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hello Everyone, Its been awhile. We are still going strong. We recently made a huge move and moved to the mountains which is where we met. We are planning to get married in the near future and maybe start having a family after that. This is what we think we don’t deserve when we find out we have H. I mean I definetly thought that. But we all deserve to get what we want in life. I do these updates because this is real love and anyone who reads the success stories to give them hope, like it did for me, can see that it can happen to anyone! Just gotta learn to live with H and roll with whatever life throws at you.

Thank you! Our 2 year anniversary is actually on Tuesday :) we moved in together this past August so h has never affected the progression of our relationship. I really don’t want to jinx it but I think he’s going to propose sometime in the near future. So H can kiss my ass :)

so a new update, we just moved in together! its been over a year and a half since my disclosure with him. our relationship has been solid since the beginning and H wasnt going to set me back from true love. I really hope that my story and updates have inspired you guys to put yourselves out there and show yourself how strong you really are! xoxo

Thank you! It's been a year since I disclosed to him. Still going strong. As a matter of fact, I decided to stop taking my suppressives. We talked about it and I explained my reasonings.he was totally supportive and he was even able to see what an ob was (which we all know is not that big of a deal) even he was like "that's it?" Being really open and honest about it has made it such a minuscule thing in our relationship. It's like talking about the weather. To think a year ago I could never imagine having one of the best relationships pre/post H. Just a side note even though people don't talk about their H so openly, out of the blue my roomate told me she has it after she got in a fight with her bf (he wasn't the giver either, nor was the fight about it) and I told her I have it too and we had an amazing open discussion about our experiences and it made us closer. We are two goodlooking girls who you would never know by looking at us yet here we are 2 of millions of people who have it. Life goes on and we should make he best of it!

thank you adrial!

over 8 months since it all happened. Starting to talk about moving in together/having kids in the future. like this is the real deal! I hope that others will get to experience the kind of love I found. There are many accepting people out there! Don't get discourage if it doesn't work out with someone, the right one will come along when you find your happiness on your own

Just be confident! The energy and vibes you give off will transfer to him so if you are calm and collected about it he might think it's not a big deal either. It worked for me And I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now

Almost at our 6 months. Still going strong :)

Thank you everyone! I really hope it helps inspire you guys to not get discouraged if it doesn't work out with whoever because eventually someone will come along who will be worth the wait. Like maybe a week before I met him I was joking to my dad that ill probably stay single forever. It wasn't easy transitioning to never having a problem getting guys to having to disclose to potential suitors. Getting H def made me learn how to find more quality guys who treated me like a lady than before I was wayyyy more shallow and dated boys or losers. My boyfriend treats me amazing and not only that but we share the same passions. With or without h this guy is perfect for me. I want all of you guys to hold the same values for yourself as long as your heart is in the right place. and remember to be confident! When the time is right it will happen you just have to put yourself out there.

Hi! Wanted to give an update since my disclosure. Everything has been amazing since my last post. We have been dating for 3 months now. I've met his family he has met mine. He has told me he loved me. We have had discussions about H since the first one and it never has made him uncomfortable or treat me any different. This is the real deal :)

tip for going to the bathroom. When I had my first OB it was that bad too and I remember I would run in the shower and use the shower head while I was going so that it would dilute the urine from the burning and omg it helped made it bareable.

