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  1. Personally, I think you should use your own discretion. There is no defined wait time! I told disclosed less than a month into knowing the guy because like you, I felt like I was hiding something. He never batted a single eye about it. I'm still talking to the same guy and we haven't even had sex yet. I'm sure the supportive ladies (I call them the forum's fairy godmothers) are on here will give you great advise and help! Best of luck and keep us posted!
  2. @LittleStar no bad reactions! all in all a great experience, given my anxiety over the herpes situation.
  3. Update: I had my wax done today!!! It wasn't terrible lol It did hurt, but I had a great girl who was super friendly and kept me talking. I took some OTC 30 minutes before I went, not sure if it helped but I got through it! I also doubled up on my surpressives yesterday into today. I don't see anything yet (I got it done at 10 this morning) and I don't feel any discomfort or tingles. We'll see what the next few days bring. Thanks for your help again ladies!
  4. Guys I love this!!! Thanks so much for everyone's advise and input!!!!
  5. @Leanne27 you are braver than me! I couldn't imagine doing it myself :/. Nonetheless I shall face my fears and do it! lol
  6. @Serendipity1515 thank you! this is my 8th month post diagnosis, so you've given me some courage! As long as I can get past the pain I think I'll be fine.
  7. So! I have been wanting to try a Brazilian wax forever. After getting the H in December I ruled that out. Here I am in a much better place than I was then and I'm exploring my options of trying one again. I know, there is a risk of triggering a breakout, simply because I don't know how my body will react. I guess this post is just to get some feedback on any ladies (or guys!) who have H and take that trip to Brazil every few weeks ;). I'm terrified, but I set my appointment for this Saturday and I'm gonna do it!! May I add I do take suppressive medication! Thanks for your help!
  8. update: he called this morning to tell say good morning and we had a typical convo. I want to give him time to process it, so I didn't mention it or ask if he thought about what I said. I'm also a huge fan of having serious conversations in person when at all possible so id rather wait to talk about it again at that point. So far no changes tho :-)
  9. Hey all! it's been a while, but I'm here to tell you about my first disclosure. Technically, it's my second disclosure, but the first one was telling the guy gave me herpes to begin with so I don't really count that one because I feel obligated to talk to him about that one. Long story short, I have been in a rocky relationship with my giver since being diagnosed last December. I know it's a safety crutch but it just been hard, as most of you know, to face that feeling of "forever alone". I met this guy and I've been talking to him for a little over a month. I've wondered when the right time to tell him would be and I just felt like I'd know when the time is right. He hasn't persuaded me for sex we typically hangout at the waterfront, go to the movies, sit on his roof and talk. He makes sexual texts but nothing harsh and if I didn't have herpes, I'm sure I'd respond to very well. I've been cautious at keeping our relationship in the tone of getting to know one another. Well last night we came from the movies, I dropped him off, and we ended up making out in the backseat of my tiny Elantra. I loved very moment of it. And while he thought nothing separated him from the prize but a maxi dress and some underwear, I knew from the moment we kissed I wouldn't go that far as my moral compass wouldn't allow it. On my way home in between composing my body temperature, I decided I wanted to tell him as soon as I could. Today he stopped by to see me and I decided to just blurt it out. I told him and even gave him a small bout of statistics. It seemed to go well. He hugged me before he left and even expressed an urge to slap me on the ass lol. He told me to call him when I get back cuz I'm going out. Even if I never hear from again, I couldn't have asked for a better person to disclose to. He didn't make me feel like some outcast lepered weirdo. I feel like such a weight has been lifted off me!! It feels so good and I have him to thank for this high I'm on. I'll keep you posted on whether I hear from him!
  10. @Geminij I don't want you to jump to any conclusions just yet! I think the best thing for you both is if he gets tested and has a concrete diagnosis. I mean of course if he's had it before he would know, but at this point, it seems like your relationship would be on the line. Why put yourself through that before you have the facts? Don't feel guilty, you have nothing to hide. You have been so truthful and up front with him about so much, just keep reminding him of that. IF it helps and your feeling up to it, go get tested together. Stop those tears and move out of defense mode and put yourself on the offense. Be prepared for whatever comes next at this time in your relationship, good or bad. Good Luck!
  11. Don't let one guy influence or change all the progress you made working on yourself. I know it's easier said than done, especially when we put our hope and lifeforce into wanting something to work. I see so much of myself in you, except your stronger and I want to get there too someday. You are worth it and deserve everything in this world, so don't let HSV or one small blip in the cosmic universe (that guy) change it. You have an apparent joy about you, don't let anyone tarnish it. You will be led to bigger and brighter things, that I can assure you of. You've got love and support here in NJ. Stay Strong!
  12. Hey! I also have HSV2 (since December 2014) and like most of the people here, I kno what your going through! I'm 24 and I definitely thought I would miss out on enjoying the things ppl my age get to do! But this gives you a great excuse to really evaluate what you want out of life. While the circumstance were unfortunate, I really think you're doing an awesome job at growing from this. You're now making choices that benefit you, and let's face it, we ladies often fail to put ourselves first! No matter what you are still you! You've got a friend in NJ routing for you. If you ever need any extra support don't be afraid to reach out! Good Luck
  13. Hey! I'm 24, F, from New Jersey. HSV2 positive since December 2014. Would love to make a friend in the East Coast (but I'm open to anywhere really) , male or female, around my age. Just want to build support.
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