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There’s many times I’ve felt like just going straight to Facebook and posting it for the world to see, especially because I got it from a (mildly) famous singer. That ended quite quickly after I discovered he was up & down with multiple women. Anyway, I have told several guy and girlfriends and it feels great to be able to talk about it and to feel truly transparent. Take your time, sorry to say welcome to the club, but it is what it is. We cannot change this and we must go on.

Well ladies, I had a horrible night last night. Sleepless worrying about how/when to tell him. I ended up telling him over text this morning. He did not respond to my long essay until mid afternoon saying he had a crazy morning. I responded but his behavior was totally different towards me. Usually he’s sending me songs, randomly texting me to remind me of how much he likes me, etc and today he’s just so bland and simple. I feel somewhat ghosted. I tried to bring up the subject by saying “i thought you wouldn’t reply after what i told you” and he completely changed the subject. I’m definitely feeling down. When my heart finally had truly opened up to someone I pretty much get rejected. (Ive never been rejected H or not so this is a little difficult) I’ve disclosed to other guys previously and they are still interested in me. Sadly, the one I want seems isnt....

I am now emotionally invested and have even considered NOT disclosing because of fear of losing him. I have never NOT disclosed. This time around idk why I am so scared/intimidated to disclose. I have known (of) him for many years as we have many acquaintances /friends in common. I recently got separated and havent really cared to date. All of a sudden he emerges from out of the blue. We randomly spend New Years together staying up talking and drinking till 6am. Here I am end of January, on cloud9. He says he wants everything with me. I feel the need to tell him now but I have this huge fear I will lose him. We have only hung out twice (babysitter issues) I don’t want to continue feeling these butterflies & whatnot if it is all going to go down the drain, & I cannot blame him for rejecting me if he does. If I could chose not to have this, I wouldn’t have it either. Anyway, I am lost. Idk when it’s the right moment to tell him. The second time we hung out was so romantic definitely lots of kisses and his shirt came off—(no inappropriate touching or anything beyond that) Most of my friends are saying don’t tell, others are saying wait- but pretty much he has already asked me out...and I too, want everything with him. I want to give myself a real opportunity to love again. (I married someone just because he had herpes too BIG MISTAKE) PLEASE HELP! I cant sleep. I kindly blow him off or change the subject when he starts talking about feelings/future plans. I don’t want to lose this opportunity but I don’t want to be deceitful either.

I caught herpes from the first time I had sex with my deceitful brand new boyfriend” . He had a condom on....Lucky me

There is tea tree oil mix with vitamin C which is pretty smooth on the skin. I always use it. Yesterday I had nerve pain in My vaginal area and I diluted some tea tree oil with warm water, wiped with it and also took a warm bubble bath with a Eucalyptus bubble bath. Nerve pain went away immediately. No outbreak. :)

I pray so too. I fear I contracted oral herpes from my now estranged husband, (even though I've never had a cold sore) however my 4 year old son recently got a cold sore looking thing on his lip and I'm devastated. I had come to terms with HSV2 but HSV1 no-definitely, I can't,-especially with the potential harm I may have done to my child (even though I've never kissed more than 2,3 seconds) I am so angry at myself. I hate ORAL HERPES.

Honestly, physically no- it hasn't really challenged me. I think I've only had 1 outbreak that was *more uncomfortable than the rest, and hurt to pee. Otherwise no, I don't fall in bed sick. This illness has gotten to me more on the mental side than physical.... still struggle with it here and there, hang in there. It's not the end. :)

I tested for HSV2 back in 2016 and it was positive, and negative for HSV1 but now I fear that having had sex with my now estranged ex husband who's positive for HSV-1 both oral & genital I may be contracted oral herpes. I am so scared to go retest. But I know I have to. I feel like I am having to go through this whole thing over again. The fact that my poor boy has a cold sore is killing me with guilt. I am soooo OCD about oral herpes. I'm spraying the silverware and cups with clorox, throwing away his toothbrushes I am TERRIFIED, It's eating me alive.

