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It's been 6 months since my diagnosis and I have disclosed to only a total of 5 people all of which I have known my entire life. Soon my life changed after my diagnosis and I moved to a new country and city with entirely new and unknown people. I started university and realized that I had found true, kind and accepting friends here. And for the first time last night I felt that I could absolutely trust one of my dearest friends here. Sure we have only known each other a few months, but sometimes we can tell what kind of a person we have as a friend..... The topic of relationships had been discussed together many times and she knew I had broken up with my boyfriend before the move. She had always joked around about playing match maker and in my mind I knew I had my little secret that made dating a little harder for me. And in that moment I knew i really wanted to tell her and so I turned to my friends and said "I want to tell you something but I hope you're view of me doesn't change or affect us." She looked concerned at first but before I said anything she wanted to make sure I was okay. And I took a deep breath and told her out loud: " I have HSV2 , and I got it from my ex boyfriend" I was expecting the worst of course and was ultimately shocked when her reply was : " Thats all? To me that is nothing! I would never judge you on anything in your life, you're my friend and I will always care for you. I was worried you were going to tell me you were moving away or had a terminal illness" I honestly couldn't believe her reaction as if I told her something so simple like that I had a pimple on my chin or a gray hair. It made me so incredibly to happy to see that people can be so accepting and not even question you about why or how but that they still love you for who you are. Just wanted to share this wonderful moment with you guys :) Feeling fabulous today haha

Hello all!! When I was first diagnosed I was living in Canada at the same, where I was prescribed Valtrex 500mg twice a day for 3 days for any future outbreaks. This method has worked for me so far. Recently I have moved to Germany temporarily to study abroad. I went to visit an Obgyn for medication and future check ups while I am here for my stay. When we spoke about my condition the Obgyn informed me that in Germany no medication is given for future outbreaks OR supressive therapy. I was shocked to hear this because here I was, now used to being able to get my medication without any issues. He told me that for future outbreaks the only thing used, is Cream, because they won't perscribe medication, only for the first initial outbreak. He also told me that so many of the population is diagnosed with the Herpes symplex that it's so common and no social stigma is attached instead it's accepted. My question now is....How should I be feeling about this? I basically have no option for medication only cream. I don't know what to feel because I always read on this forum about the treatment options of medication and how it reduces the risk of transmission. I now feel like I can't give a future partner the chance to reduce their risk.

Hello all, 2 months ago I got herpes from my then boyfriend, I now know it is HSV1 officialy. My life besides herpes has been changing in amazing ways. I moved to a new city and am about to start university which I am truly excited about. I know with school comes meeting new people, parties, and friendship. And of course possibly dating... Despite my diagnosis I am still happy with my other life aspect and still someone who is always friendly and gets along with everyone. But my one fear is truly in dating. Already now I've been flirted with or approached but I feel myself putting up a wall of defense in fear of hurting others. My fear is of rejection from a potential new partner, and not feeling good enough for them. In some ways I still feel it's my own fault that I got HSV1, it's an emotional battle within myself. And until I can overcome that I am too afraid for any genuine connections. Are these feelings normal? This social stigma I feel towards my future love life. I came here to ask how I can let go of the rejection fear and just go for it.

As someone who has always put my trust into others, and be careful in many ways, I always use protection during intercourse but it seems I was not careful enough. My life has had its up and downs but I always try to look on the positive side of things. I was recently diagnosed with herpes and after my diagnosis I knew it could only be from one person. I have been with only one man in my life, so I knew immediately that my ex boyfriend had passed the virus on to me. At first I was not angry but surprised, because in the time of our 2 year relationship I had tested negative for everything and never showed any signs. Our relationship most recently came to a close, as we were growing apart and arguing more and more....After I told him about my symptoms he initially acted shocked but in a way disregarding my concerns. He would keep using phrases such as : "It's really not that bad" or " You're being dramatic about this", when in my heart I believe I had the right to feel upset. I asked him if he had ever known that he had the virus and at first he said no. I continued to ask him and eventually he confessed to me that he knowingly has had HSV1 for over 5 years and never thought it was "important enough" to tell me about it. And even confessed that the last time we were intimate he had a outbreak shortly before, but thought they're was no risk. After his confession I was extremely angry and truly heartbroken. It upsets me that someone who has HSV1 and who HAS the power to share their story with others and take the steps to protect future partners wouldn't use that power to be educated. I believed that putting your trust into someone means they would always tell you the truth.... I'm feeling ugly, undesirable and lied to. Why did this person not chose to be honest with me? As a carrier myself I know that I will always disclose to future partners, because it's something we will go through together as a couple..... I just wanted to turn to this forum to ask how I can past over this shame I feel inside? These self doubts that I am the one at fault for this happening. And I hope I don't come across too dramatic...but I just feel so utterly lost in all of this, that I am truly needing the help and support of others.