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Lol yeah reading back I probably sound like I'm overreacting, but honestly, I know I am not.. And I have no intention of parading around the internet personal things regarding my daughter if I didn't think it was quite serious. Most people who don't have hsv dismiss it or make it seem like it's no big deal... That is why I am seeking advice here. I have read many things to inform myself and she has most of the signs such as puffiness, irritation, she's been rubbing them like crazy, she has eye boogers and I took her to her primary today, but he assumes it's allergies but isn't sure... I haven't brought up the fact that I have it and I am sick right now and am not having an ob but I didn't even have an on when I was diagnosed... So yes I am overly concerned, I stress to say overly because she's my daughter and I'm concerned for her health and because she was tested at birth and came back negative but can't antibodies appears later? Either way I am not sure whether I should bring it up to him. I am going to see if this medication works but I would like them to do a blood test to get actual results. But just seeking advice from people who actually live with this daily. Especially if you have children, they cling all over you and I know I'm not in tip top shape right now so I am concerned. I don't know how to approach this situation BC it's so rocky BC she has several medical issues that were out of our control and now it seems this now could be something else

Hello:) I think the last time I was on here I was browsing through the discussions but not really reading anything.... Let me give an update. So, aside from finding out I have herpes and having a daughter born with a cleft lip and palate; and several other issues, I now have to worry that she may be showing signs of eye herpes.:'( I haven't really gotten on here because my daughters medical condition has been exhausting. I barely get any sleep, I'm not eating the way I should because cooking is too time consuming, I rarely workout or even have time to study. Madison takes up my entire day despite the fact that she has a nurse at home... She is a 24/7 job. Don't get me wrong, I love being a mom, but I am not taking care of myself the way I should. I hate to say this, but aside from outside help, I get no inside help. I am overly stressed and terrified of having an ob. But at the rate I'm going I might get one. I feel like such an irresponsible parent Even though I know I am trying my best and giving my all. I am emberrassed to as her primary pH. To test her. She was test at 2 days old, but it came back negative...I dunno. She has all the signs of it except the actual sores...I just want to cry. My poor darling has already been through so much and now I feel like she might have to deal with maybe having hsv. I feel shitty and horrible. Can someone please help me out and share some info. I feel like I'll be judged horribly if I tell her pedi.. I just to crawl in a deep dark hole. I hope she doesn't have it... Any info would be much appreciated :( - and, are there any precautions to take as a parent. What are things I can share and can't... I just want to kiss her little baby face, but, I can't... I'm scared.

So today was OK up until about an hour ago....I feel the right side of my "flower" swollen and I busted out mirror to have a closer look and I can't see down there due to my big tummy and it looks like I have three possible sores coming up. They are just bumps right now and it looks internal but also my ovaries and uterus have been hurting off and on since yesterday and now have been hurting more today....is this a possible outbreak??? I'm going to call my Dr. In the morning but we had just discussed putting me on meds in two weeks BC I want a vaginal birth but I think this is an ob....I'm 31 almost 32 wks....what can I do???it's the weekend and I think my Drs. Office is closed or he might not be there BC I had an med. Emergency 2 weeks ago and he wasn't at his office....anyway can anyone help if he can't??? Can I put my zync creme on the ob while I'm pregnant or should I wait for docs orders???I don't want to irritate or make it worse... Plz help

