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I'm glad to hear about your experience. Thanks for sharing. There is clearly more to people than just having herpes. I'm glad that this guy got that and embraced getting to know you :)

Wow. superwoman- well said! and Sugarplum fairy- Way to be there for him. You presented everything to him so openly and genuinely. Even offered to pay for a test if his insurance didn't cover it. Very sweet of you and your concern for others is very clear. Any guy who is right for you would fully admire your authenticity and your care for them.

Wow. Smart son :) He is so right. I found this on the site today. Not sure if you've read it yet. But I thought it might help. http://herpeslife.com/keeping-your-partner-herpes-free-can-be-super-sexy/

Amen!

I'm loving all the love! The H opp weekend is truly something special. Brenda- I felt every word you wrote when describing the weekend. Adrial has a incredible gift of love, understanding, compassion, and showing us how wonderful we truly are. I'm glad you had such a great experience. Love to everyone :) -Katie

Hi Divastated, I understand how scary Herpes is at first, and I want to thank you for taking the healthy approach of asking questions and getting the facts. I am so happy that you've come to a forum to ask questions and share your story. Congratulations on the healthier you and regaining your confidence. As you learn the facts about herpes, your confidence will come back. You're doing everything perfectly :) To answer your question, I remember looking up the same question that you had, and finding out that it's very rare to pass HSV-2 through oral sex. I found information from a medical doctor who states "Oral herpes due to HSV-2 is rare; almost all cases are due to HSV. Therefore, it is rare for someone to aquire genital HSV-2 from oral sex, if it happens at all. In 30+ years in the STD business, I have not seen or even heard of such a case." Your new guy seems sweet, and it sounds like he's willing to learn about herpes with you. The more you know, the less scary it all is. You are doing everything right though. You both got tested; something came up; you're learning about it and he's getting tested specifically for herpes now. I understand your fear of having him resent you if you ever gave it to him; and that's why it's best to have an authentic conversation with him. When you feel comfortable, let him know about any worries or fears that come up for you. You have been 100% honest with him, which is so respectable- and I know he appreciates that! Having vulnerable conversations about anything (not just herpes) are a great way to connect on a deeper level. I came across a quote last night that I want to share, "It’s easy to take off your clothes and have sex. People do it all the time. But opening up your soul to someone, letting them into your spirit, thoughts, fears, future, hopes, dreams… that is being naked." — Rob Bell Good luck with everything. Lots of love!

Hi WhoopsiDaysi, I just wanted to share with you something I've learned about in the past year that's a possibility of connecting on a deeper level. I am a huge believer in intimacy; It's so important to have a deep connection with the one you love. One of my friends puts on tantra workshops, and I came to realize that it's not what I always assumed it was. I haven't attended a full workshop yet, but I did attend an introduction to it, and got to learn a bit of what it is. What my eyes opened up to was the opportunity to communicate deeper with your partner. My friend showed different ways just to sit with your partner so that you're more connected and there's more open room for honest, intimate conversation. I was really impressed by what I was introduced to, and I am planning on finding out more about it. The introduction that I attended literally only talked about connecting with your partner through words and touch- no sex. It was about how to connect with your partner on a soul level. This is Paul's website: http://www.tantraforyou.com/tantra-resources/holistic-tantra-sessions/ I hope it might be of some help if your interested :)