burnbrighter

I was just curious if any woman who’s been diagnosed has experienced vaginal tearing with every sexual encounter since? I was diagnosed 3 maybe 4 years ago with ghsv1 and didn’t have sex again until my most recent relationship. Every single time we have sex I, even with absurd amounts of lubircation, I tear. I was googling and stumbled upon people mentioning h could be the cause and I was curious if anybody else had some insight. It’s def not an outbreak, it’s always just one single tear.

I am I take Valtrex daily. It's just so scary I'd hate to pass it to him genitally.

I was on this site when I first got diagnosed and got overwhelmed and left for a while. I've had ghsv1 for two years now and am finally in a relationship I've disclosed and feel comfortable being intimate with. He has oral HsV 1 so I know the chances of me transmitting to him are low. But I'm curious how long prodromes can last. I've had them for two weeks and a big part of me thinks it's probably just anxiety at being intimate in so long and another part of me is afraid they're actual prodromes what the likelihood of them lasting this long if I've had it for two years

Hi! I've met an amazing man, somebody I could see working out. I've got GHSV1 and he's been HSV2 positive for almost a decade. I know that shedding with HSV2 goes down significantly over the years, with medication and that time that's passed as well as the fact that I've got some antibodies chances are slim of either of us passing to another correct? It's def worth the risk I'm just curious as to what kind of risk I'm looking at, anybody who could help I'd appreciate it

I have a couple questions are prodomes and nerve damage the same thing? I'm fairly certain I get nerve damage pains, they're short quick bursts of pain then they go away. They're not always there, but they've been very active lately. Is this a prodome? I would assume it is and if so how long do people tend to wait after experiencing those to be sexually active again? I'm taking 1000mg of valtrex daily, would upping that make the prodomes fade? Any advice would be appreciated. This website has really become my saving grace.

how do you move on and stop being scared of sex if somebody is willing to be with you? I'm seeing somebody who has oral hsv1 and I have ghsv1 so I know that it doesn't shed as frequently and being on suppression therapy chances are like 1% chance I'll spread it to him over the time span of the year, but how do you get over thinking every little thing from an ingrown hair to an itch is a prodome? I just obsess about every little thing and I fear this will ruin my sex life more then the actual virus will.

Thank you so much for the response! It's all just so much to process

I'm having a hard time finding info but what are the chances of passing ghsv1 as a woman to a man who has oral hsv1, the chances are pretty low correct? Especially if doing suppressive therapy? Thanks, sorry for all the questions regarding stats I'm just still new and dealing.

I've only have the one. And it oddly came after my blood test. My blood test was November and my outbreak was like two weeks ago. Stress of travel I think caused it. I haven't noticed any redness or anything odd other than the one outbreak which was pretty obvious. I know now what to expect at least and every ingrown hair doesn't panic me, but any itch or slight tingle I turn into prodromes but I'm so new to this that I could just be doing it to myself. I'm probably no help at all lol. I think it's probably just nerves for both of us but what do I know

Now that I know I have gHSV1 I swear everything is a prodrome, which I've come to understand means I'm virally shedding, so my question is how long after you stop feeling prodromes is usually a good idea to be sexually active again. This is all hypothetically speaking I just want to know as much as I can right now. Also probably important to note that I'm on valtrex daily suppressive

I got a blood test done about 5 months ago and came up positive for HSV 1, but had never had an outbreak and didn't know where it was. Within those five months I began talking to this amazing man, that I've grown quite fond of. A couple of weeks ago I had a work trip coming up and the next thing I know I have itchy bumps, I break down immediately I know what it is. I guess I'd spent the passed couple of months assuming it was oral. I got the test results from the swab back two days ago. I'm terrified of telling him. I'd like some verification on some stats if anybody can help me out, before I disclose. I've been taking daily valtrex as suppressive therapy I know that this with condoms brings me down to a 1% chance of passing it to him over a year. However, does that statistic lessen if he's ever had an oral cold sore before? Also any advice on disclosing and any helpful stats that you used in your talk would be great, I've been crying just thinking about it.

