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  1. Ok, a quick update. The guy said no. I didn't take it too badly to my own surprise. This is a good filter that weeded out someone who is looking for a perfect woman. We are imperfect that's why we are really and cute in some way. :) Again, I wouldn't want it in any other way. This is good to end the relationship early before I fall in love. Take care, y'all.
  2. I just disclosed my HSV2 status to the person I've been seeing for a month. I know it sounds short. But we feel both are future partner materials. Besides, I feel the next stage will be exclusivity. It would be unfair to lead him into exclusivity if he isn't aware of my H status. So on Friday, I disclosed to him after an intimate movie date. We both had deeper discussion during the movie date even including sex talk. Because what I believe, I told him no sex until commitment of love for the very least. He agreed. And this makes me feel safe to disclose at the end of the date night when we were walking along lakeshore. He took it well, thinking it's not a bit deal. But since the talk, he's been radio silence for about 48-hours. We decide to talk over the phone on Monday. Regardless his decision or preference, I still think he's a good person that I connect emotionally, mentally and spiritually. If the answer is not together, I'm ok. If it is together, I would feel it is the plan all along. Either way, I'm content. Should I wait for another month? Maybe. But I would always hear this voice in the back of my mind that I should disclose sooner than later. Now it's out, regardless his thinking/consideration results, I believe it is only good for me, for us both. I wouldn't want his love with any hesitation, hold-back. I believe he thinks the same as well. If the love is strong, we would overcome this and be connected completely with sincerity. Dear H forum friends, pray with me for a good outcome. I know it will. Even if he says no, I know I could move on to find the right person for me, for us both. Wouldn't you agree?
  3. Hi, I just disclosed to him who I viewed as future partner potential. Need a supportive buddy to help me thru this period as he is thinking thru this matter. Please let me know if you could be there listening to my uncertainty. Thank you.
  4. Marii, great encouraging words and I'm so happy for you. May I ask how long you two have been together? And when and what point you feel comfortable and must to tell your boyfriend? Thank you.
  5. Shannon, great article and beautiful insights of your tenderheart. As a fellow Christian, I'm going through the same phases, feeling God is punishing me for my wrong choice. It is difficult to tell my friends (I didn't even mention to my parents yet because of strict upbring), let alone someone wishes to have a relationship with me. I do feel I'm a damaged goods. Though pushing myself to do different things to fill time with going back to school, helping friends, churches, I still have deep fear to tell someone close. My last relationship ended because of this. Now there is this great person, but I just want to turn him down, be detached or indifferent. We're all looking for great love, happiness. With divorce rate as it is nowadays, what's the road ahead? What should I do? Be strong all the time is challenging. I try to draw it from scripture but everytime tears instead. What to do??
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