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I am fortunate to not have an outbreak often. This past week I noticed I was grumpy, and argumentative, which is out of my character, for no known reason. Then last night I noticed what appears to be an outbreak. Today I am very tired. Are changes in mood and energy associated with outbreaks or is this just a coincidence? I'm having trouble finding much info on this. Most is written about the initial outbreak.

I can't believe it, he wasn't even mad! I told him this past weekend. He said it's ok we all have something and we will just use precautions. If that's what I was worried about then not to. It's not a reason he would leave. Mind=blown

Trust me it gets better! First outbreak is the worse. Everyone is different. The best thing to do is calm and relax yourself. Stress brings out the virus and makes it worse. Education is key to put your mind at ease and to protect yourself. There are a lot of great videos Adrial has made that are very encouraging. 1 in 6 Americans have it and most don't know it or can pass it on without showing any symptoms. So how could you have known? My first outbreak came a year into my marriage and I had been faithful to him for 5 years at the time. He Never did get it. So that means I had the virus dormant for who knows how long! It has taken me a long time to not feel like God punished me or that I am dirty etc. The others can correct me if I'm wrong but I think it is the mother who passes it to her children. So I send you love and good energies. It will be ok. Hang in there buddy.

Ty. I'll look it all over and try to make sense of this. It's frustrating to find out what you thought you knew is wrong. I appreciate you all steering me in the right direction

Thanks for the tough love. I hate that I haven't seen him to tell him. We usually get together during weekend as only time our schedules line up. Don't want to say it on the phone. We were in public last time I saw him and that is also not a good idea. This weekend he is going out of town and I'm going home. I'm trying to pray and be patient. Advice is welcomed on how you say it to someone. Because saying, "I'm a dick." Doesn't sound right, even though it's how I feel. Do you just take a deep breath and say "I have hsv 1 the virus that causes cold sores and I should've told you before now and I'm so sorry I made a mistake. I understand if you don't want to talk to me anymore, but I really hope you do because I like you a lot." ?

ok. so I rarely have an ob. I would say that yes, my body has good control over this. It's more like an ugly reminder sometimes that hey you still have this. Doc said if I went on Valtrex or whatever med. It would guarantee I would never have an outbreak. Since I've been celibate, hadn't needed to worry about this. But I finally feel ready to date again and have worked hard on putting myself out there and met some guys I actually like so...now I need education. Thought I knew things, but realize there is a lot I still don't know.

MissLiz93, I didn't think you sounded like a floozy either. Be proud of yourself for being brave to tell someone new that you have H. Perhaps you just needed to feel love and acceptance while trying to cope with this news. That is totally understandable. Just remember love if you don't love and respect you no one else will. You aren't alone is wondering if you will find someone to accept you. I was married when I was diagnosed. Since getting divorced, I've had the same feelings. I have learned we all have some kind of baggage whatever it may be. The trick is to find someone's load you don't mind carrying. Keep your head up girl.

Since diagnosed in 2006, I can count on one hand how many times I've had outbreaks. The first one was horrible! This past one was barely noticeable had a ob/gyn confirm for me but it was gone few days later. There is no rhyme or reason to it that I know of. I used to think that maybe it is gone or I was misdiagnosed. That was wishful thinking on my part

This has just happened to me to. Almost a week ago. Caught up in a moment after being celibate for 3 years. It took me by surprise, as I was expecting to lead into it. I really like this guy and yep feeling guilty and worried that he won't talk to me again. Thank you for the "harsh" words. I needed to hear it as well. I started to get a false sense of hope. I have HSV 1 and was hearing some people say their doctor said they didn't have to say anything. But I think, what if this works out and we stay together and become serious. At some point, I will probably have an outbreak. You can't hide it forever from someone you are intimate with. Yes, I wish I knew how the heck I got it or from who. I wish I knew more about this before I got it. I wish I had the ability to make a choice. You are not alone bookworm. We make mistakes because we are human. All we can do is learn from them and not repeat our mistakes. We both must be brave and be adult. Good luck to you. Thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one.

Ok so can you explain further? Each time I have sex, there is a 1-4% chance I could pass it on? What if I use female condoms that cover the labia?

Diagnosed in 2006 HSV 1 after being married over a year. I'm since divorced and new to dating and revealing diagnosis is very hard. I'm in Cincinnati and would love to meet new people around here (Not originally from here). I'm happy to give and receive support.

Condoms are something like 98% effective right. So there is even 2% chance of failure regardless of Herpes.