Hi everyone:) It's been quite a journey for me since I found out I am H+.It'll be a year of knowing pretty soon and I'll be expecting my first child which is amazing. I can't wait. I know I said I would get on this site more and do my part but due to complications with my pregnancy and personal life I have honestly been avoiding anything that could possibly stress me out. I think I've only signed in a few times to read some discussions and just see what's going on here. I have been very fortunate that I haven't had any outbreaks but my doctor has recommended putting me on meds my last month but I'm not sure if I want that. I know I haven't had any symptoms of an ob and I know I still can get one but I don't like how the medicine makes me feel and I still get those annoying hives when I take meds. It's weird but I'm pregnant so I have to wait till after for an allergy test...I know it would help especially if I want to have a vaginal birth. The accyclovir just makes me feel sick. I have spoken to many people about herpes and almost anyone aware of it says it's very common and I found out a couple or maybe a few of my family members have it but they refuse to get tested or talk about it. It makes me wonder if I should ever tell my child I have it when she's old enough? As a parent should you tell your kids that you have herpes? I'm sure it's a dumb question but I see how hard it is for some people to talk about and I wonder how much herpes affects your parenting...well, if it does at all??? Aside from certain complications and not really worrying about my herpes everything seems manageable now. I feel like I've grown deep down inside and for the first time in a very long time I feel happy with who I am. I remember being so angry when I found out. It was horrible but now that I've educated myself and become aware and comfortable it almost makes me feel sorry for people who can't talk about it. I guess the thing is with me, I know exactly what I want and who I am...herpes can't change me so I have learned to brush off comments from people who I think are judging me or just being plain dumb about herpes. I wish more people didn't have to struggle with this. I can't wait to pop this baby out so I can continue my education and still help people in my community with understanding herpes. I actually SCHOOLED a nurse on hsv;) she was very happy to learn about it and was glad she met me. It feels good letting people know I'm OK and they're OK even though they don't have it. It is something to be aware of and hopefully my story or advice helps them. But enough of that! Have I mentioned I'm having a girl yet???! Yup, a beautiful baby girl. She's super hyper and funny even though she's not out yet she's already quite the character and you can tell how comfy she is on my sonos. How do babies get tested for H? Is that something I should look into??? Any who hope everyone is doing OK despite the stress of having H. I know it sucks having to worry or deal with it but it'll pass over time.

I completely understand...I too have had to deal with the stress of having herpes. All of us have to deal with the stress of having herpes. People who don't have this condition generally don't understand and attempt to give their best advice, but are not aware of the emotional impact it has on us who have it. Especially with work, it's not like it's something you can just bring up or say your having a shitty day because of an outbreak. It sounds to me like you are just having an extremely hard time coping with this and need someone to talk to you regularly just about this or whatever it is going on. Feel free to message me or talk to me or if your not comfortable honestly, just go out and try to do something for yourself. I took time to reevaluate my situation and honestly, to just recognize where I went wrong and how I could fix the problem I was having within myself. Let me just put this plain and simple, you are here, you are alive, and this is what you have. You cannot get any lower, so might as well go up. I'm sure you are having a low point in your life, but we are all here for you. home remedy might sound disgusting but works: it's this anti-fungal foot creme they sell it otc at any local grocery store or pharmacy it is high in Z just rub on the area that tingles or itches or just try any Z creme, perhaps diaper rash creme...dude just try it, it worked for me and other people I know who have H2. I hope you feel better and feel free to msg me anytime you want to talk

Thank you so much this definitely helped a lot...especially the links dancer. I've saved some of them to keep on hand. My doctor has referred me to a specialist but aside from that I think I can finally get this under control and get some answers:)

I wonder how bad other peoples outbreaks are and how can YOU tell when you are shedding? I guess because I am pregnant my body is going through so many changes, I can't tell or just don't know when I am shedding or having an outbreak or having a possibility of one. I read about people having rashes and yes, I am asking if you can share with me those experiences. I have had no help with these hives from drs. and I don't think they are herpes related, but you never know at this point because I am not on meds and I am only several months in on finding out I had herpes. For veterans with H, how long did it take for you to actually know when you were going to have an outbreak? And how exactly can you tell if you are shedding or having a symptom related to herpes? Do home remedies really work for shortening outbreaks (share some if they do plz) And for newbies like me, are your outbreaks becoming more frequent since the first one? I just can't tell what my body is doing right now and these hives are so freakin weird. I have asked to see a specialist and other doctors for months, but no one knows what the heck they are...so if you have a rash or something on your skin that is not a sore, can you please describe it to me? As weird as that sounds...and can you tell me what treatment you received and what your doctor said. I just want some relief from this. The hives have become less frequent, but not completely gone so I want to know if this is herpes related. What are your triggers and is there something you do to prevent it from getting worse? Let me know, I could really use the help right now in understanding all of this.

