I recently had the talk with the man of my dreams. To my surprise, he did not immediately grab all his things and run out the door, nor did he avoid my calls subsequent to the talk. He says that he is really into me, but is having a hard time because he doesn't know enough about the infection. I sent him the book "The Good News About the Bad News" by Terri Warren and he should receive it tomorrow. I told him the stats and sent him some research that I found online at CDC and a few other sites. Was wondering if someone has been through this and how did you help the other person become comfortable with it. I think his concerns are transmission and how it will effect our sex life. I have had the infection for 5 years now and I don't believe I have outbreaks anymore, at least they are so mild that I do not feel any discomfort ever so I am unable to determine when is not a good time and I fear I will put him at risk. Is there a way to figure out when you are shedding, like can you pee on a stick, lol. Also, I ran across something that said the longer you have it, the less outbreaks and shedding you have because your body builds an immunity. Does anyone know if this is in fact true? I plan to use condoms and get on meds and the stats say it is difficult to pass from female to male, even without using these precautions. I feel like the combination of less shedding, condoms, meds and the difficulty of transmitting from female to male will help keep him free from this infection.
Sorry, I know this was a bunch of thoughts crammed into one paragraph but any help on any topic will be greatly appreciated.