Hello all. I'm new to this site. I'm just looking for some moral support. I was diagnosed back in February of this year and although I was very upset for the first few weeks, I've been dealing with the news fairly well. I'm lucky enough to have someone in my life that has experienced the same thing. However, she is happily married and I am single. So we have completely different lives. The man who gave this wonderful gift to me is not a man at all. He's a boy in the shell of a man. I know I sound bitter but I'm speaking the truth. We dated for some time and in that time he revealed to me that he was divorced with two kids. This didn't bother me. A few months later, he disappears. I get a call from his wife a week later. She reveals to me that he is not divorced, still currently married living with her and their two children in another state. He was living two lives. She also revealed to me he was herpes positive. I never heard from him again and a little while later I had my first outbreak. I've been lucky enough to not have another outbreak but I'm still living with it regardless. I have since attempted dating two different guys. During the disclosure with the first guy, he asked a few question and then decided he was ok with it. A week later, however, decided he was not and that was that. The second guy knew right off the bat he was not ok with it and we ended things right away.
Now, I am a health care professional and I know with all the facts and research I have done, being Herpes positive is not the worst thing in the world. And in reality, its just not that big of a deal. But, when I have had two guys in a row reject me for this imperfection that was out of my control, I seem to struggle. The emotions are harder to control and I feel like I'm backsliding. With that said, does anyone have any tips of how to cope with the feeling of rejection after a disclosure fail? Thank you!
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