curlyblue

@havefaith427 Well i understand your frustration, I felt in a similar position. But I guess its because I am already allowing myself to be embarrassed about it.

Hi All- I am new to this community forum and I wanted to join for multiple reasons but one of them is to see if people have similar experiences with the medical community as I have had. The most stark example came recently when I was at a dentist appointment. I didn't have time to fill out this very detailed medical history questionnaire so I took it back to the dental hygienist who just asked me the questions and filled it out quickly. I thought there was something strange about the number of detailed questions, I'm thinking how does this effect my teeth? Then she got to the question that took a second to register in my head "do you have any STDS?" "....uhh yes" For some reason I told the truth although later I wished I had lied. After that answer came a really awkward exchange where I felt really embarrassed and uncomfortable. I don't remember what made it start but it went something like this: Hygienist: Ohh ok Me: But its really not that bad... its not like HIV or anything (I said this because I was feeling my self imposed shame) Hygienist: Was it an accident, right? One time thing? M: Well I got it from my boyfriend...so... H: Oh and he didn't know? M: No I lied about it being an accident or that he didn't know. He actually did know, and maybe I was foolish but I sort of viewed it as inevitable that I would get it from him at some point. It was just something that had to come along with our love... (I feel this is foolish now). But the fact that the doctor asked these pointed questions made me feel like those were the only justifiable excuses for getting it...either it was an accident or I didn't know that the person I got it from had h. Well at this point in the conversation she didn't know what I had, A few minutes later I had to tell her specifically as she filled out the form online and then I commenced to pleading that the office never let my parents find the paperwork (I am in my 20s but share insurance with them still and don't want them to know). So... I left there feeling really uncomfortable and sort of angry that I was pressured into giving more details than I wanted about something so personal, and that I had to carry around her judgments about it. I feel she was being unprofessional and maybe she didn't realize what she was saying. Has anyone else encountered really unprofessional exchanges like this that make you super frustrated, embarrassed, etc?