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  1. @hsv When I say "I do", I mean that I have both genital HSV 1 and 2. I'm living it.
  2. If you're asking if your girlfriend can get genital HSV 2 if she already has genital HSV 1, yes. I do.
  3. @luna1088 My HSV1 outbreak could have been considered bad, but it wasn't too bad considering the fact that I didn't receive medication until the outbreak was pretty much over so I dealt with it without medication. I noticed a discharge and it felt weird peeing, but nothing painful. I didn't become painful until I went to the hospital to see what was going on and the doctor began scraping at the blisters I had. They were inside of my vagina. If I had to compare the two outbreaks, the HSV1 was worst than the HSV2. It sounds like you pretty much know what to do though. Don't stress yourself too much, especially not off of one little bump and you're not showing any other symptom(s). Just get yourself checked out in three months and be done with your ex if you don't trust him or that he wouldn't put you in a situation of contacting ANY STD without disclosing first. @WCSDancer2010 Exactly. I've never disclosed that I get coldsores before dating someone. Of course if I've had one I wouldn't lie about it and say that it wasn't a coldsore. It's no big deal. I haven't had a coldsore in 6 years though. I never got them much to begin with. I think I can count 3-4 coldsores and they were all in the course of being in high school. My situation could be worst. My body has handled the virus quite well. Only two full blown outbreaks and both were my primary infections. I worry about dating because of the stigma than the physical aspects of things. @2Legit2Quit Thanks! I'm glad as well. I'd probably be tore up if I had to deal with the physical aspect of it. I didn't handle the emotional aspect of it well at first. My mom thought she would have to have me see a therapist in the beginning. Nowadays I'm pretty chill. Of course I think about the disclosing aspect a lot especially since I am single again. You'd think I'd be over it since I've had my first disclosure to accept the risk, but that was him. Everyone won't and even though the people that know of my status doesn't think I'll have any problems because I'm "too beautiful and great of a catch", but they aren't the ones living it. Besides H, my biggest fear is being alone (not getting married and having children) and H plays into that fear for me.
  4. @2Legit2Quit, I was two months before my 19th birthday when I lost my virginity and received genital HSV 1 (June 2010). I received HSV 2 in November 2013. Fortunately, I don't have problems with outbreaks. I had my primary outbreak with HSV 1 and received a second one that consisted of 3 SMALL bumps two years later. When I went to get it looked at a genital HSV 1 outbreak was nowhere on the PA's radar because of how minor it appeared. She didn't pick up HSV until she pricked the bump and it ulcered. I haven't had an HSV 1 outbreak since. As far as HSV 2, I've had that primary outbreak almost two years ago and haven't had one since. I didn't know that I should have been disclosing genital HSV 1 until I was diagnosed with HSV 2. I guess because of the rare chance of my passing it on genital to genital I wasn't explained that. I've never passed it on though, thank God. I've only disclosed once since being diagnosed with HSV 2. It was to someone that I had dated before HSV 2 and we were rekindling our relationship. I haven't thought about disclosing both though. I'm more likely to pass on HSV 2 than HSV 1 genially though so that's what I'll focus on the next time I have to disclose.
  5. I have both genital HSV 1 and 2. I also have oral HSV 1. I guess I fall in the "out of luck" category seeing that I've had HSV 1 orally which I probably received from my dad growing up, received genital HSV 1 from my first sexual experience, and then received HSV 2 some years later. In the particular situation that we're speaking of right now (contracting HSV through a condom) I contacted HSV 2. Have you discussed his STD status in general with him before having sex? Do you trust your ex? Who is this person and why would they know his "status"? The best thing you could do is have a conversation with your ex about what you've been hearing. You should seek your own medical attention if you have concerns about your HSV status. However, you would have to wait 3 months after exposure to get a conclusive result. In the meantime I would refrain from intercourse with anyone. I didn't have just one bump. At first it was just itchy and felt like a few cuts--like I had been a little too rough with cleaning my lady parts in the shower. When I noticed bumps, there were more than one. My outbreak wasn't bad at all though. There was a snow storm so I couldn't go to the doctor if I wanted to, but I handled my outbreak with no medication. I wouldn't even describe it as painful. It was more irritable more than anything. Everyone is different through and regardless of how similar myself or someone else contracted H, it doesn't mean that it will present itself the same way in the both of us. I'm not too convinced that what you're experiencing is H, but for peace of mind (which is the most important thing to me as it pertains to a H diagnosis) you should get yourself checked and not worry about the facts of "how" so much.
  6. On the "lips" of my vagina. He didn't have an active outbreak obviously or I wouldn't have had sex with him. Annnnd no, I don't think he knew but at the same time he did not accept the fact well that he needed to be tested because at the moment it was a 90% chance he had given me H.
