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I am new to this whole thing and am still trying to figure out if I should continue taking Valtrex daily. A friend of mine recommended Lysine, as it is a natural approach to suppressing any outbreaks. Any thoughts anyone?

I take Valtrex daily to suppress it, and I suppose it has worked well. Not sure completely, as I am new to this whole thing. The best thing I have found, which I don't know if others have tried, is tea tree oil. Don't buy the cheap stuff at walmart/walgreens that comes as an oil, but rather you should try and find the balm. The most effective one I have found thus far is from vitamin shop. Once I look down south using a mirror and see sores, I put the balm directly on it around five times a day with a Qtip. (I do this at work, because you're right, the pain is unbearable and I cannot last an eight hour day where I'm constantly standing)It works wonders for me! My sores last less than three days, and the pain instantly subsides. Again, there is no doctor suggestion for this, this is something I read about online and tried, and it works for me but might not be for everyone. I hope this helps :( And I'm sorry things are going so rough for you.. It's hard for me also to control stress knowing that the more I stress about stressing, I will have an outbreak. It's a never ending circle, but the right treatment has helped me. Again, taking Valtrex daily and the tea tree oil might be the best solution. Have a happy holidays! And cheer up sweetheart, things get better.

@ivoryrain @Fairisle Thank you both for your kind words. I shed many tears reading them both.. and am trying to believe that Charming is somewhere out there and can accept me as I am. I wish you both a happy holiday! And despite my current emotional state, should either of you need someone to talk to I'm a great listener. Thank you for taking the time to read my story and offer your support. I'm very grateful :)

@dreamingofsomeone167 Thank you for the advice. In time I do plan to move forward with myself, and leave him behind me. Have a happy holidays! Thank you for your loving words and the time you took to read my story. I know one day I will have that courage and strength to progress in my life.

@WCSDancer2010 Let me clarify, I went to the gyno and told them I didn't know what was happening, and was pretty sure I should go to the ER because I couldn't urinate, the inflammation was so terrible. The doctor looked at it and told me it was definitely herpes, after that she gave me swab test and I was called with the results that I have positive. Let me repeat that.... a phone call to tell me I have herpes. Very sensitive of the doctors office... Regardless, I try to justify in my head that it wasn't rape. I try to think maybe he thought I was joking... despite may attempts to push him off of me (which was useless, I'm 110 pounds and he's 250 pounds). That night was so traumatic to me it's now a blur. No one knows about it. My closet friends know I am H positive, but think that he merely had it and gave it to me. They don't know what he did to me. Thank you for all of the support. And @stars468 as well. It means everything to me when others tell me I can do better and to move on. By the way Stars, to say our relationship was exactly the same is an understatement. Both messed up men, that ultimately take complete advantage of younger women. With more therapy and time I will have the strength I hope. Thank you again ladies :) I wish you both well, and a happy holidays!

It was last February when I had lost 40 pounds, gained a ton of self confidence after leaving my ex of two years (a relationship that inevitably was going no where), and went back into the dating scene. After joining an online dating website, I found a match of a man a lot older than myself, that was incredibly handsome. With my new found confidence I met with him later that week and was head over heels. Great looking, confident, intelligent, charming, and a complete gentlemen. Despite the 11 year age difference, myself being 22 and him being 33, we were able to hold conversations for hours with no awkwardness. A couple months passed and things started to get more serious. We were seeing each other every night, basically living with one another, and talking about our future together. Being so naive, I saw that a possibility, despite from the beginning him telling me he doesn't want a marriage, nor did he want children (both things that I do want in the long run). I didn't see this as a deal breaker, as I'm in school and have other priorities right now. Despite our differences, I wanted my family and friends to meet this mystery man and see first hand how amazing he is. Needless to say, no one was happy. My best friend of years told me I'm blind to the fact of how controlling he is of me. (I have an incredibly strong personality, wanting to be a lawyer, and liked the fact that he wouldn't let me walk all over him.) My mother told me to be careful, as he suffers from PTSD after being in the military and has a habit of drinking his sorrows away every night. Despite their advice, I didn't listen. I continued to be in a relationship with him. I was blind to what obviously was a very toxic relationship, and a man that ultimately is too old and too cynical for me. Things started to talk a turn about four months into the relationship. His controlling ways in the bedroom became unbearable. Things had to be his way, and anything sexual with him started to become revolting to me. This one night I was laying in bed with him completely exhausted. I looked over and knew he wanted to make love, despite my lack of desire. Against my will, he thrust himself into me. Pounding on top of me despite my crying pain. I woke up and couldn't walk. My body in immense pain. My emotions all over the place after realizing he had literally raped me. I tried urinating and had a burning sensation I had never felt before. Everything was inflamed. I tried three days of drinking tons of liquid. It became unbearable after going out in the beach one morning. I tried going to the bathroom and could no longer urinate. That same day I went to the gynecologist. She looked at my "area" for not even five seconds and told me I was having a herpes outbreak. I couldn't breath. What I thought was another UTI or yeast infection was an STD. An STD from someone I thought had loved me, and wouldn't give that to me. I went into shock. My mind wandered... did he know he had it? Have I been played? Was this some sort of sick joke to him? To this day I cannot accept the fact that I have this sickness. I am still with this same partner because of the fact that I cannot even fathom disclosing having herpes to any future potential partners. I learned my lesson the hard of way of having unprotected sex, and just believing a partner when they tell you they are "clean". Everyday is a constant struggle. I was diagnosed only six months ago. I have these crazy mood swings with my partner because he is in complete denial of the possibility of even giving me herpes. I hope in time things will become easier, I gain the strength to leave him, and find someone that can love me for me, and not have herpes ruin my chances of finding my Prince Charming. I suppose the moral of my story is that everyone needs to be careful when having intercourse with another, especially unprotected. I've read great stories on here that have given me hope that I can be loved despite what has unfortunately happened to me. I have to believe I will be okay.

