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lifeislovely

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  1. Hi all, I am seeing someone new and he seems to be genuinely interested in getting to know me and it looks as if we could date sometime soon. Last time we went out, we got on the topic of sex and he disclosed that he had been with over 100 women, but was ready to be in a relationship. When I disclose my ghsv1, I will make him go get a full STD screening plus get blood tests for hsv1 and hsv2. Does the fact that he's been with so many people put me at any sort of risk otherwise if all of his tests come back negative? My major concern here is HIV and hsv2. HIV should be a black or white answer but isn't the hsv2 blood test not always reliable? He says he had a full std test recently and everything came back clean, but I want to be 100% sure. Also will his higher number of partners put me at risk for HPV? Thanks all for advice!
  2. @WCSDancer2010 are all cold sores hsv1? Meaning can you get cold sores and not have herpes?
  3. Hi guys! My friend started getting cold sores a few months ago. I'd say she's had two episodes over the past 3 months, each lasting about a week. Both times a cold sore appeared on the left side of her bottom lip. I saw her a lot during the summer and she knows I have GHSV1 and wants to know if its a safe bet she has oral HSV1. The blister is pretty small, but starts of red and cut-like and ends up crusty and yellowish towards the end of the healing. I told her the only way to know for sure is to get tested but this generally sounds like an oral HSV1 outbreak, correct? Thank you!
  4. @victoriaxxx It's going to be okay! He had the choice to walk away and he was willing to accept this as a possibility. I'm sure this will bring your relationship to an even more intimate level! Question: what do you have exactly? Just confused why dancer doubts he got it from regular sex but maybe oral. (unless you have oral hsv1 and ghsv1 also)
  5. Hi guys, I'm new to the H community and was diagnosed with ghsv1 6 months ago. I just wanted to share my feelings the past 6 months and offer some hope to the newly diagnosed. You are going to be just fine. I promise. I remember back in February sitting on the doctors table, waiting to hear that I have a bad yeast infection or UTI. I've only been with a handfull of guys so when I was told immediately "that's a herpes blister", I cried so hard I even made my doctor cry. (unprofessional, huh?) She handed me a herpes pamphlet with a man and woman on the cover. The man was holding the womans arm and had his head pressed up against her with a woeful look, as if she had one month left to live. Come on. Who designs these things? Anyway, at the time I thought I would never have sex again and would be alone forever. Fast forward 6 months. Herpes is rarely on my mind. I haven't had another outbreak, I take care of myself, I take dating slow, and I carefully chose a support system to talk to about it with. Herpes is so misunderstood, I find it comical. The other night I was watching "John Tucker Must Die" and to ruin his reputation, his ex girlfriends put a picture of him with the words "I have genital herpes" on a movie theater preview. The girl he is with covers her mouth and spits out the soda she was sharing with him (so incorrect for so many reasons) and runs away. Sure, this scene stung a little bit post-diagnosis but the scenario could have been "I have foot fungus" or "I'm secretly gay". Anything could have potentially caused a reaction like that. We really can't take these things seriously- people are so uneducated and we know as a community it isn't this constant gross, crusty, dirty, thing. In that sense, we just have to shake our heads at people's lack of education and continue to set people straight instead of taking it personally and shamefully. If everyone knew the reality of what herpes is, it would have the same reputation as something silly like acne. That being said, dating is not over. sex certainly is not over. Get to know someone, and once they get to know the amazing you, herpes won't be a big deal. It's not cancer or HIV or a life threatening illness- think of how those people may feel about being alone! Herpes is a silly skin condition that just happens once in a while. Take care of yourself. Take some medicine. Life your life. Love yourself! Nothing else should change. People who are meant to stay in your life will understand and will be willing to take the tiny risk. I think it helps to compare transmission rates to risk of getting pregnant (if they are willing to risk a pregnancy, this should be no different) or dying in an automobile accident (I think thats a 1.8% chance of occurring in a lifetime, a similar percentage when having safe sex with certain strains of herpes). (Correct me if i'm wrong!!!) Herpes is dumb. More manageable than my frizzy hair that I have to deal with every morning. You're gonna be juuuust fine!
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