Marie14

Anyone know if it is possible to donate eggs with hsv2?

Do yiu know how long it can be used for?

Hey there. I have been taking Valtrex for over a year now because I was getting frequent outbreaks. They have started to subside, however the guy I have been seeing does not have the virus and I would like to keep it that way. My doctor says that Valtrex is perfectly safe for long term use. I was wondering what people's thoughts were on this. The only thing I can find is it may be bad for your kidneys. I would like to keep taking it to prevent him from getting the virus.

I have symptoms that last a month and then some that last two days ... sometimes is sores, others its just a rash. I have been taking Antivirals since I was diagnosed since last October ... I just hope that it will eventually subside and get better. :( I feel your pain. I would get on antivirals.

I love your take on this! This is an article I read when I was first diagnosed and I loved it. http://thoughtcatalog.com/michelle-schaffer/2012/09/i-have-herpes-and-its-not-the-end-of-the-world/

That is very impossible for me to do at the moment. Stress is crazy right now. I have found that stress plays a huge part. So frustrating. lol

@NothingGoodGetsAway ... I agree that educating people is our best fight against the stigma. And I too have found that many people don't care at all. Keep it up! @Salex ... It is a huge weight that was lifted when I started talking about it conversationally. I also think that having a sense of humor about it helps too. Life is too short to live in fear or hold back because of some dumb cold sores. Own it! You will feel much better, and the good people in your life will stick by you! So I am sure everyone will. I hope you can get to the point of being open and honest when you feel comfortable keeping it in eats you. @justagirl72 Herpes will always be a joke, we will never change that. The best thing we can do is educate others and be comfortable enough to say, "It's just a dumb coldsore, the funny thing is how scared people are!" Big babies. That guy is missing out on some pretty awesome girls ... but hey everyone has deal breakers. I have male friends who won't date women with kids. I personally won't date anyone who smokes (no offense to the smokers out there). Deal breakers are everywhere and that's his, and that is A okay. Don't let it get you down. There is nothing to be ashamed of. You didn't do anything wrong. You are the same person. It complicates things, and yes it does suck but there are WAY worse things out there. Once you start opening up to people I think it will be easier for you to open up even more. I actually started with Tinder, I experimented with how to tell people and most people were pretty cool about it. Probably not the best way to do it ... but its not like a know these people. lol. Just start small. Tell people you trust and who love you. You are going to feel much better. Be expected to get some ignorant responses (My mom ... god love her ... was convinced you could get it from the toilet seat). Take it at your own comfort level ... but talk to people because you will feel way better, I did. @WCSDancer2010 ... Are you aware of the people coming out on youtube? It is pretty amazing I was thinking about starting my own channel. If more people started talking about their experience I think eventually it is going to take a toll on the stigma.

@girlnamedhope I so feel your pain. I am hoping that as time does on they will get less and less. Do you have any products that you swear by?

I am on Valtrex and I get the outbreaks pretty regularly.

Anytime. I hope they help. :)

I had a similar situation when I was diagnosed. I started seeing a guy, and two weeks after we had sex I ended up with HSV2. Now I had been tested a few months prior, and I had only two sexual partners after that time. I spoke to the other guy (a great friend of mine, someone I had sex with first), and he told me that he had been tested a few months ago as well. So that left me with one option, the man I was currently seeing. I was soo nervous because I thought he didn't know that he had this. That I would be breaking the news to him like my doctor did to me, and he would be devastated. That didn't happen. He knew that he had the virus, and he chose not to disclose. I say this because anything is possible. I wouldn't assume she knows, but maybe she does. In his case the VA gave him some very terrible information on the virus, so he thought he could only spread it during an outbreak. The conversation is hard. Very hard. But the faster you rip the bandaid off the better. :) I would just tell her you have something to discuss and tell her you just got diagnosed. The more honest, and upfront you are the better. If she doesn't have it she will appreciate that. Best of luck. You will be just fine.

My other question is has anyone found that destin works? I ride horses for a living, and I need to try some new things to keep my butt in the saddle during OBs.

I love this. Thank you for sharing, you seem like an amazing and beautiful person!

I take lysine and antivirals, and I still get outbreaks. :) I would say it can't hurt.