It was last February when I had lost 40 pounds, gained a ton of self confidence after leaving my ex of two years (a relationship that inevitably was going no where), and went back into the dating scene. After joining an online dating website, I found a match of a man a lot older than myself, that was incredibly handsome. With my new found confidence I met with him later that week and was head over heels. Great looking, confident, intelligent, charming, and a complete gentlemen. Despite the 11 year age difference, myself being 22 and him being 33, we were able to hold conversations for hours with no awkwardness. A couple months passed and things started to get more serious. We were seeing each other every night, basically living with one another, and talking about our future together. Being so naive, I saw that a possibility, despite from the beginning him telling me he doesn't want a marriage, nor did he want children (both things that I do want in the long run). I didn't see this as a deal breaker, as I'm in school and have other priorities right now. Despite our differences, I wanted my family and friends to meet this mystery man and see first hand how amazing he is. Needless to say, no one was happy. My best friend of years told me I'm blind to the fact of how controlling he is of me. (I have an incredibly strong personality, wanting to be a lawyer, and liked the fact that he wouldn't let me walk all over him.) My mother told me to be careful, as he suffers from PTSD after being in the military and has a habit of drinking his sorrows away every night. Despite their advice, I didn't listen. I continued to be in a relationship with him. I was blind to what obviously was a very toxic relationship, and a man that ultimately is too old and too cynical for me. Things started to talk a turn about four months into the relationship. His controlling ways in the bedroom became unbearable. Things had to be his way, and anything sexual with him started to become revolting to me. This one night I was laying in bed with him completely exhausted. I looked over and knew he wanted to make love, despite my lack of desire. Against my will, he thrust himself into me. Pounding on top of me despite my crying pain. I woke up and couldn't walk. My body in immense pain. My emotions all over the place after realizing he had literally raped me. I tried urinating and had a burning sensation I had never felt before. Everything was inflamed. I tried three days of drinking tons of liquid. It became unbearable after going out in the beach one morning. I tried going to the bathroom and could no longer urinate. That same day I went to the gynecologist. She looked at my "area" for not even five seconds and told me I was having a herpes outbreak. I couldn't breath. What I thought was another UTI or yeast infection was an STD. An STD from someone I thought had loved me, and wouldn't give that to me. I went into shock. My mind wandered... did he know he had it? Have I been played? Was this some sort of sick joke to him? To this day I cannot accept the fact that I have this sickness. I am still with this same partner because of the fact that I cannot even fathom disclosing having herpes to any future potential partners. I learned my lesson the hard of way of having unprotected sex, and just believing a partner when they tell you they are "clean". Everyday is a constant struggle. I was diagnosed only six months ago. I have these crazy mood swings with my partner because he is in complete denial of the possibility of even giving me herpes. I hope in time things will become easier, I gain the strength to leave him, and find someone that can love me for me, and not have herpes ruin my chances of finding my Prince Charming. I suppose the moral of my story is that everyone needs to be careful when having intercourse with another, especially unprotected. I've read great stories on here that have given me hope that I can be loved despite what has unfortunately happened to me. I have to believe I will be okay.

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I'm still trying to cope with having herpes and not knowing who gave it to me. Despite what he believes, I'm pretty positive my current partner gave it to me. It has both ruined our relationship yet made our bond unbreakable. Not sure what to do at this point, the relationship is failing, and as a result of herpes our sex life is horrid now. He doesn't look at me the same. Doesn't want me like he did before. And vice versa, I look at him like he's scum for giving me herpes. I suppose the question to ask is it easier to be with someone that has herpes also? I feel like that's the only way I can receive the emotional support and love I need.

I currently take Valtrex daily. Taking valtrex reduces your risk for breakouts, and in no way affects your partner. Continue to use condoms to reduce your risk for anything he might have, and vice versa. I do recommend valtrex, despite what a pain it is to take everyday, I take it and have had fewer breakouts because of it. Hope this helps :) good luck.

Putting a dab of tea tree oil on my sores multiple times a day works wonders. I went from an outbreak lasting me a week to literally two days. Use a q tip when applying. I have found the best oil to come from whole foods or vitamin shop.