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I'm a 38 year old female in Florida, USA. I'm open to buddies. I don't care the sex, age or location. I've only been diagnosed in the last couple of weeks so I'm not sure how much help I could be to someone at this point. Right now I'm in the pity party stage - like a bad country song - boyfriend left me, blah blah blah

First of all, shame on the NP. It's positive so you already know??? Maybe I'm just having a bad couple of weeks, but that comment just irritates me! I don't know much since I was just diagnosed a couple weeks ago, but I do know that a blood test is the best way to go. If a blood test comes back positive, that means you've had it for prob more than 3-4 months since it takes that amount of time to show positive on a blood test (my case). If you take a blood test and it's negative, take one again in a few months. A negative blood result may mean that your body hasn't built up enough antibodies to show a positive result. I would recommend a PCP instead of an urgent care clinic. If you are like me and do not have a PCP, go to a specialist. I ended up going to the OB/GYN, but I'm not sure if a Urologist would help you (I'm assuming you are a guy since your name is "Theo" - if I'm wrong, my apologies). Chin up - we are always here. I've spent hours on here getting support from comments made to my posts or just by reading what others have posted. Feel free to message me on here if you are looking for a buddy. Not that it matters, but I'm a 38 year old female from Florida, USA - I only put it out there b/c it seems to matter to some when they are looking for a buddy.

I'm a 38 year old female in Florida, USA and have only been diagnosed a couple weeks ago. I'm still struggling with a lot - the diagnosis, the knowing that I will never really know when or who I got this from, and the fact that I've probably lost my boyfriend over this. So, I don't know how much help I can really be, however, I would love a buddy. I found out that I have both HSV1 and HSV2 (i mean, why not be the TOTAL life of the party, right? hahaha *sigh*) So now I too have a bunch of questions that I didn't have before. I'm just so exhausted emotionally right now that I haven't gone back out to re-research anything. Plus it's kind of overwhelming. You can always message me on here - I am on this site a lot lately.

So, tonight will be the final decider. I get the whole thinking thing, but to ignore me after telling me he would be there for me - idk - something has changed literally from one day to the next. But, since he won't respond to me, I have no idea what that could be. The last time we have actually communicated was this past Friday. And at this point, I don't even think it's the herpes that is the issue. I think it's more now that he is using this situation as an excuse to get rid of me. Hell, IDK anymore. One day it's "I love you babe. We can get through anything as long as we have each other" to NOTHING. So, I will attempt to call him tonight to talk. If he refuses my call then I'm done. I'm tired of crying - it's exhausting.

Unfortunately you cannot change his mind - so no point in making yourself crazy trying. Just send him the facts and maybe a link to get information about it. Don't accuse him, he may have given it to you and may not have known. So, he's getting a whammy too. Not that I agree with his response. Who knows what is going through his mind. It sucks, I know. I found out just over a week ago. I was dating a guy for a month. I started to have what I thought was a UTI, but after a few days of the meds for that not helping, I went back in and had a visual confirmation of herpes. Then the following week the blood results confirmed it, and that I've had it for a while. I told my boyfriend when I first found out - and I told him when I got the blood test results. At first he was supportive and said we would get through it together. But then he changed his tone and he's been "thinking" ever since. People handle situations differently for different reasons. So, I know what it feels like to find out you have this and then also find out you probably gave it to someone else without knowing. He may be dealing with that - or, he could just be a jerk! hhahahaha point is, you won't know for sure so no point wasting time on it. P.S. Now if I could only take my own advice ... hahaha

You guys are great!!! Thank you :-)

Thanks hahahaha I totally agree. I told him he's acting like a f'ing child and choosing to be miserable. He had someone who loves him but he pushed me away. Your partner is there to make life easier to deal with, not create a whole new problem. I haven't even been focusing on me having herpes because I've been all wrapped up in him!! No more!! Hahahaha urg sonofabitch!! Hahahaha

Thank you. He says he's not mad at me, he's just tired of life f'ing him over. Um, OK - like I don't feel the same??? I don't know WHO I got it from or WHEN!!! He doesn't even know if he has it! OMG! So Frustrating!!!

