[Sex after herpes]

Since my first outbreak, my vagina has not let my boyfriend's penis go in, even with lube. We've tried several times over around a three month period, my outbreak was four months ago. We hadn't had sex before herpes came along and I hadn't had very much sex in general before him but had only had that kind of problem once with someone else and that was just due to dryness. Have seen a lot of discussions on the internet started by people with herpes reporting pain after sex outside of outbreaks - I'm wondering if any other females have had this problem and if it is likely to be linked to the herpes? Did it got away after a while?

[Difference between gHSV-1 and gHSV-2?]

Many many thanks for all the advice you guys gave!

I'm doing great since after a bad outbreak and have had no trouble with it but I'm trying to get my facts straight for future disclosing. So I'm going by the herpes handbook breatheandletgo linked above and it says ghsv1 has a 3-5% transmission rate which can be lowered by condoms and suppressive therapy. Oral hsv1 has a 9-18% rate here. Does that mean there is a much higher chance somebody could get ghsv1 by receiving oral from anybody with oral hsv1 (a huge amount of people it seems) than by having sex with a ghsv-1 carrier? Or have I muddled up my facts?

[Difference between gHSV-1 and gHSV-2?]

Cheers all! Guess I'll just have to see how my body reacts.

 

While I have you, (this may get a bit TMI), is it possible my lesions are healing without crusting? My lesions have been on the inside of my outer labia, so naturally it's been difficult to keep them dry. However, several of the blisters burst in the bath and I haven't had any pain since in comparison to the agony involved in urinating before this. Is it best I just leave them be? I did bathe with epsom salts but don't always have access to a bath unfortunately.

[Difference between gHSV-1 and gHSV-2?]

kticatt, great to see somebody in the (expected) same boat! Have you taken any measures to prevent outbreaks or just your natural order?

 

Motivation lies in deciding whether or not I'm going to ask for a suppressive prescription. I want to do as much as possible to lower transmission but I've never been one for taking any kind of medication so the idea of popping daily pills is really unappealing to me. I'm trying to weigh out the pros and cons. Having this virus doesn't make a difference to the person I'm with at the moment so I'm under less pressure to take a suppressive drug but I'm conscious about the next person. If it was going to make a huge difference to outbreaks, that would probably make my decision, but if I'm not going to have many outbreaks as it is, perhaps leave it.

I think I'll leave myself a 6/12 month test period to see how my body is going to naturally respond to this and go from there but I'd like to hear what I can expect. Seems quite like every experience is unique though.

 

This is a fantastic resource by the way, feel a lot safer now I've found this! Thank you all.

[Difference between gHSV-1 and gHSV-2?]

You are fantastic!

 

Much love.

[Difference between gHSV-1 and gHSV-2?]

Got my first "you have herpes" diagnosis but have to wait a month for the results to differentiate between HSV-1 and HSV-2. Doctor really didn't tell me much at all, "don't get overwhelmed" and handed me 7 days dosage of Valtrex and a pamphlet.

I'm certain I picked it up from an encounter a few days before the outbreak, I'm a female and received oral sex from a guy who came out with a coldsore a day after we were together, he's had cold sores before but never genital herpes. I've never had a coldsore before so I'm assuming the virus spread from what was developing on his lip. Doctor agreed here. From what I've read, it sounds like I have gHSV-1.

 

My doctor never mentioned the two types so everything I know comes from the internet, shocked at how uninformed she left me. I'm finding it hard to figure out what I can expect if the test comes back HSV-1 positive. Am I going to have less recurring episodes than HSV-2 would come with? Are the transmission rates less?

 

Some of the HSV-1 stories I'm reading seem quite different from my experience, I've got what seems to be near 10 lesions and couldn't sleep for four days with the pain. Am waiting on the "crusting over" stage to kick in at the moment. This makes me question whether it is HSV-1 and, even if it is, whether I'm going to get off any lighter than the typical HSV-2 experiences.

 

Would love if anybody could enlighten me here, I don't feel confident that my doctor could offer much insight at all judging by how she dealt with the initial diagnosis.