jessi03

I have'nt been on the website for a while but I just wanted to share since the conversations on the website helped me a lot when I found out I had HSV. Its going to be 2 years since I found out and this experience has helped me grow and I honestly think it has made me stronger. My first disclosure was the hardest, I was really nervous about having the conversation, but I wanted to be honest with him, he stopped talking to me a week after I told him I had herpes. I had to admit it hurt, I cried, and I did'nt want to go through that again, it was the first the time someone rejected me, but I had to be honest and I respected his decision and I just got over it after some time. After that I had two other disclosures and they went well I had a relationship, and they accepted me for who I am, they were always really understanding, but things did'nt work for other reasons that had nothing to do with herpes. I feel that being honest and sharing something so personal makes people appreciate you even more, its not easy telling people that you have herpes but as you educate yourself about the disease you realize that the virus is not the problem here but the stigma behind it and how you let it affect you. I see this as a lesson that has help me get to know me better, to become a better and stronger person. So last night I had my fourth disclosure, I had been talking to this amazing guy and I felt like it was time for me to disclose, he took it really well and he told me that this would not change the relationship we have Im excited to see what is going to happen with this new relationship. No matter how many disclosures you have, you still get nervous about disclosing but it gets easier every time, if someone really wants to be with you they are going to accept you for who you are and a virus is not going to scared them away, always be honest, educate them, and things will fall into place. :)

Thank you betty and I haven't had an outbreak since I found out I had herpes, I just got scared. This is new to me and like you said I just new to breath, but I feel better now:)

So I've been talking to someone and he knows about the herpes. So we decided to be intimate and we used protection but at the end the condom stay inside of me. We're are both worry and I'm scared he's going to get away from me. I don't know what to say or what to do. It was great but I'm worry, this is hard:(. I don't like the idea that someone I care about could get infected how do you deal with this?

Its almost going to be a year since I found out Ii have herpes. It has change my life but in a positive way. After all the negative thoughts that went through my mind I took some time to be alone and I got to know myself better. This experience made me stronger and I like the way I feel. I'm thankful because I haven't had an outbreak and is almost going to be a year now. My first disclosure went well but we stop talking I must admit it got me sad but that was his decision. My second disclosure was less hard and I'm still talking to him I do get nervous but I'm just seeing how things go.

Thank you:)

Im 21 and I have always had a regular period cycle but lately its changing is it something I should worry about? Could anyone help please...

Lelani, thank you for sharing your story I'm so happy for you, I like to read success stories when I'm having negative feelings or feeling down and it makes me feel better reading about stories like yours, it gives me hope :) that's why I love this forum. Thanks for sharing. Jessi

Thank Judith and Adrial the articles really helped :)

So I found out I had HSV last year and a few weeks ago my test were positive for HPV too :( ... Does anyone have any advice on HPV? I feel overwhelmed about this situation. Trying to stay positive but I feel things keep on getting worse and harder.

kitcattat I understand how you feel, the same thing happen to me about a moth ago and I felt better for telling him but at the end we just stayed friends. I'm terrified to have to go through all this again but like everyone says hopefully this will get easier.

Hi I'm 21 from texas would like to have a h buddy new to all this, I was diagnosed on november would really love to have someone to talk about this and get some advice:)

my skin has been really itchy too but i have not gotten any OB yet does this mean the virus is shedding? what can you take for the itching?

I met this wonderful guy on new years and we have been talking everyday since we met. I really like him and I enjoy every moment we spend together. Every time we went on a date I wanted to have the "the talk" but I would get really nervous and the words just wouldnt come out. About two weeks ago I decided that it was time for me to get the courage to tell him. So the day came and we were watching tv when I told him I had something to say, so I grab his hand and he listen as I told him how I had gotten herpes and I tried to explain to him a little bit about the disease. When I finished he just looked at me and he hold me in his arms and kissed me and thanked me for telling him. He told me I didnt have to worry about anything and that he still wanted to keep on seeing me. I couldnt stop crying I felt like a big weight was taken off my shoulders I was so happy I had gotten the courage to tell him and I wasnt expecting for it to go so well. I know how hard it is to tell someone you really like you have herpes but you have to have faith and if its the right person they will understand :)