Psyguy

I really appreciate both of working this through with me. I didn't know how common it was, my doctor said it was around 20%. I want to be positive like you @Sil88 and I don't want to throw a good relationship away. I just need time to work through the anger, like you said @inka. I'm hoping time and space will make me more rational. It does seem like there is no blame here but human are always looking to assign blame to help the rationalization. I just need to work it through. I'll definitely work on removing stress, I hear that a change in debt can help too. I don't want these all over again any time soon. Thanks again.

I definitely see your point. But how do I get past that she didn't tell me she had herpes? We even talked about stds at the beginning of our relationship and both said we didn't have any. I'm finding it hard to forgive that she didn't tell me.

Hello. I am a 23 year old male working on my undergraduate degree. I'm really glad this resource exists. I woke up Wednesday with sores all over my genitals. My partner of 8 months had told me at the beginning of our relationship that she was std free, so I wasn't worried but went to the ER. I turns out that I have hsv1. Completely confused, shocked, and deeply in pain don't begin to describe how I was feeling. Even walking is difficult. My doctor told me it would clear up in 10 to 14 days and that "h" is very manageable. Is this true? I want to believe him but I'm in so much pain. Regarding my partner, it turns out she has oral herpes and never told me. She didn't think it could transmit from the mouth to the genitals. I was livid. How could she not tell me? How did she not have a conversation with me? And how could she jot know she could transmit it? It would have been different if she told me and I had been able to make a choice. I love her but I don't know if I have it in Mr to forgive. She has apologized profusely, but also told me my anger is misplaced and unfair. Is it unfair to expect an open conversation about her condition before engaging with her? Maybe it is, I don't know. She keeps telling me she was 18 when she was diagnosed and was too afraid to find out more information about her disease. I find her handling of her disease to be negligent and now I'm paying the price. I don't know how to handle this new disease, and I don't I now what to do about my relationship. Any and all help from people who understand would be greatly appreciated. I need help.