My outbreaks have been pretty mild all along. I think this last one was the leakiest because it lasted longer (a week in) & of course with packing and moving, working, everything I didn't give my body the attention I needed to heal. :(

My first outbreak was 2 bumps they went away in about a week or less from what I call. I didn't have another one until 7 months later (which is when I was officially diagnosed) I then didn't have one until 11 months later. Then I got married, and relocated, financial stress, marital problems and etc and that's what caused them to be so often. I even got shingles from all the stress I had! I have now moved on from that stressful situation & got on suppressive therapy until my body recuperates and will be watching my body to see how many outbreaks occur. It is ESSENTIAL to stress the least possible, sounds a little crazy but herpes has helped me get rid of some people that I definitely don't need in my life. If someone is affecting even my health, they have to go!

I have type 2 but rarely get outbreaks. Although the past 3 months I've had one each month . Manage your stress and your immune system and you'll be fine. Drink lots of water.

Well how do I positively know if I DONT have HSV-1? I don't want to contract and/or expose my future children (peck)/partner when kissing (oral sex for partner)... is it safe to assume I'm negative if I do another test again next week (& it comes back negative) Before ever having sex with my husband I tested for HSV-1 & 2 and I know for a fact I didn't have it previous to him, only HSV2 came positive. I've had like tingling symptoms or burning sensation (as I text) but never an outbreak or maybe it's my mind playing games but I've been under a lot of stress this past year due to marital problems.. (Even got shingles) I'm desperate to know - /: thank you

Are you saying my tests were a false negative? My son definitely has a cold sore on his lip and I'm so heartbroken.... idk how to handle it. I just moved back and separated from my husband & im So upset feeling like shit that my child has contracted this possibly from me or daycare? What does the <.091 mean? Am I positive? The last time I had sex with my husband (he has oral & genital HSV1) was June 4-no oral sex. I have given him oral sex for the past year but rarely because I feared contracting oral herpes... & here we are today. Should I wait to retest or could I go now/next week? @optimist :(

Yesterday evening (out of nowhere) a cold sore just popped up out of nowhere---- my estranged husband has oral & genital HSV1. I tested for hsv1 back in April/May and it came back negative. I have been positive for HSV2 for the past 2 years, but apparantely haven't caught hsv1 from my now ex-husband. Thoughts are racing my head. If I tested negative then me kissing my son for 2/3 seconds (peck) can't be possible that I contaged him with oral herpes. I am being all paranoid wondering if my ex did something to him, or if my test was a false negative (I will retest in October since it'll be 4+ months since by last exposure to hsv1 with my son to be ex-husband) Last possibility is that he got it at daycare.. I feel terrible and guilty, and I can't seem the handle that my innocent child has herpes on his lips. I can't accept HSV-1 BTW: I tested APRIL 24, my tests came back NEGATIVE for HSV1 score of <.0.91. Can someone please interpret?

About a week, week and a half -- & I also , try not to wear any underwear while using any of the above mentioned products.... You don't lose anything with trying :)

I got herpes 2 years ago from my first "casual" encounter with a mildly famous artist, HUH-It can happen to anyone huh... anyway, i told my kids dad who I was on and off again with and he was very supportive and accepted me as that. We had sex afterwards and he reported he never got it from me, thank God. We finally split for other reasons and months later I joined a herpes dating website and met someone on there---I felt the connection was right, I was so in love -& married him (he positive for GHSV-1) After a couple months living together things went sour and now after a year+ of marriage I decided to leave him. I contemplated staying with him (because of herpes) but I know I'd be so unhappy, the main reason we split was that he did not accept my son. DONT SETTLE FOR ANYONE JUST BECAUSE OF HERPES. Now here I am 26 year old attractive woman, with herpes, wishing I didn't have to go back into the dating game- definitely not now and not ever. But it's life. /:

Hi all, I have HSV2. I am reaching out because about a month ago, I experimented a burning sensation on my left index finger (same as when I get on my leg as prodome) it lasted for a day and Was gone.. BUT today, a month later -i got another outbreak down there because of all the stress as my marriage hasn't worked out and I'm separating-- well this morning I woke up with my RIGHT THUMB feeling that burning sensation & it has extended to my arm (elbow area). When I touch, it is sensitive and it burns. PLEASE HELP, PLEASE TELL ME I CANT GET HERPES ON MY HANDS/ARMS. I have a 4 year old and I would hate to touch him anywhere and transmit this to him. I am always very careful to not touch the sores with my bare hands. Also, another question doubt I have, is - 1. If I'm wearing shorts and experimenting prodomes can my son sit on my lap? I always avoid skin contact between his/my legs because I'm scared the virus can transmit to him? Is this possible? 2. I am scared that I may have passed HSV2 to my arm because I sometimes put my hands between my thighs when sleeping--again, if virus is active /shedding is this possible to transfer to another body part? Anyone else experimenting this?

