trina722

I am 19 years old and have had herpes for about a year. I have had many partners since my diagnosis.. But never told any of them about it. For the first time in my life, I am ready to settle down and actually be in a relationship. My best friend brother is 17 years old and a virgin and I'd never seen him any other way than as a little brother but that began to change. After 3 months of gettin to know each other and going as far as we could sexually i decided it was time to tell him. So i did. The conversation went so differently in my head but either way i got the outcome that i had hoped. I've read almost every success story on this site becuase I needed all the encouragement i can get but I never really thought it would happen to me. The conversation went like this: "There's two things i want to talk to you about. I'll tell you the not so good news first. I love the way our relationship is going and i think that its great how honest we are with each other and i want to give you the choice that i never got. About a year ago i was ... (Started to choke up here) diagnosed with herpes." I continued to give him more details about the strand that I have and the odds and risks there are of sexual intercourse. (Thank god for this site that made this part so easy) i told him i could show her videos that could give him more details which he agreed to immediatley. At this point he had not said one word. He then said " what was the good news?" I said "im ready to take our relationship to the next level if this is something that your able to deal with" He didnt say anything, and then we watched the video of herpes basics with Adriel (THANK YOU!) After the video he said "so what are my options" And i said "you either take me with it, or you dont get me at all" he leaned over and said "then i take you" and kissed me. This conversation could have gone smoother, i could have said things and explained things so much better and i could have done a better job of containing my emotions but still i think it was perfect. I could not ask for a more understanding and supportive firs to boyfriend. I want to thank everyone in this site for the encouragement! But mostly, I want everyone to know that its so possible to have a happy ending to that very difficult conversation. Xoxo, Trina

oh... well not the best news but not the end of the world either. Thanks @willow!

I've had hsv1 for over a year and just found this site recently because i was googling ways to discourse to this guy i'm seeing. Finding this site has been a blessing because though i'm not necessarily excited to tell him i feel so much more ready and willing! Just wanted to share that im feeling the same way!

I was diagnosed with H because I went to a clinic with my first outbreak. I was told to get blood tested after a year of my diagnosis but never did it. I read in other posts that there is a possibility of false positives but i'm wondering if the swab test they did on my infected area during my outbreak can also have a chance of false positive?

Hi! I just wanted to let you know that your letter has inspired me to disclose to the guy I am seeing, instead of backing out! That letter is beautifully written. I hope everything goes well. Good luck! xoxo

I'm sorry if this is a stupid question but I have HSV1 (oral herpes right?) on my genitals... what does this mean exactly? does it change anything?

Hi everyone, I was diagnosed with genital herpes when I was 18 years old. I have had it for over a year now and have had many many many partners since then, none of which i disclosed my secret to. I know this is wrong and its not something i am proud of. I have never been in a relationship and am so ready to be settle down and be in something meaningful. I know the only way to do that is to come clean to the guy that I am currently seeing (surprisingly we haven't had sex yet) but being terrified doesn't even come near what i'm feeling. I will eventually need advice on how to come about this conversation(to tell a virgin male that i'm disgusting),but right now I am looking for someone to tell me how I can love and respect myself again. I know that my sleeping around in the past is because i have no respect for myself and would never expect anyone to respect me if they knew the truth, so i kept it simple and didn't say anything and caught no feelings so i felt no obligation to say anything. again, i know this is wrong. I feel like i am rambling but i am just so angry at myself and at my situation. I hate this, and i hate myself for putting myself in this predicament. I just don't know what my next step is.