What I mean with the whole gloves thing, just to clarify, my obgyn came in with another physician (a female to observe..my obgyn is a male dr.) and this woman was not even going to touch me but as soon as I told my dr. I have HSV2, that lady reached over the counter for gloves and just smacked them on. And she didn't even come close to me. She looked at me as if I had aids...but I'm sure it didn't help that my dr. mistakenly called HSV, HIV but then quickly corrected himself... I know that they have to wear gloves...any doctor does at certain times...I just thought she was a little ridiculous by her reaction, I mean, c'mon...I wanted to jokingly touch her. I did find another doctor to see me because yes I understand that doctors do sometimes feel that herpes is just a skin condition, but it's also something that falls under the category of an STD so it is conflicting for someone who actually has it (me) and who possibly just had an outbreak. I have been doing my best to research and really try to prevent anything that stresses me out, but just the thought of my child having to feel pain at birth is just horrifying and I want to make sure I continue to become more educated on this and just be self aware of how I need to handle outbreaks and be informed and not so close minded on hsv, but not to open about it because like I said, it's a part of me and that's all. I do understand that perspective that herpes is just herpes, it's more common than people think. But do I agree with that? Ehhh, I just "understand" that perspective. I don't agree that herpes is just herpes. It doesn't change the fact that education is still key here. My doctor just disregarded my concern as if it was nothing. He said that so many people have it, so it's not a big deal. I found that very offensive because if it wasn't such a big deal we would be able to talk about it with out embarrassment or shame or having someone reach over and put on gloves as if you're a disease. We would be able to talk about it in a mature manner with key points of tackling the issue on herpes and figure out a way to help people who have it or facing challenges of understanding it. He also told me that my chances of having any outbreak during pregnancy were very slim so he just wasn't concerned. This doctor must have had FIND A NEW DOCTOR in invisible ink on his forehead or something... It made me laugh that just because you have a degree in a certain field doesn't mean you have the answers to everything. Especially something like HSV which is so controversial and not really understood yet. It's not understood by doctors or the CDC or people who have it, people who don't have it.... it is very complicating. I am pregnant and I have HSV2...and it matters. I want to know what my options are. I would like to feel that I am in good hands and not just someone you are trying milk for money because you have a little certificate that says you can parade around like a jackass in a white coat. I am not saying all doctors are like that, but this doctor was and I can imagine him discussing herpes or anything related to it with other people and saying, "IT'S NO BIG DEAL." I am not going to suffer because this guy is an idiot.

I had told myself that I was going to try and get on as often as possible, but this weather has been kicking my butt. I had a cold and an "almost outbreak," but I nipped it in the bud before anything could come up. I applied some Z creme to the affected area and within a few days it was all clear and I was back to normal, but I consulted my doctor about it and he confirmed that my hives are not herpes related, but an allergic reaction. To what, well, that remains a mystery. I am currently looking for a new obgyn because I feel like the doctor I am seeing doesn't take anyone seriously who doesn't have a medical degree....and I'm not just saying that, he told me that...I know! I try to talk to him about herpes and he nonchalantly says, "so many people have it.... we are not even going to worry or look into it just because your pregnant." I felt like it just didn't matter to him that I was concerned because I thought maybe I had an o.b. He was quite rude. So, I'll be requesting a new dr. to see me from now on. He also said that most physicians don't care about what type you have because herpes is herpes and it doesn't matter where it is. Does anyone agree with this? I wish that I felt that way honestly, but even when I said I had it, the practitioner put on gloves...lol. So, I guess it's hard for me to ignore it because people are so freaked out about it. I have been recovering from my sickness and taking serious advantage of being pregnant and enjoying it:) In a few weeks I should know the sex of the baby. Are there any specific questions I should ask my new doctor regarding hsv and being pregnant? Everyone I've spoken to says I just shouldn't say anything and that confuses me because it just doesn't make sense not to tell my obgyn.

