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@wcsdancer2010 no you're absolutely right. :-)

I couldn't have said anything better... just wanted to echo what has already been said here. Perhaps the most important relationship in your life to this point... but life goes on, and YOU are your most important relationship. The one harsh truth I learned in my 20's, and continue to tell everyone today (I'm just diagnosed with HSV-1 at 44 years old) is that the only person you can really depend on in life for your needs is YOURSELF. Everyone will let you down at some point. When you accept that, it's very freeing and empowering. Take care of you.

I disclosed to a friend of mine that just recently got divorced, and has been wanting to meet up for awhile. He's an old boyfriend. He suggested making plans to meet up again and I was thinking to myself... this is it. Might as well be up front about it right now. He was unbelievably supportive, and said "well condoms aren't the worst thing". There is hope... if someone is really interested in YOU, then H is just a hurdle to maneuver around. This made me feel a lot better... although I'm still not ready to take that step until I know how H is going to affect me over the next few months. Way to go on your successful disclosure! :)

Absolutely hang in there. I was diagnosed in January 14th, so this is new to me. But I delt with a mouth full of debilitating "canker sores". The initial outbreak is better now (they were so painful I had to get hydrocodone just to eat or drink ANYTHING) but I just discovered a new sore on my tongue yesterday... And I have a few places on my skin (arm neck and now I think face) that look like hives... But I know it's herpes. I started taking anti-virals two days ago. I'm restless, can't sleep. Basically I know I'm new to this but I just want you to know you're not alone.

If there is anyone in the Springfield MO area it would be nice to chat with someone local. :-)

Oops.... But better.

Thank you so much for the advice. I'm feeling better finally. Still not healed it better. Man what a nightmare!

Thank you! I actually got some Lysine today. I also took an Epsom salt soak and then tried some tea tree oil on a few sores around my bum and labia. It didn't sting and seems to be working fine. Of course it could be the hydrocodone too which is the only reason. I can even swallow. Pain pills are a miracle. As far as testing, I want to have more testing done when I have insurance. He needs to get tested too... Maybe Planned Parenthood?

I was diagnosed two days ago by visual examination, the swab results won't be back for days, but like many of you I know it's herpes, and the test results to me are of little concern. I seeing a beautiful man almost 3 weeks ago, and my story seems to parallel many of yours. Today is Friday, so I guess last Thursday or Friday I started noticing that I was really sore, and just accounted it to the vigorous sex that we had been having every day since we met so I told him we needed to cool it for a couple of days. I started itching, and figured it was a yeast infection, and started taking an over the counter pill for it, eating some yogurt etc. Of course this didn't help. On Monday my lymph nodes in my neck started to swell and I started getting that general overall icky feeling, and attributed it to the cold or something else. On Tuesday I felt absolutely miserable, and decided that if I felt worse the next day, I would make an appointment at the clinic on campus (I'm a graduate student) and get it checked out. Wednesday morning I woke up, and felt like death. All the lymph nodes in my neck were swollen, and my "crotch" symptoms continued to worsen including pain when I wiped and urinated. I also developed a nice canker sore on my lip, and called to make an appointment. I started researching canker sores, lymph nodes etc while waiting for my appointment, and then decided that with the amount of pain I was in, I better sit in front of a mirror and see what was going on downstairs. I discovered around 10 sores and was of course then horrified when I realized that my head symptoms were a part of something else besides a cold all together. I'm a 44 year old graduate student. My partner is 15 years my junior. I told him before I went to the clinic that instead of the sinus infection/cold I thought I was dealing with, that I was going to get checked for an STD. After they confirmed it, I told him about it. He told me that he had never had an outbreak or any symptoms. I told him that with the timeline, it was likely him, but there was no way to be sure, and that when you have unprotected sex, there are risks involved, and I knew that going in. I also realize there is no reason to be angry or point fingers, what's done is done, and the best thing to do is to get through this horrible initial outbreak and move forward. It's of course completely possible that I've had it, and never known, and gave it to him. I actually JUST NOW got my swab results. Positive for HSV 1, none detected on HSV 2, but the Dr said that doesn't mean anything really as they intermingle, and I have sores all over my mouth and genitals. So man, what can I say.... this has to be one of the worst things I've ever experienced. I have approximately 16 sores in my mouth, with about 1/2 of those on my tongue. I just got prescribed hydrocodone today so that I can continue staying hydrated and eat. The only things I can eat are soft, and I've been sticking to soup and pastas. The warm salt water rinses as a urinate or immediately following have been helping, and I'm going to do an Epsom salt bath tonight. I'm taking Acyclovir 800mg 5 times a day, and have been able to have someone cover teaching my labs and have been able to stay home. I'm hoping by the end of this 3 day weekend I will be on the upswing and the flu-feeling will have passed and I can try to return to normal. I've only told two close friends and of course my partner who has been completely supportive and taking care of me. I just wanted to introduce myself, and see if there are other people that have had such a bad outbreak of sores in their mouths? Hopefully with the hydros it won't be as bad, but I can only sleep a couple of hours at a time, and wake up in tears afterwards because of the pain. It feels like 1000 open cuts in my mouth. Today has been the worst so far. I look forward to reading more on this site and am very happy I found it. Hang in there everyone that has just been diagnosed, as well as those experiencing their first OB. I'm right there with you.