So I posted a little while ago about my first disclosure and that it went well. Now I am here to say I have told a bunch more people. Either guys who are hitting on me, or just friends. I haven't gotten to the point of posting it to Facebook (although I feel like that time will come), but I feel way better. Some people were a little freaked out, some men said they would never date anyone with herpes. Some people asked questions, and some guys were totally cool with it. I feel better knowing that I am able to do this. I am not saying I want herpes, no one does, but it is here to stay, so I have to be okay with it. My way of being okay with this is to tell people I have it. It takes the burden off of me. It is a hard thing to do. You are putting yourself out there for people to judge you on something you cannot control. I feel like if they are good people they will understand that brave thing that you just did ... if they don't then they aren't of high morals to begin with and who cares what they think. All I know is the more I talk about it the easier it is to talk about, and the better I feel. So what ... I have herpes.

I was wondering if any ladies out there have outbreaks seemingly at the same time every month. Mine last a while ... a little over a week. I am on birth control, I am not sure if it may have something to so with that or my cycle in general?

Thank you guys so much for the support. Everything with H seems to be a process or rather a journey. Now that I have disclosed I am working on not worrying about giving him the virus, it has been stressful, even though I know he decided to take the risk. I get mild outbreaks and I am nervous I won't know I am having one. I have voiced my concern to him because I think that open communication is the only way to accept the virus and deal with it in a healthy way. He seems to understand. I found out what an amazing guy he because of the virus and I trust him. H let me see someone for who they are and what they are capable of. Now if I can just get my pesky outbreaks under control I'd be all set. :) I did have a question ... I was taking acyclovir and my dr. changed me to valacyclovir and it seems every since then my outbreaks have been more frequent and they take longer to heal. I was wondering if anyone has seen this happen. My dr. says its probably just a coincidence, but it seems like it happened within a few days of switching over and it has been like this for about two months now. Just looking for insight if anyone has used both antivirals. Thanks. :)

This made my day. Thank you. :)

I was recently diagnosed with HSV2 less than a year ago, and unfortunately I attempted to stay with the man who gave it to me because I was nervous to see how this would affect my dating life. Well that relationship ended and I decided the only way I was going to be able to accept this part of me was to get back to my normal life. I joined dating websites, and I went on a few dates. I thought I could experiment with people's reactions when I told them, but I never made it to that point. None of the guys caught my interest, and I was at least relieved I was getting back out there. Then I met this guy. He was friends with a few friends of mine, and we had gone to high school together. We started hanging out, and I was very aware that I had herpes. I tried to take it slow, but things kept progressing faster than I had anticipated. I knew I had to tell him. I thought about just never talking to him again ... telling him I wasn't interested. I was worried that he would tell people. I had the conversation probably just shy of 200 times in my head. Then we got to a point where it was now or never so I told him to take a seat and I just told him. Maybe it was thinking about telling him for a few weeks that made me realize some important things about myself. I have herpes. I will always have herpes, and that's okay. Anyone who wants to be with me will also have to think that it is okay, and if they don't that's okay too. If they don't want to deal with it ... I won't die. Nothing bad will happen to me. I walk away a little upset about the fact, and then I move on. Rejection is not the end of the world. Not trying and being terrified over something that you cannot control is a lot worse in my eyes. I was shocked that when I told him I was calm. I didn't cry. I didn't stammer out all the statistics. I asked if he wanted to know about the virus and I told him that there will always be a risk. Now I knew I had found a decent guy before I disclosed, but after I knew that he was nothing short of awesome. He asked questions, he stayed calm and he reassured me that he was still interested. I am glad I was able to tell him, that I didn't back out like I wanted to. In doing so I realized that the more comfortable I get with having the virus, the more I accept that this is just a part of my life, the less scared I am of disclosing. I am sure it will never be an experience I look forward to, but the thought of it no longer terrifies me.

I have been taking it since October, and I have had zero side affects. :)

I have been thinking about joining the army guard or air guard for a while now and right before my diagnosis I was dead set on it. Now I am not sure if I will be able to. I am kind of nervous/ashamed to tell my recruiter. I am unsure of what to do. Can I join with HSV2? Should I disclose to my recruiter?

I was wondering if anyone had this? What are the symptoms? When I was first diagnosed I had a few small bumps under one of my eyes and it was there for while. It went away, now that eye and my other one are red and itchy. It feels like there is pressure behind them as well. I don't know if this is similar to anyone else ... it came back with my other symptoms.

OMG ... thank you. I was really upset about this tonight.

Hey guys ... I talked with a doctor today and she told me is very possible to get HSV2 orally and that the outbreaks are usually pretty bad. When researching it I cannot come up with any solid data, and everything points to the fact that it is rare to occur. I was wondering what people think about this. On another point ... if I have this how safe is oral sex? What can I tell my partners ... I have read the information here, but I am confused because of what my Dr. told me today.

I am really glad this post came up because every time I have sex I get an outbreak so far. It is the only thing that gets me down about this. I don't know how to prevent it or how to make it better or less likely.