Looking for an H friend....adventurous woman (&& not in a sexual way) wanting to continue living life because it is great, and have someone in common! I'm 26 living in Chicago / Indianapolis area... Lets share some tea (or some wine) and our stories :)

I am so sorry MC is worse than Herpes I shall say... pesky little virus. I tried several things and honestly it worked. Eucalyptus oil (it burns but very effective) Apple cider vinegar, and the Barmicil. There was 1 bump I couldnt* get rid of that the docs burned out and it's gone forever. THANK GOD. Try all those and be very ocd about toilets, clothes, towels, wash everything with hot water.... @MsSweets

Hopefully he does not reject you. Stay strong. It is not pleasant to have but we cannot changethis.

Don't put your body under more stress because this "disease" feeds off that. It slowly gets better-2 years in and still have my rough days but then I remember the brilliant intelligent attractive woman that I am :)

Hahahah I have my Spanish keyboard and it autocorrects herpes to hérpes lol I don't know if I have HSV-1 as I've never had a cold sore but my husband does get cold sores -I'm assuming I prob caught it from him at this point /: I have never kissed my child for more than 2 seconds but then again-he is in daycare as well where he's at risk 24/7 with all the other kids. I would just hate for me to be the culprit. What is the average time for a "cluster" to develop? I think this is his 2nd/3rd day with the little red bump right on the line of his bottom lip and nothing has "formed" per say. I have gone to get tested and HOPEFULLY it comes back negative. Pray for my little boy. Thanks for answering!

I have type 2 and I've had an average of 2 VERY mild outbreaks through the year. I've had hsv2 for 2 years now....my husband has GSV1 and gets outbreaks quite often and worse than mine. It just depends on ones body, diet and stress level.

Please help! My son has a tiny little dot/pimple looking thing on his lower lip? I usually give him a 3 second peck and his lips but this morning he woke up with that? :( It's about the size of a pen tip. I thought k I may have caught hérpes from my husband he has both oral and genital herpes type 1. Two days ago I got an outbreak (very mild as usual) and I have Type2 so I grabbed the outer part of my inner leg/vaginal area but almost positive I didn't touch the sore in order to put this lotion on me and this morning i woke up to a burning sensation on my left index finger-no bumps or anything (my sore is on my left side of vagina) and scared that I may have caught hérpes on my finger now? Anybody with hérpes whitlow to tell me symptoms? PLEASE HELP. I don't want my 4 year old to have this nor do I want to have herpes on my finger. That would be the end of the world for me. :(

So I was diagnosed with HSV2 a while ago. Luckily I rarely get outbreaks and when I do, it's 1 small "pimple" that turns into a small sore, the location is quite "convenient" as well as I don't sit on it and barely hurts. (I'm a woman)Anyway, I talked to my cousin in Mexico and told her about my diagnosis. I was also diagnosed with Molloscum Contagiusm shortly after (I know right-terrible & thaat I don't know how I got it-as it's not necessarily considered an STD, but most likely it was through sexual contact with my ex... Anyway, to the point-my cousin had HPV and the doctor suggested she try "Barmicil" it's a Mexican cream that you place on the wart, or pimple etc. When I had molloscum (which were about 3 or 4 pimple looking things) I used it everyday along with diluted eucalyptus oil and it worked wonders. It was gone within a couple weeks and a year later it's permanently gone. I got an outbreak on Thursday and decided to try this lotion on my hérpes lesion, and today being Saturday my lesion is already healing. I don't know if it's the cream that worked or the fact that my outbreaks are pretty light (and rare). Either way I suggest it for anyone who is willing and needeing. It doesn't burn or anything. It's called Barmicil and you can find it at Mexican grocery stores (where I bought mine) it's about $10/$15 or you can buy online but that I am not certain! Wish a well recovery to anyone with an outbreak! :)