Hey everyone, I was so excited to write in here because I wanted to share my experience the other evening to hopefully help inspire those who are scared of disclosing of fear of the unknown. So rewind to last month, I met this guy whom has had a crush on me for quite sometime. Somehow he honestly figured out a way to steal my heart. We have spent a ton of time together since we met and it was starting getting pretty serious. Obviously I played the innocent card and said I wanted to wait. I could tell early his intentions were good, but I needed time before I would disclose. By week 2 he asked me to be his girlfriend and even though my heart was like "hell yeah!" my brain was in reality check mode and knew it wasn't the right time because I still didn't know him. I didn't want him to think I trapped him into the relationship and then disclosed after. As hard as it was to hold out on him for that long I wanted him to trust me and get to know me without the intimacy. So now to the disclosure..... We went on a mini vacation out of town. I knew it was now or never. The first night I planned to tell him but I was too scared and I couldn't for some reason get it together. So then the following night came around and I was determined to get this off my chest. He was doing dishes and I was secretly reading these success stories to get me motivated and inspired. When we have this intense pillow talk afterwards I am talking in my head try to figure out how to start the convo and I cant get the words out of my mouth. So I thought Ill ease into it. Ill ask questions to get the ball rolling. He says something about me being "perfect." and this was my chance. I respond with "I am not perfect." I ask a question..."why do you think I wanted to take it slow? What do you think is the reason I wanted to wait to have sex?' He replies with "because you think I might leave, which I am not, and honestly I really don't know why?" (ok perfect im starting to ease into, and im thinking holy crap its happening and my heart is pounding) I warn him to listen and take in what I am saying because I am about to put my guard down. I say "I needed to trust you and I needed you to trust me and that doesn't happen overnight. Do you trust me?" and he responds with "yes". So I explain that I have hsv2 and ask him if he knew what that was and he didn't. I say its the virus that carries herpes, but you need to understand that with modern medicine these days it isn't what people assume it is. He was not even phased at all in his face at this point and was still all ears. I explain all the statistics, the suppressives I take daily, briefly how I got it and how if he wanted to be with me sexually, that he can not hold it over my head or make me feel bad about it because it had nothing to do with who I was as a person, and lastly I explained to him why I declined to be his girlfriend because I wanted him to accept me for the good and the imperfections. And I said if the offer still stands then I would like to be his girlfriend. He gladly accepted and then we finally had sex. He was sooooo happy when I opened up to him. Since the disclosure it has only gotten better. We have a ton of mutual friends and he wants everyone to know we are together. He is even more amazing to me and I feel like a huge wait was lifted off my shoulders. Looking back at the disclosure Im proud of myself for doing things right. I let him get to see the real me. I continually showed him my confidence and he could see that if I was this happy with H it couldn't be that bad. I slowly opened up to him without rushing into things and I could tell that the more and more time I spent with him the better chances I had with a successful disclosure. So my best advice is give it some time and let them see the real you first. And for me, starting the conversation with questions helped me kinda get the wheels moving on the actual disclosure. And being confident is really important because people feed off others energy. He isn't the first guy I have disclosed and each one has been pretty successful because I waited till they knew the real me. I hope that my succession story gives someone else the courage to still let love in and to know that they are worthy of it.

So I have had hsv2 now for about a year and a half. I have accepted it for the most part. There's no point in dwelling on something you can't change. I met this guy last summer. He's a surgeon and honestly I had no interest in him, but I had some legal stuff happen to me around the time I met him and he insisted on helping me through the whole process. After I won my case 6 months later we developed a friendship...like best friends and after trying so hard to win my heart he finally did. Since new years eve we have gotten closer and closer. He is amazing and my rock. I know sex is coming soon for us and I want to tell him the truth. He has been the best thing to ever happen to me I don't even have the heart to hold a secret like this from him. So here's the question. He's a doctor and ironically one of his specialties is infectious diseases. So I honestly doubt I need to explain anything about my disease since I am sure he knows everything there is to know about it. I dont want him to be mad at me for not telling him for so long, but for 1, up until new years i never planned on being with him and 2 it was none of his business prior to that. So how do you go about disclosing to a doctor because all the medical jargon is a waste in this case. And how do I get him to understand why I am telling him now? Really...I just wanna be smart on how I word things. knock on wood..I know he see's people with crazy incurable diseases and cancers all day..I don't think this will scare him away, but I just feel like I go blank every time I want to bring it up. I don't know how to start this conversation or how to explain it in a way where I am not his patient but his girlfriend. Any words of advice will help, either way I am not keeping this from him.