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  1. Just realised my last paragraph is making it sound like I am still sleeping with others while having a boyfriend. I meant that I have slept with 2 people - whom I had informed well before having sex - and then after being single again, started dating my Bf, whom I am in a committed relationship with, and taking aciclovir to try prevent contamination. Just to be clear
  2. I have. He didn't know. Also he has oral HSV-1 and gave me genital HSV-1. He was tested beforehand, but we now know they don't test for it as a standard procedure. He was in denial before he got tested for a few days, but as he knew I was a Virgin before him, he really had no place to go with that. That's what I had to forgive him.for, the fact that he was kind of saying I probably got it somewhere Else as he was clean and tested. Then both of our tests came back as HSV-1 and he realised it was him. But I was upset because he basically suspected me of lying about being a virgin. But I forgave him because we all go through stages of groef when faces with illness or negative experiences and he manned up within a few days. I'm just hoping he Will keep telling People for future contaminations. Pretty sure he doesn't. I have told everyone since my contaminations, and not a single has been negative about it. But I don't want to have to explain afterwards of pretend I didn't know. Especially because I am taking suppressive aciclovir to try to protect my boyfriend.
  3. Hi. I was infected as a 28-y-o Virgin during my first time, practicing safe sex september 2015. I was diagnosed with genital HSV-1 early October 2015. My first out real was horrible, was sick for 2 weeks, couldn't.move, couldn't pee. I was out on aciclovir as well. I kept getting outbreaks until my doctor prescribed suppressive therapy for me to take every day instead of periods of 10 days. I was on suppressive therapy for a few months, until I felt I wanted to try and see if I could go without. It would come back after a month mostly and I'd start up again with the meds. After a while, I was able to h without for Longer periods of time but I still get fluish every now and then. Right now, since early december, I'm in a new relationship with a wonderful man who knows and is supportive so I've started more regular suppressive therapy again, for him. I take half a pill three times per week. I had an outbreak for the first time since they relationship started so I've upped my meds and putting him on blowjobs only this week. He's fine with that :P Anyway. When. I was single, I was just taking occasional aciclovir when I was feeling symptoms, now, 16 months in, I'm taking suppressive therapy for restricting contamination purposes. I worked my way down to as little suppressive therapy as possible but I 'm not quitting because I don't want to get flu symptoms (not staying home from work for herpes symptoms) and I don't want to get my Bf contaminated. But if the symptoms in the beginning are close together and prevalentie, I'd suggest a few months of daily meds, just to get things going. Hope that's an answer you can do sth with.
  4. Hi, I was just wondering about the users on this forum who are on suppressive therapy to see how much everyone is on, etc. I looked in the search bar but In didn't come with much. Soooo, question time: How long have you been diagnosed? What suppressive are you on? How much do you take and what frequency? Do you still get outbreaks? I was diagnosed in September 2015, it was my PO. I take 1/2 of 400mg Aciclovir Sandoz per day. I started suppressive therapy late December and I had my first OB last week after a rampant weekend with the Bf and recovering from the flu.
  5. For the sake of being able to disclose to a current or future partner honestly and accurately? That's a pretty good reason.
  6. I was scared of disclosing to my new guy but he took it well. I told him he could rethink things, I told him he could ask questions any time he likes. He hasn't brought it up since our first conversation. He did once have a stint of worry, which he didn't name as a herpes scare. He was circulcised as a late teenager, because of right fireskin, so his penis is a little sensitive when it coles to a lot of friction (lol). He had a moment where he got very sensitive after a long night together and he said 'maybe I have an infection'. I think he kind of forgot I have herpes and when his penis started hitting, he all of a sudden remembered and got a bit worried. I didn't say anything specific but I did ask him every day how his penis was, so he could bring it up if he wanted to. And it was fine. So bringing it up Willy nilly isn't going to make him feel better about it. If he has anything to ask or say, he will probably donit. Until then you can assume he's okay, happily chugging along, in a relationship with you.
  7. I had something similar happen thus week. I got HSV last September. Last week I had the worst flu of my life. Then I spent the night with my guy. We kind of went for it because it was his last week before moving back to Spain for 6 months. The day after I had a sense of razor burn as well (I do shave down there) but ever so slightly. I thought it might've been from his Beard, he trimmed it that weak and was a bit raspier than usual. Then it became a dry patch and slight bumps along the dry line. I take half of a 400mg aciclovir a day. And now, on Saturday, I have a blister on the top edge of where the dry patch with the tiny bumps was. So yes, I sort of know what you mean, but I now know for sure it's an OB. That itchy bastaard is ruining my first run since I got sick lmao. But anyway, because it came in a line very reminiscint of how I shave and I just bought a new type razor that day, I think it might've been from shaving. But I'm not sure.
