Domo2012

Can I join a call ? :D

Totally agree with all of the comments above- do this for YOU. Lord knows what I wold do and say if my giver was to contact me again. I would almost welcome the chance to say something to him. Good luck to you :)

Breathe, your words truly uplift my spirit every time I read a post by you... Lively, and Virgo Girl, the same goes for you. Thank you so much for your support. Today is a new day and I am going to start it off healthy, and with a clear mind. Since I don't talk to people about this much you ladies re my rock and are very much appreciated ;) just wanted to write this quick not before I get ready for my day..love to u all ;)

Thanks guys, Today was sort of rough since I started missing him. But I know he wouldn't have been good for me in the long run.. I erased his number so I can't contact him out of desperation.... I know I deserve better, just didn't know it would be this hard.

Xoxoxo hugs to you all

Hey all, Thanks very much for the support. It did make me feel like less of a person even though I know this is not the case.. I do give myself credit for telling since I haven't been all the way truthful in my past experiences. In the end, this should get somewhat easier with time. Just working on me now is what I am committed to doing.

So, I have been talking to this guy for two weeks. We have seen each other everyday, and text all day and night. I have not felt this way about anyone in a long time. Yesterday we were at my house, laying down, and he asks about stds. This is the first time a man EVER asked. So, after hesitating for a moment I told him my story and status. At first he had no reaction. A blank face, no words. Then, he said thanks for your honesty, got his stuff together, and left. No kiss, no nothing. I explained the disease in the best way possible, even letting him know transmission rates, and ways to be careful. I have not heard from him since. Needless to say I am upset as he made me smile in a way I haven't for a long time... Any helpful comments?

Thanks for the response :)

Hey Guys, Really quick question! I have HSV2, but have noticed that since I was diagnosed I get those little white bumps on the tip and side on my tongue. I think that they are usually called "lie bumps" . I was tested and do not have HSV1. Anyone else have this happen to them? Thanks ;)

Omg! Great story! Hope everything works out!!! I am taking some of your disclosed combo and using with with the next guy I really care about ;)

Email is just fine ;)

Seems that I have a lot of learning to do ;) thanks a million for giving me so many things to thing about/ evaluate.

Thanks very much lively! You are entirely correct- I think I am more upset with myself for even bringing myself down enough to go to a mans house at two am as if I didn't know why he called me... I do have some self esteem issues as one stemming from having herpes, and some from other things. Very good suggestions on how to approach him with the info. I am just terrified he will tell people at work :/ there haven't been to many people I have told about my "situation" and I have never let anyone get close enough to me (men) to be able to find out. I appreciate your love and acceptance...I saw him today and he did not say a word, so I was really feeling sorry for myself :/

Thanks so much Adrial! I haven't heard from the guy since our encounter, but I appreciate your suggestions ;)

I would like either a male or female buddy in the Chicago area...Anyone?

Let me start off by thanking everyone for opinions/comments/suggestions. I have had herpes for about 11 months now. I got it from a guy that I knew, who I wasn't exactly dating- more like just messing around. The very first time we had sex I knew something was wrong- I was in pain two days after our encounter, and could hardly force myself to go to the bathroom. I noticed two or three white-ish bumps the next morning. One day after that, I could barely walk. I was diagnosed within 6 days of the original encounter. In any case, I had not had sex since that day.. until two days ago. There is the guy that I work with- I don't know him well... basically just went out to lunch, talked in the office, and hung out this one time. I just started this new position in his department recently, so we have been talking more. Anyways, he called me early Sat morning around 2am asking me if I was busy, I was up, not doing much... so I agreed to go to his house. I get there, and within 20 minutes of me being there he was feeling on me, and our clothes came off. Before I knew it, we had sex and he passed out next to me. Immediately I freaked out. I had not told him about my little "gift", I work with him...and now I have to see him everyday knowing this. I was not on an outbreak to my knowledge, and had started taking Valtrex again only a week before this encounter. We used a condom, which came off when he pulled out. But as far as I know, our sex was protected the entire time. Due to me not having sex in 11 months prior to this encounter, I did bleed a bit during intercourse and there was some blood on the condom. I felt myself multiple times- and I didn't feel any bumps,,,, I looked in the mirror and don't see any where I had my initial breakout, but needless to say I am at home now going crazy. I feel horribly guilty- and tried to rationalize everything when we woke up the morning after and he told me he actually had a girlfriend that he had hung with before we did what we did. I asked him when the last time he had sex was and he said a few months... anyways, I guess I am not sure whether the Valtrex was working to help prevent transmission since I has only begun it a week prior to this,,,and now I don't know how to look at him again at work. Please help!