laylaboltkey

Hi, i am new to this but need some serious advice as i am freaking out. my apologies that this is extremely long. I was diagnosed about a year ago with HSV (still finding out whether it is 1 or 2) the guy that gave it to me did not tell me that he had it, nor did he show any symptoms (that i saw). Anyway it happened and it sucked. After the 1st outbreak i had 3 more before starting to see someone else. I was absolutely loosing my mind to tell him but knew that I had too and I couldn't keep the information to myself. We did have sex a few times before I told him but used protection and he ALWAYS insisted that we used a condom. Strange for a 23 year old male to want to do that but i didnt think anything of it. I absolutely broke down when I told him and when he saw me upset the first thing he said to me was "you have herpes?" and his reaction was "i went through the same thing with my ex and there are 3 types: 1 that goes away, one that stays in your body and one that has physical symptoms" i knew he was lying then and there because everyone knows that it doesn't go away! he was extremely calm about the whole thing, said it didn't bother him and we shouldn't speak about it again. I told him i was getting tablets for it and he said "maybe i should take them too" he also said to me don't ever think that i'm going to think about it because i won't and never brought it up again. he also kept saying to me it's not a big deal it's just like having a coldsore on the lips and we never talked about it again. i went on valtrex everyday, we used condoms, it was fine. He was so calm, informed and knew what i was going to say before i even brought it up? This was the weirdest conversation because I feel as though he has had it this entire time but didn't want to admit it to ensure that it didn't look like he gave it to me. I feel as though his reaction was way to calm for someone who didnt have it, i mean if i didn't have herpes and someone told me they did i would definitely not be so understanding and calm? Anyway, 2 months after breaking up we had sex (using a condom but i have been off the valtrex for about a month) 2 days later i notice a red bump and my doctor said it looks like early onset of an outbreak. I am actually loosing my mind because i am freaking out that i may have passed it onto him but then another part of me thinks that he already has it because of the way he reacted. I feel as though he may be asymptomatic as he never has had any outbreaks when we were together. Can anyone give me any input here? does it sound like he is in denial? Please help :(