talk to anyone else. He's so supportive, but I can't fathom dealing with him leaving me for this. I will be heartbroken and disappointed in myself. I can't see an end to this, if not him, ill have to go through telling another man, and possibly getting rejected again. I can't get this out of my head. I cant deal with being undesirable on this level. So many emotions. Sad, scared, anxious, disappointed, helpless, hopeless, alone. I know I'm not the only one, but why is it so terrible if so many people have it? Why is it such a big deal if such a large percentage of people have it? I don't understand why people with herpes are made to feel so undesirable. This is forever, I can't believe ill be treated like this for the rest of my life. So sad.

Yeah he said the more he reads the more he gets scared. I will hopefully get to go with him.

I just found out that I have herpes through testing, although I've never had an outbreak. I had the difficult discussion with my boyfriend that day, and he was very understanding. At the time we had only been together for less than a month. Now its three months and we still have not been very sexual except for a couple times. It's been a month since we've had any contact, so I decided to have a talk with him. I asked him if it was because he's afraid of getting it, and he said yes. He was very apologetic. He has yet to get tested himself, because he's afraid of the outcome. He promised he would go this week, and that I can go with him. He made the point that condoms aren't 100%, even though I've never had an outbreak. I uderstand his concern and don't want to give this to him. Aside from him getting tested, what can we do? It's so hurtful that my boyfriend is afraid of me. I've never felt so ... Disgusting. I don't know how to fix this.... I'm such .a sexual person and can't imagine not having it anymore. I'm so sad.