Yes, @optimist, it feels more like taking a step back in intimacy. And I don't mean by the use of condoms, just the emotional circumstance of that doctor's visit. But let me clarify that in general it's like it doesn't even exist. He's had previous girlfriends with herpes before, but every once in a while there will be these outbursts. Last night he was wanting to have sex without a condom and I was like, "What are you doing?! No, we had this talk, you're putting one on." So it's just weird that one moment it's an issue and the next it's not. I think from here on out I will be the enforcer of condoms to protect us both physically and mentally.