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  1. I wish the best of luck on your meditation course. We are thankful for you!
  2. Thanks Beckie and Brenda! I loved your responses. Much love to both of you
  3. When I have bad days, my days are usually filled with doubt. Will I ever find someone to love me despite H? Will I ever be able to live with the regret or my past lifestyle? Will I ever be truly happy? Then I think... There are 7 billion people in the world. It is irrational to believe that I will be alone forever and will never find someone. The world is filled with judgmental, prejudice, and hateful people. But it is also filled with loving, compassionate, accepting, and forgiving people. If you're worried about being alone, worry no longer. With 7 billion people in the world, and many
  4. Hey everyone! I posted a while back when I was diagnosed back in November, but I'm back on the forum and would love to find a buddy in the Tri-state area. I'm a 22 year old female and recent college graduate. I've gone through a lot of ups and downs since my diagnosis, but I could be a positive support for someone and could use support myself.
  5. I know most of my posts on this forum have been of "Hey, I made a mistake I need advice." Since I was diagnosed with herpes last November, I have been on a rollercoaster of emotions. I have also gone through a reckless phase in which I was having sex (sometimes with condoms sometimes without) without disclosing. I would like to thank you all for your support but most importantly your tough love and urging me to take responsibility for my actions and to be accountable. This has helped preserve my integrity. As far as I have known, I have not spread the virus to any one I have slept wi
  6. I've had sex since diagnosed with herpes, and have always used a condom and to my knowledge have not transmitted to anyone. But last saturday, I had sex while drunk. He didn't finish and I don't remember it really lasting that long when we both fell asleep. The next day i went to the bathroom and pulled out a condom (sorry if that's graphic) I am freaking out so much. The guy I slept with doesn't know that I have it and now, three days later I am feeling tingling sensations. I had been taking medicine off and on before hand ( I take generic acyclovir and you have to take it 3 times a day.. I s
  7. I was watching a show called Brothers & Sisters. In one episode, a character named Saul is HIV positive. He is becoming emotionally involved with another man and he has very strong feelings for him. They've been spending a lot of time together: going on dates, emotionally intimate. He is talking to his nephews about his fear of disclosure. He says: "I'm afraid if I tell him I am HIV positive, I won't have him anymore." One of his nephews says to him: "But if you don't tell him, you still won't have him." Such a simple yet true statement. We are so afraid of telling someone
  8. Carlyyy, thank you for opening up and pouring your heart out. Just recently, I too feared that I may have transmitted herpes to a partner and I had no yet disclosed. I am very certain he has it but has not experienced symptoms yet since it just happened. I felt all the same things. Guilty, ashamed, and responsible. But it sounds to me like he is the one who pushed this on you and you did not instigate it at all. He had no right to just assume it would be okay to have sex without talking to you first. You are feeling guilty because you have a conscience. But I do not think you should beat yours
  9. Thanks Kristin. I am going to have to do damage control and treat him the way I wish my "giver" would have treated me.I can't see that there will be a future now since he probably will feel betrayed and manipulated but I have to do what's right and deal with the consequences. Thank you for your responses
  10. Thanks Adrial. I know I am going to have to talk to him about it soon. I'm overwhelmed with guilt because I was really going to take my time with this and disclose and then deal with the possible rejection/approval. But now all the plans have changed. I've also read up on the transmission rates when someone is not having an outbreak. But what are the chances if you are having an outbreak? Even if you used a condom? I'm really concerned that I may have given it to him.
  11. Ah I feel absolutely horrible. Last night (after I had too many drinks) I had a lapse in judgement and had sex during a herpes outbreak. My partner and I have just started talking a couple of weeks ago and I haven't felt it was time to disclose that I have herpes to him. But we had sex, used a condom, and I'm having an outbreak. The herpes sores are really minor, I can't even see them but the area is just a little tender when it's touched. I feel absolutely terrible that I may have transmitted herpes to him and I don't know what to do. I am usually very responsible and I wasn't
  12. I know the emotions you are going through. I am 21 and was just diagnosed a few weeks ago. It's a whirlwind of emotions. You'll have good days and you'll have bad days. So far, what I have come to realize is that there are so many wonderful parts of life to experience. You still have the opportunity to travel, to build a successful career, to be a loyal friend, to be a benefit to your community, to help others. The stigma associated with herpes is worse than the virus itself. Herpes doesn't change the person you are. If anything, it makes you more open minded and less judgmental of other
  13. I'd love to hear some stories of relationships AFTER herpes. Successful disclosures, happy relationships..anything. I'm trying to keep my head high about jumping back into the dating scene. But herpes makes me feel like a pariah and I feel that my attitude towards it is keeping me from having a positive attitude :( Any stories would be great.
  14. That was incredibly uplifting Kristin. Thank you so much. I want to reread that response over and over again. Thank you.
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