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Very inspiring thank you for sharing

So happy for you!

*hugs* Feelingblue... I'm so sorry you are having a hard time. my teenage daughter has GHSV1 (for about a year now) and it has been a struggle for the same reasons. Life changing actually. She has up and down days... But as the weeks/months go on, more ups. How long have you known? Hopefully you will have more up days as well. It's easy to say "find strength in independence!" "Herpes is a wingman!" Etc...but the rejections are hard. Watching my daughter handle hers has been tough. All the advice is true, but who doesn't want to be loved and accepted?.. HOWEVER...while you are waiting for that perfect person that loves you for YOU..you DO need to find the strength in independence, And realize herpes IS a wingman. (My daughter has had all kinds of rejections... From the *polite* "I like you but..." To the ugly "gross, no f$&@?!g way I'm risking that" - and THANKFULLY, it's made her stronger and she doesn't give up hope and has actually laughed at her last rejection - you will get there too!) Remember, even if you DIDNT have herpes, not ALL relationships are going to work for a million reasons. Not every person you meet is going to be the "one". Ok so the perfect guy that recently got away because he didn't want to take the risk is a bummer... But aren't there guys out there YOUVE met that you like enough, but thought there's a little something that makes you think "yeah but I don't want to date them.." Too short too tall too blond brown eyes when you like blue too macho bad sense of humor too quiet too loud.... ? Doesn't mean they are rejects of life, just not your cup of tea.. I hope you can move away from the suicidal thoughts. The world is a HUGE beautiful place, with billions of people walking around... Surely there is another perfect person out there. In the meantime, it doesn't take a lot to look around you and find people with troubles far worse than fighting a stigma. Recently, 3 local teenage girls were killed in a car accident. For the last year I have been crying over my daughters hsv and how "hard" it will be for her to find love. Those three mothers will never see their daughters weddings or experience grandchildren... I bet they would give anything to have their daughters alive - even WITH herpes. Please keep it in perspective.. Yes it's a rotten deal... But not the worst thing that can happen. Not by a long shot. Don't give up on finding that guy -on finding love. Yeah, herpes makes things a little tougher, but won't it be awesome when you meet the person that truly loves YOU? How exciting! And totally worth the wait and totally worth the rejections and hurt you had to face along the way that made you strong and independent. I'll send positive thoughts your way!.. *hugs*

@bambina3, YES,same here. I have had hsv1 for 40 years... But just recently became "educated" on the virus when my daughter tested positive for ghsv1. I had obs (oral) during my (sexually active) "youth"... And very possibly, unknowly, shedded frequently in between outbreaks. So I wonder if any of those old boyfriends have ghsv1 thanks to me?

Woah good question! Hmmmm

very interesting article! But what ALWAYS gets me thinking negative is when I read "HSV 1&2 are highly infectious and incurable". If HSV is "highly infections" then why do we always talk about transmission odds being so LOW? (with condom & anti viral use) and IF odds are low.. then how are so many (millions & millions) people still catching it?!

Love this! Thank you for sharing

Thank you for posting this very positive (and realistic!) outlook. *hugs*

My opinion?... I guess it's whatever you feel comfortable with. I don't know how old you are, but my daughter told a few of her close friends and one of the friends turned out to not be as close as she thought and word got out and spread like wildfire. Not a good thing, unless, you don't care about people knowing. Many people aren't so nice and understanding. (At least at my daughters age) In the future, like when she goes off to college, she plans on telling (trusting) NO ONE... Until she enters into a relationship..then, of course, she will disclose. I am thankful that even at her young age, she understands the importance of telling potential partners of her status... Good luck to you... It's not an easy road, but it will open your eyes as to who is real in your life, and who isn't. *many hugs and well wishes*

Thank you for this!

@anna01 - your advice was perfect. Everything you said i was thinking, yep. Uh-huh. Shes absolutely right. :0) @taytaaaayyy - i have been following this thread and hope you are feeling better. I Will check back to see how your tests turned out.

YES! :)

The stigma sucks - its horrid- but If someone knows about your H and is nervous or uncomfortable around you, thats THEIR problem not yours. my daughter faces this all the time. And its interesting really. As time goes on, we notice the few people who are really bothered by her having H (like it effects them how exactly??) end up making themselves look stupid by whispering behind her back and acting all weird. So let them feel uncomfortable and you sit back and enjoy that pedi! :)

What? Oh my gosh! OF COURSE you can do those things! H doesnt spread that way... Unless im wrong then my daughter is in huge trouble because shes been getting pedicures and spa treatments MONTHLY since testing positive :0) Of course she doesnt walk into the place and announce her status -lol- but even so, she wouldnt need to. No ones in "danger" of catching anything from her. Dont let h stop you from living your life, relax! :)

Noooo... You cant go through life thinking you deserved herpes! And no one is "at fault" for picking the wrong people to love/trust! If thats the case, EVERYONE would be punished in some way, ya know? Because at some point in our lives, we ALL pick the "wrong" partners, its how we learn and grow! Yucky stuff just sometimes happens along the way, thats all. My teenage daughter got herpes from the wrong guy too. Never once did i think "well....thats what you get!!" Chin up... You did nothing wrong. Herpes isnt bad karma. *hugs*