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Adrial, Thanks for the speedy response. I will definitely check out the e-book. Just trying to cope with this condition the best way I can. I have my moments where I'm upset and then I have moments where I feel good. I'm sure we've all been in this situation. I don't know when I will feel comfortable with discussing this with a potential mate because I'm still trying to come to terms with me having it. Before finding out about this site, I didn't realize how many people were affected with HSV1 and HSV2. Thanks once again for the information.

Hello everyone, My question is, how do you address HSV2 to potential mates? Do you say "I am a carrier of HSV2 or do you say you have genital herpes?" Saying you are a carrier seems more easier for them to accept then saying I have genital herpes. I'm just trying to figure out how to address this conversation when I do feel comfortable with dating again and telling my potential mate.

@WCSDancer2010 Hello, thank you. I was tested June of this year. The first three months have been horrible and I'm starting to feel a little normal now. My periods are an issue and cause more tingling than normal. I've never had a true OB, thank God for that. My doctor performed my pap smear and didn't see any OBs but I still asked her for the test.

Hello, I am new to this site and wanted to share my story with the group. I started dating this guy August of last year and before him, I had been single for over a year and was content with that. Well the guy I started dating was someone I went to high school with so I said to myself I know him so this shouldn't be hard seeing if he is on my level since we are from the same home town. Well to make a long story short, we dated for a couple of months and I started asking him questions in regards to going to the doctor and having STD test and he stated that he didn't go to the doctor and he doesn't have any STDs. Well in October of last year, I started feeling funny after we were intimate and I asked him was there anything I needed to know and of course he stated no. I went to the doctor and told him I thought I had a yeast infection because I was feeling funny. They gave me an STD test and it came back negative for STDs but I had bacterial vaginosis. I was given antibiotics and it cleared up within a few days. So I told my boyfriend what the doctor stated I had and told him that he needed to go and get checked and get tested for everything. Of course he promised he would, but didn't. Months went by and I made him wear condoms but some nights he didn't and out of one of those nights, I feel that I caught this virus from him. We broke up in May of this year and when I started feeling funny again in June, I went back to the doctor to get tested for everything this time. A few weeks later, my results came back positive for HSV 2. I was devastated and I still am. I contacted him and told him, and of course he said I didn't get it from him and I was messing with other guys when we were in a relationship which wasn't true. He has moved on since then within a few weeks he started talking to another Woman and he isn't using protection with her either. I know I can't put all the blame on him because I felt something wasn't right with him when we were intimate. What I mean by that is, he would always say after intercourse to go and wash up and I would always ask why. I feel he knows something is wrong with him and he doesn't want to admit it and go and get checked because there were times where I wouldn't be intimate with him because I would check him down there and he would have scabs and I would ask what is that and he would say he didn't know or he cut himself shaving. It hurts me to my heart to know a person knows they have something wrong with them and they will continue to have unprotected sex with as many women as he possibly can. He would verbally abuse me and accuse me of dealing with other Men and that is the main reason I had to leave him alone, but to know that I've contracted this virus from him, is depressing. I have my days where I don't want to talk to anyone or deal with anyone. I feel no other Man will understand this situation or the virus and want a true relationship with me. It's even more devastating for me because I preach to my kids all the time to use protection at all times, and I didn't with him because I thought our relationship was truly stable and marriage was in our future. Also it bothers me how the doctor was so non nonchalant about the diagnosis, like it's normal. To me this situation isn't normal!! I wanted to sue him for this, but she told me that I couldn't prove that he gave it to me. I know in my heart it was him. Before him, I was receiving annual exams and STD test and everything was okay. She also stated I would be more humiliated than him having to relive the entire story again. So I decided to try and cope with it and not sue him. How do you move on and tell someone you are interested in getting to know that you have HSV2? It's truly embarrassing and I feel so dirty. I just wish I could go back to last August and have not even entertained this Man because now this is something I have to live with for the rest of my life. I have to start each and every relationship going forward having to share this situation with that person if I feel we may get serious and be intimate. This is truly depressing!! And to know you may be rejected, is even worse.

Ok, so I have never had an OB, but I continue to have tingling sensation on a daily basis. I am taking Valtrex daily, once a day 500MG as well as lysine when needed. I've changed my diet and everything. The only thing that truly helps is soaking in a hot tub of water with epsom salt. But after a while that wears off. My question is, how long will I continue to have daily issues, it's been since June when I received my positive results back for HSV2? Any suggestions, will be greatly appreciated.