I had it before him. We've been together a month - I had an outbreak about a week ago and my blood test came back positive so I've had it for a while. He has yet to go to the doctor, so who knows his status really. I'm so over this.

OK - thank you for that. She told me she did put in for refills in case I need them. As far as sex that is a negative. My boyfriend is not responding to me so I'm pretty sure that relationship is over. And I feel like I never want to have sex again right now anyway, so ....

I was diagnosed a week ago today. My OB probably started right before that. I thought I had a UTI - they had me pee in a cup, saw bacteria and blood, figured it was a UTI and gave me antibiotics. That was last Wednesday. Then last Friday I went back b/c "something wasn't right" still. So, boom - there ya go. I've been on the meds now for 6 days, 400mg Acyclovir 3 times/day. It's a 10 day script with enough to last another 5 days. I guess I don't know when to really stop taking them. Obviously not before the 10 days, but how do I know it's really gone and I don't need to keep taking for the additional time? I mean, it doesn't hurt like it did. It was so bad that I couldn't even wipe after urinating, I had to pat myself dry. Now, I can just wipe with no problem. But, I think there is still one spot ... hell, IDK!!! Idk if it's in my mind or what! My OB/GYN told me I have it on my right labia and my cervix. When I thought I had a UTI I was checking myself and I didn't see anything on my labia - and I certainly cannot see my cervix. So how do I know for sure it's all clear and I can stop the meds? I spoke with the doc yesterday - she actually told me I have both HSV-1 and HSV-2. Awesome. I told her I've been reading up on this and asked her if she felt I should take the meds daily to help suppress another OB. Her recommendation was to see how my body handled it. If I have more than 6 OB's/year, then maybe think about a daily medication. I don't want to have 6 OB's a year!!!!!! What are your thoughts on this?

Thank you. I can't stop crying about this. Last two hours so far. I'm more worried about him than about myself! Last thing I told him was the link to this site. I hope he decides to at least go online and research this. I thought I knew about herpes, but I've learned so much in the last week. Turns out I was wrong about a lot of things - I'm just hoping he sees the same. All I can really do now is wait I guess. Thank you for the support

I found out last Friday that I have herpes - it was confirmed via blood test just yesterday that I have HSV2 and have apparently had it for a while (since the test came back positive). Initially my boyfriend was super supportive. Now, he won't even talk to me. If he has finally gone to the doctor, it's only been in the last day or two, so I know he doesn't have any kind of blood test results yet. I'm trying to figure out what has changed since this weekend to make him change from being supportive and telling me that everything will be ok, that we can get through anything together, to not wanting to talk to me. The only thing I can think is that he is possibly having an OB right now and is freaking out a bit. But again, IDK b/c he's not communicating with me. I'm so heartbroken. He's the best thing that has happened to me and I feel like I've lost him. I feel so guilty thinking that I could have passed this onto him. But I didn't know I had it!! He just is telling me he needs time to think. I know I need to give him time, but I'm such a mess! Not only am I having to deal with this diagnosis on my own (since I promised him I wouldn't talk to any of my friends about this) but now I've got to deal with the possibility of passing this onto him AND him leaving me because of it. Heartbroken doesn't even come close to describing how I feel right now.

Thank you Yadira - I appreciate it :-)

I've just been diagnosed with genital herpes. This is based on a visual done by my OB/GYN; I'm waiting for the results from my blood come back, but she was pretty sure it's HSV-2. My boyfriend is going to get tested, however, for the scenario I have questions about, lets assume he tests negative and oral sex is done while I do not have an OB. - can he still give me oral sex as long as I am not having an outbreak? would he then be at risk to get herpes on his mouth? and then what if he kisses me after - will there then be the chance that I will get it on my mouth? - what if i give him oral sex after we have regular sex? am I then at risk of getting herpes on my mouth? And I guess the scenario of him testing positive and the above situations taking place while neither of us are having an OB? There are so many questions!