This is very interesting bc of the post I just put up...I am pregnant and might be having an ob but also what I didnt include bc well I didnt think much of it but my index finger and thumb became almost inflamed and felt like something was coming up but I pur some zync creme on it and i will continue to but I forgot how it could possibly spread and different symptoms sheeeeesh! I have some reading to do.

Hey everyone:) Hope everyone here enjoyed the holidays. I kept super busy with family and cleaning and babysitting and dealing with my ex and yadeeda...it has been a long few weeks. I distributed my pamphlets and I am working on more. I expected more of a positive vibe ( I have no idea why...lol) but every facillity I distributed them to looked at me like ughhh this chic has herpes? Most people looked puzzled and shocked. But HOPEFULLY they can learn something that can prevent or help them in some way.:) That was my Christmas gift to everyone. Herpes Awareness! But now the sad part starting off my New Year...I think I am having an outbreak. I had a bump then I checked it out and realized I had three bumps and honestly I thought maybe its an ingrown hair bc I wax and trim and shave..or whatever I keep it clean and neat but then they looked too big and were actually making "my flower" feel swollen. Everyone was completely sick during the holidays my niece was also taking accyclovir for an infection she had sooooO I may have caugt something and this crappy cold weather doesn't help with my allergies. I have been eating perfectly but I am scared bc of the baby. I have an appt. On the 16th should I make it sooner? I want to see if this is an outbreak...but I dont want to wait to find out. I think it is and it sucks. How can you treat this while being pregnant?

So, Christmas Break is here and I'm ready to distribute my pamphlets and I couldn't be more excited. I do need to revise and edit some because I decided to put my story in a short summary so people don't feel so alone if they do have it. Should I put a small picture of me??? I have my first appointment with my obgyn in morning, to get this baby checked out, so I am going to leave some in the lobby and with their receptionist to handout. It's really important that we get the message across that we are not alone and everything will be o.k. in time. My partner has stepped out of the picture unfortunately. He decided that he's not up to being a dad and I think the shock of having HSV has scared him away. I spoke with his mother and she says it's o.k. He'll come around and I'm like, ughhh, no...that's o.k. I found out that he had an outbreak similar to mine a couple years back but he left the hospital because he got so scared of what the doctors were going to tell him. So it's unfortunate that now seeing it in writing has completely terrified him. I told him that I understood and when he was ready to call, even though I'm pissed, I understand. And as far as me being pregnant, I'm not worried because I know I have my head on straight to to do what I need to do to prepare the little bundle of joy that's in the oven :) (keep fingers crossed for a boy ppl! if it's A girl, that's cool...BUT I WANT A BOY!!!:)) The only hard part about all this so far has been talking about it. I think the only time I ever get a positive answer or correct one, is on this site. Because there are so many misconceptions regarding HSV and it is complicating to a lot of people. There are a lot of things that I still don't understand or don't think there are answers to. It's not easy having these conversations with people face to face. But I'm really happy that we can share this experience with one another. I honestly don't know how I would have ended this year if it weren't for you guys....I'm weeping bc I just feel like I love all of you for being so Damn Nice! It's a beautiful thing. I hope everyone had a good day and has a goodnight:D

My partner and I have both tested positive for HSV2 so I am curious to know if we can have sex while I am pregnant or should this be avoided all together? We have had unprotected sex already but before I knew I was pregnant. We are both not sure if we can affect the baby this way so we are holding off on anything sexual, but I would like to know if we aren't having an OB can we still be intimate....using protection of course. And because we have already had unprotected sex while I was unsure if I was pregnant can a baby be affected by this early on. I have had no OB but I wasn't sure if I was having symptoms come up almost a week ago, but we are taking a step back to make sure for now....any comments on this? Remember my first appointment is in a few days so, I'll keep you guys posted but for all you moms out there were you intimate during your pregnancy?