  7. Hello friends! I have been silently active on this site for a couple months now and I must say it’s the best thing that has happened to the H community. I’ll have to write another post about my diagnosis but this one will be a success story! A loooong success story but never the less, a success! I was diagnosed February 2014 at the age of 22 with HSV-2. I went through the normal “Why me?” for the simple fact that I’ve always done what I was supposed to do as far as sex is concerned (i.e., I was a virgin up until my 19th birthday, adamant condom user, tested after every partner, did not have multiple partners, did have one night stands, and contracted with condom use). I have not completely gotten past all of the emotions of H but I am taking it a day at a time. At the end of June and beginning of July (4-5 months after diagnosis) I reached out to an ex-boyfriend that I had before my “giver”. He was completely happy that I had reached out to him and admitted that he had wanted to get in touch with me for months. He had even told me that he miss me and wanted to be in a relationship with me again. Our break up was a nasty one where he was entertaining another girl (without sex) that lived in a different state, had her here for New Year and a time before, visited her for Valentine’s Day, she moved down here a couple months later, they moved in together, and stayed together for a year and a half before they called it quits. She was an ex-girlfriend of his where they broke up for uncontrollable reasons. He admitted that he wanted to see what it would’ve been like if they had worked out spite the uncontrollable reasons of why they couldn’t be together the first time around. I had asked about her before and he said she was a family friend. I did not know about any of the visits she had here but he did tell me he was visiting her and that is when I called it quits with him; yes, he was very bold. Besides this situation, an ex of his had caused problems in our relationship early on that he says brought on his dealings with his ex-girlfriend. That ex later on reached out to me to let me know that everything she said to me about him and did was to cause a strain on our relationship because she didn’t want him with anyone else but her, none of it was true. I disclosed to my ex-boyfriend over the phone a week after we had gotten back in touch while he was at work. He was sweet about it! He asked what the doctor said and about me having kids. I told him, “I can still have kids, sex, and anything else I want to do. I just have an incurable virus that I need to disclose before sex. I’m not going to die.” That same night he stopped by, a little tipsy, and let me know that he was going to be there for me. He grabbed on my boobs, butt, and privates almost to say he wasn’t scared. That night he kissed me good night and we still talked. He was even there for me during a hard event of my life. However, after that event our communication had kind of faded to the point where we were only speaking once a month. Of course this led me to believe that he couldn’t deal with H although he assured me that it wouldn’t be the reason why he and I wouldn’t be together. He said that when two people want to be together they do whatever it takes and work around whatever needs to be worked around. He all of a sudden didn’t want to be in a relationship even though he had told me before I disclosed that he wanted to be with me again. December I texted him and we went back and forth about our communication with each other being horrible. He agreed that if I was willing to put more effort into it then he would too. He had explained to me in the next days that him not wanting to be in a relationship had nothing to do with me. He explained that he was focused on his career and the hours he works he doesn’t have the time to put into a relationship the way he needs to in order for it to be a success. He changed his career to a Sheriff officer. I understood but still held on to the idea that it was because of H. Christmas Day we texted about my dad’s Christmas request of a grandchild…from me. He wants one so badly and has given up on the idea that my older brother is going to grant him his wish. As I was having this conversation with him he tells me that he would have a baby with him. He goes into the motion that he has wanted to have a child for the longest but recently the want has grown stronger than before. I myself have been having baby fever but would like to finish college first and become financially and environmentally stable to have a child. I also let him know that I do not want to be someone’s “baby momma”. He told me that I wouldn’t be his “baby momma” that a relationship would come first. The next day he texted to say that he had been thinking a lot about having a baby with me and that it was something that he wanted to do. I questioned him about him saying he wasn’t ready for a relationship but he continued to tell me that he has missed me and want to have a baby with me so let's work towards that. He was letting his feelings about being in a relationship go to be with me. “There’s nothing to explain. You’re my girl and that’s all it is to it.” I felt as if maybe he had forgotten what I disclosed to him this past summer but asked him. He hadn’t forgotten and told me that he had did some research on WebMD. I asked what did he find because a lot of things about H on the Internet isn’t the truth. He told me that he found that he virus could be transferred without present sores. I went on to inform him of the statistics with condoms, antivirals, without one or the other, no precautions, his advantage of me knowing my diagnosis versus not knowing, and me being past my first year of infection. His response was “So there’s a risk but its really low.” I couldn’t do anything but smile. It’s funny though because in the middle of our conversation he stopped texting and finally texted back and he says “Sorry it took so long. I’m getting ready for work.” I texted back “I thought you got scared.” His response was “No. LOL.” He said that he didn’t want me taking antivirals. I told him that he can always ask questions. That night I spent the night and we didn’t have sex but the conversation the next day we both let each other know that we wanted to but was waiting on the other. The next night I spent the night and it was the big night. He had asked the percentages again before we became intimate and had even contemplated not using protection. I told him to put it on though. After intimacy he went to wash off and get rid of the condom. When he came back into the room he was asking the percentages again and I laughed and told him. He apologized to me and I asked why was he apologizing. He said, “I feel like I’m freaking out and I don’t want you to think that. I don’t want you to think that I regret doing this. I don’t.” I laughed and told him that he can ask as many questions as he want how ever many times he want to and that I didn’t think he was freaking out. We talked about my experience with H and I let him know that I haven’t had an outbreak since the initial one, have no problems from the virus itself, my life has been the same, and that the pictures on the Internet is waaay worst than what it really is. His response was, “I don’t like that word: outbreak. It makes it sound worst than what it really is.” Priceless! It has been a week and we’ve had sex three times. Since his “freak out” he hasn’t “freaked out” again. The sex is awesome! He has even had the thought of not using protection again. He doesn’t look at me any differently. Recently, he told me that he loves me and never stopped loving me! In fact, we just got into our first argument since being back together and it was about something that happened two years ago. Go figure! First Disclosure was a success although I didn't realize it until months later and hopefully it will be the last disclosure!
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