livinginrainbow

it wasn't general privacy nor privacy within the website. it was that they took profiles from the positives website and included them, intact in other of there matchmaking websites. I understand that.

Luckily he doesn't suffer any discomfort from it so all was well. It was an amazing first experience with someone else who is positive, someone from a dating site and someone who drives across state to meet. Lots of firsts today lol.

Good thoughts to you as well. :) and happy 3 weeks of healing time. Maybe try and do something extra awesome that you love.

Knowing your body is huge. My ex of 8 years never had issues. We didn't use condoms and I rarely took meds. You can look into female condoms since they cover the labia. Washing with soap and water before sex, and after can help. Gloves can be can option for touching you. Or dental dams. Or washing his hands in between touching you and touching himself. You have options, it can be safe.

I ask everyone if they get cold sores now, because I understand what they can do. Just because someone doesn't disclose doesn't mean someone else shouldn't be asking, ya know?

The hsv + guy I'm talking to right now got it at the base of his penis after having only condom protected sex with women. Transmission is possible with condoms. Too many people are afraid of disclosure and have sex thinking they can be totally safe. Getting comfortable with your body and what symptoms and outbreaks you may have would be good before risking it without disclosure. Taking the time to know your body and how it reacts with hsv will help being safe in the future.- I've had it for 8 years, am recently seperated, and getting refamiliar with the dating scene. I made a positive singles account to help in that journey. If nothing else it reminds me I'm not alone and that I have healthy, happy options that don't require 'disclosure'. Though I'd recommend talking general std health openly before sleeping with someone. It will be okay, you will make it through this, you will have healthy, open relationships with people. :hugs:

This is such a hard one. Reading the sight has given me so much info on this. However, that doesn't make it easier. I think it's the right time when you know its time. That may be too soon for the other person or it may not be. But we all know when a 'relationship' gets to the point where something needs to be said. Maybe that's too early, maybe it's not. But really we have to ask ourselves 'after a good verbal connection has been made, would another 2 weeks, 4 weeks 6 weeks have made the other person more okay with the risk?' You can have an amazing 6month connection with someone, that does not mean that even after 6 months of investment they will be anymore okay with it then they would have at 6 weeks. You will know when you are at a point where for YOUR peace of mind and comfort you need to know whether they can cope or not, and you will mention it. And it will evolve in one direction or the other, and it will be okay :)

Yes we both have hsv2 :)

I had two babies vaginally and naturally after diagnosis. I did take my anti vitals the last month. Never had any problems. This is such a personal choice though. If a woman feels more comfortable opting for a c section to lower risks I think that is totally understandable. It can however be done safely. Sometimes I felt like my body went into 'survival mode' when I was pregnant. I had no outbreaks and didn't experience prodome symptoms at all that I recall.

I joined positive singles almost a month ago. I can't speak on the privacy.... I have my photos set so that women can not see my photo, men who are not gold members can not see my photo, and people with out a photo posted cant see it. It makes me feel more comfortable. I've had coffee and dinner with someone, I don't talk to him anymore. But me and the first guy who contacted me, I've had a super great connection with. (Luckily we are both really weird and have our quirks, outside if the H+ status). Its an interesting roller coaster. I opted to do it because I really need to be more comfortable with who I am its a super liberating thing.

I know the chances are always there. I've already got it. I'm not gonna worry about it.

:) we really just wanted to get the best info possible, we have been incredibly open with each other in so many ways and both want to be fully comfortable with anything we do. Its been a rough few months and having amazing physical contact without worrying about the h is... Exciting to say the least.

I'm having a slightly hard time googling info about this. I've been positive for 8 years. I am currently entering my first sexual friendship with another positive person. He lives across state and we had planned a date for a couple days from now. Today he noticed an outbreak. He is more recently diagnosed. Neither of us have ever been 'knowingly' with other positives and are curious if we really need to worry about his outbreak. We plan on using condoms but his outbreak is on his body in a place that condoms don't cover. We both already have it and I feel fairly confident that my body has plenty of antibodies to protect me from getting outbreaks in a different location then where I currently get them. Thoughts? Experiences?

I had 2 vaginal deliverys, for the last month I used antivirals and all was well.