I can't sleep. It's 3 A.M. and I am making a vow to myself to get on everyday and read some discussions and try to help anyway I can. I have been feeling a bit depressed. I think it started when I tried to talk to someone close to me about now being pregnant and they said, "oh well, you can't have a normal pregnancy...and you can't breast feed now or have a natural birth because you have herpes." The way they said it was so matter of fact. As if it were so impossible to have a Normal Pregnancy. And I've heard that from two people now. I am not going to lie, I hung up the phone and I cried. My sisters seem so worried about me being pregnant now. One of them keeps insisting that I file charges against my ex for "giving me herpes." I tell them that it is very hard to prosecute someone under those circumstances and even with that, I don't want to. How am I to know if he knew he had it and if he did, it wasn't like I was virgin before him...I could have it longer and was never tested for it. But, I think I got it from him. He was the only person I was with when this started coming up... I mean who knows at this point. What's the use in being hostile and wanting revenge. It feels like a pain in my chest and in my stomach and I worry about stress and how this will all play out. I want so badly to have a healthy baby. I don't like feeling like I'm hurting the baby in some way or being paranoid of a breakout. I don't like people being ignorant, but I have to contain my emotions because it's not their fault that they don't know the facts. Everyone wants to give their two cents and play doctor and say "Well, I researched it and you just can't have a normal pregnancy and you can definitely get the ball rolling on filing charges. It's not too late to get that S.O.B." Even if they "mean well." it sounds so impolite and it makes want to shake them and tell them to shut up because they don't know anything. I feel like I made a mistake and people just look so shocked or disgusted and want to say the first thing that flies out of their mouth without thinking how I feel. I press my hands against my stomach and apologize because these past two days, I just feel like I did something wrong. My family said well, you should have not been having sex without protection...and I think, what hypocrites. I know none have them have ever asked their partners about STD's or better yet, I know they have felt as if they loved and trusted someone completely and when that person hurts them they don't expect it...that is how I feel knowing I loved someone so deeply and I didn't want to let them go, but I now have this. And I have other examples, but why does it have to get to being so mean? And they are scared to get to tested for it. They can sit around and judge me without any mirror reflection of the things they won't acknowledge. It really makes me sad and I cry sometimes about it because I want them to know I love them, but they are hurting me. My sister even offered to buy my baby and said well, don't get attached to it just yet...she said she was joking bc she can't have kids, but I know she meant it as if it to say I screwed up bc I got herpes and who knows how I'll raise my child....I mean, wtf??? It made me feel like a bad person. I have learned to brush off their comments and not react, but when it comes to talking about me being pregnant and making decisions, HSV has to come up. I'm supposed to be happy and enjoying this and I am on my own, but with certain people there is just no getting around it. It makes me feel like crap and I don't want to cry or feel worked up...but I can't help but worry, what if I am doing something wrong? Do I seriously need to cut ties and think about what type of people I want in my life for the sake of my child now and for me? Am I going to want that negativity in our lives? Should I seriously, stop talking to my family? They are big decisions and they aren't ones that I want to make. It hurts. Is there ever too high of a price to deprive a child of a family because they don't except me having HSV? I think so. I don't want to do this.

I had not been tested at all for HSV 1 or 2 when I was in the hospital. That is why I was so confused as what I had because it was a visual diagnosis and they said because she has sores in her throat and my cut down there (they insisted it was a sore even though I knew it wasn't) the drs said she has both HSV 1 AND 2. But now that I have been tested, I came back positive for 2 NOT 1. So, that is why I question if I had strep. during that period of time because I assumed it was strep. But they did swab me for it and they said they never got accurate results. Either way I am glad it came up bc I would have never known, but I don't know what the sores were going down my throat...I was tested for mono, strep...cancer...everything but HSV. I went to Planned Parenthood to get tested for it and that's where I got my results. My OBGYN a new one, will test me again next week, but how rare is it for someone to be misdiagnosed? And can you get HSV2 In your mouth??? lol I thought it was oral or genitals only, but you can get hsv1 down there...I'm confused...please explain this to me. lol. But yes, I had no symptoms of it when I was in the hospital down there. It looked like mono. honestly or strep.