i got tested for H, I saw the results it was the Igg. Thanks for the estimate of what I'm most likely looking at that's def helpful. i appreciate the words of advice.

no, and i'm a hypochondriac for sure, which is probably not helping this. i have had quite frankly no symptoms orally or genitally and i know that last year i was negative for both hsv 1 and hsv 2, i get tested yearly for a full panel (i now some what regret this ha!). so it's def a new development but i haven't noticed anything, no sores, cuts, itchiness anything. thanks for the info, i'll look into western heights i'm just a bit concerned as to the cost.

it was like a 2.6. i just don't know how to proceed it just seems so stressful to have to tell somebody i MAY have it genitally without even knowing myself.

You're probably right. but I mean like what about even kissing you risk passing it that way to should you disclose before you even get to that point? i'm just so unclear on how I should proceed.

I've just been diagnosed with HSV1, but have no idea of the infection site as I've had no symptoms in either area and was just part of a yearly routine I do. Unsure as to how to proceed. Whether or not to disclose or how to even really proceed form here. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

OMG this made me so incredibly happy to read! Congrats! I hope it continues to go well <3

it's so nice to hear that they were all cool about it, i honestly think being in such a small town has been scarier then that i could have it. i'll be sure to keep you guys updated. this website has literally become my saving grace! thanks again!

thank you all for the much more positive perspective on it. I have a tendency to over think and jump the gun. It's been tricky for me to try to keep my mind off of it, but for now all I can do is wait. thank you again for a much less dark view on it. :)

It's def comforting to hear that nobody really freaked out. It's such a scary thing to think about, and I have the same fear of if it's in writing it will be used against me. Thank you for sharing that def makes it a little less scary and it's nice to know that i'm not alone in thinking i should hold off.

After being told during my yearly routine that my test results came back positive for both HSV1 and HSV2 within the last year I scheduled an appointment with my doctor for a follow up to discuss my results. Turns out they did the igM test and not the igG test so they have me going back in in about a week to get the igG done. My question is I know that igM have a habit of being unreliable but if it came out positive than I most likely have at least one strain right? I'm on a roller coaster of emotion, even if it is HSV1 how am I supposed to know whether it's oral or genital, I haven't had any symptoms that I'm aware of in either region, so do I disclose or not? I know I'm getting ahead of myself but I needed to vent to a degree. I guess my main question is if the igM came back positive I most likely have at least one of them correct?

Thank you. I think you're right, waiting until I know for sure is the best bet. I'd love to believe they're better guys than to run a smear campaign across town, but people can do mean things when they're scared. I appreciate all the words of support, I honestly have lived on this forum since finding out, it's amazing how much of a difference just reading others experiences and positive words can make.

I'm not sure to be honest I had a UTI recently which resulting in antibiotics and having a yeast infection shortly before I got tested. About 2.5 months ago I had protected sex with a guy I was casually dating, and less than a month ago I had unprotected sex, again (DOH!), with a guy I was seeing before the previous one about a week before my test. I feel as I've had unprotected sex with the most recent guy and that's also when I had symptoms that was most likely where the exposure came from, however I feel like maybe my number was really high for it that last time to be the cause. I also don't know when to start disclosing to them, it's petrifying. I don't want to disclose it and it get around the town and then find out that maybe by some miracle i'm one of the 40 percent of false positives.

I've had two partners in the past year, I was tested last year and was clean and got tested this year and now have been diagnosed with HSV1 and HSV2. I live in a severely small town and the thought alone of having to tell them makes me sick to my stomach. I just need comfort, support, it's honestly paralyzing me. I know I need to tell them, but I don't want it to turn into who gave it to who and my name get smeared all over town. It's literally all I can think about since being informed yesterday. I couldn't sleep and when I could I woke up every couple of hours in a cold sweat. It's awful.

i'd like a buddy as hearing the news has been really hard for me to process without talking to anybody. either gender is fine just to help me process and get through all of this, about an hour outside of orlando.