StillMeButWiser

Could the rash be from an allergic reaction to the lube? Atopic dermatitis will be small red bumps, possibly itchy. Instead of worrying yourself sick, go to the Dr get tested. Don't fear the worst,

Honey, there are men out there who doesn't let this stop them from liking someone. To me it seems like the ones who reject are the insecure ones. Look at the guys who rejected you, what do they have in common, trait wise? So to counter act this, date men from a different caliber. Do this by be willing to open to say if you didn't like country men before now dabble in that area. Just an example. But I think you get the idea. Stop going after the same type of man. You got the confidence, just follow it.

I have been on valtrex for two years, haven't experienced any side effects. Had one break thru starting to show signs of an outbreak, but not sores never appeared. because I was super stressed. Plus didn't have extra pills to double up

It is quite possible this is a new exposure for both of you. If so, neither one would test positive via blood. I have heard stories one person unknowingly contracted the virus and passed it before showing symptoms. But don't jump to conclusions now.

The real question is, assuming your husband gave this to you, will you be able to forgive him or every time an arguement happens this will be thrown in his face? Digesting a herpes diagnoised is not easy. At times takes several years to even accept it, mixed with infidelity it will be a tough one to swollow. It seems you are are fixated on how you got it and say working on our marriage secondly. Truth be told, it is very hard to pin down what came first the chicken or the egg or in your case herpes. Move the energy on to acceptance and move forward. It will take all your energy to regain her spouses trust.

It is quite possible your love has it and don't know; therefore, passing it to you. Has your love ever been tested? At this point, to know for sure, a bloodtest would be best. But ask yourself does it really matter where it came from, because your love seems to be very supportive and not leaving your side. A big big plus in my eyes.

Tell your parents, by doing so they can provide comfort, understanding and support. I know as a mom to three teenagers, parents love is unconditional. Explain to them this is not your fault and provide insight on herpes because it will help them understand it if they don't now. Do you know how much pressure, burden and feeling ashame will disappear by telling? A whole of a lot. No more carrying a heavy secret around. Good luck.

Right now you are going through the grieving process, if you will. Anger is the first, second stage of the process. Forgiveness comes with acceptance, untill then meet with your therapist. Perfectly normal what you are going through. Just remember there is no timeframe for each stage.

Does he know for sure he is negative? Was he recently tested? Start from there. Why would the therapist talk marriage with him if he can't get past a skin condition his love of his life has? If he can't over that he is not ready for marriage.

Resilent! You are going to be just fine. Now when you look back, do you think he initiated the argument which caused the break up because he knew he exposed you to herpes? Why else when you texted him you have herpes he answered, when did this start. Not the common response from someone finding out their partner just been diagnosed with herpes. Now the cowardly silence from him. Remember herpes doesn't define who you are, just another life scare and we all have them.

First of all, I am sorry to hear you had to experience such evil. Herpes is not your fault in fact none of us wants herpes, we didn't ask for nor do we deserve it. One of life's misfortune, unfortunately. If your boyfriend said he was ok with it, believe him. You are very blessed to have a man who understands what I just said and is willing to love you no matter what flaws you have. Girl have confidence in yourself, knowing what you bring to the table. Like who you are and everything will fall in place. Stop over thinking it and enjoy the love both of you share.

She feels you don't want to have intercoarse with her because she has herpes. What she is feeling is natural for anyone who has herpes, it's hard to overcome self doubt.

Hi, this situation can be over whelming if you let it be. I dabble in the life style and currently experiencing a poly. I'm the unicorn to a couple. From my experience, I would tell current partners and that's it. Past is the past. Most swingers are tested regularly. One guy I was with tested every three months. Even though precaution is taken they know the risk. For some the risk is never thought of.

The cause of your outbreaks is your stress. Stress is very powerful and run havoc on your body. Worrying about the viscous herpes cycle alone is stressful on top of every thing else. Go on the valtex. Why put yourself through more turmoil when you can prevent it. One blue pill a day will relieve so much. If you still feel prodomes or have outbreaks take 2 pills, 1000mg. Good luck.

The key is to find one who gives you tools and teaches you how to use the tool. One who just sits and listens asking constantly how does that make you feel won't work. One who sticks to the goal every week. You can even go twice a week. Some therapist specialize in certain areas like domestic violence or sex sbuse. Maybe for you if it fits sex abuse then touch base with one on herpes. Can't do two different therapies at once. Won't work. Working out your frustration with not wanting the encounter and understanding how, why and not your fault is the best first approach . After coming to peace with that will help you with herpes. Sometimes meds is used simotaniously. Baby steps will get you the the finish line. Good luck.