  8. I think he wanted to be sure I didn't get anything else either, I think. Which is silly, because if he was worried about me getting HIV, I couldn't be tested successfully after 2 weeks anyway. He doesn't usually do gyno stuff, I thought he was going to give me a referral, tbh.
  9. Haha, well, it's true. And hepatitis is actually very dangerous, unlike herpes. And it spreads through hands touching or drinking from eachbothers glasses, etc. Very dangerous. Thank goodness I found out.
  10. All things considered, you're doing really well! You are juggling so many things, you're 'ot being a cry baby at all. The ick factor will het so much better, I promise. You must be so stressed out. You won't have passed it to your child, the odds are tiny. I checked which foods to eat and which not at first too but after my po was over I kind of let that go. It's hard enough living a healthy lifestyle and picking healthy, yummy foods which sustain you and not spend oodles, I stopped factoring in herpes unfriendly foods. I don't know how to keep myself fed well without seeds, nuts, oats, lentils, coconut. Seriously? I'm active and like to take care of my weight, but I need to be able to eat my flaxseed cookies and almonds and coconut bread. And no gelatin or Chocolate? Really? I'm Belgian, not going to happen.
  11. Hi Sil! We met in June but became intimate in September. He took the test in November. I'm going to check if there's another way to take the test or if I should ask my GP for a specific test. But he's so incredibly laid-back about all this. Which in a way is great because there is no judgement. I live very healthily but I'm also very sensitive to many things so I'm actually not so surprised. I have very sensitive skin, many products I can't use, waxing gives me extreme rashes, I bruise like a peach, I get sunburn after 5 minutes in the sun if I don't use spf50+. I'm that person whose eyes water when someone else is cutting leak in another room. Even though I'm generally a very healthy person, I am incredibly sensitive, to temperature changes f.I. as well. Oh well. At least now I know and can warn people about my condition. Though with the possibility of it being hsv-2, my transmission rate might be Slightly above what I told the new guy, which I'm not happy about. At least I'm on suppressive therapy so there's that and I'm less likely to contaminate him than the other way around. Honestly, I couldn't imagine myself living in a world where the mother of the son of my guy hates me and may transmit that hatred on the child. That's not good for me, not good for the relationship and Def not good for the child. Once children are involved, everything else becomes secondary, my heart included. 2Legit, you remain an inspiration how you keep chugging along, kudos. I had painful shoots through the lower abdomen region for quite a while, some discharge and kept getting blisters well into November. I decided to self-medicate with the remainder of my meds from my first sibscription and got my symptoms onder control in 2 weeks. But after I ran out and went to get another prescription, I got another blister after 4 days off the meds. Safe to say I won't be testing to see how I do without for a good while. My meds will be paid back anyway for 5 years. Plus with the new guy (who's been tested for everything but herpes, like most), I'm not really willing to run the risk right now. Another positive of all this is that my GP found out I'm not vaccinated against hepatitis A&B, which could actually kill you, as opposed to HSV, so I've now had 2/3 shots for that as well. Turns out I was 1 year too old to get the free shots in school and he forgot to tell my mother 20 years ago. HSV might've saved my life :)
  12. I had a scan but I changed phones so it's buried somewhere deel down.
  13. His test results had the word 'negativo' next to hsv-2. Ugh if he's HSV 2 positive I'm going to have to contact me. This is such a mess. My current guy will be thrilled about this.
  14. I never stopped cycling and in the past month started running (I'm only doing 9k right now so nothing fancy yet). I had a horrible po, but I never stopped cycling. Unless the first 2 weeks because I was dying of fever and blisters and pain and could barely move. I'm on suppressive therapy now because my body didn't fight the virus very well. But even with a 2 month long outbreak (of mainly blisters and painful stings on the inside), I still cycled. I would definitely try to keep running. There's a good chance it will be manageable.
  15. He did. He came out positive for HSV-1. Value 60.9. He got 1.90 or something for hsv-2. Positive value being 5 or more. But I feel I need some additional testing since I got a very positive test not more than 2 weeks after being infected (value 80 when positive starts at value 5). Which I read here is practically impossible. Or is it possible to get antibodies very quickly? If not, I got it somewhere else and the only person I can imagine is the boy I gave head to a few years before, but that wouldn't explain why I got a genital infection in September. Anyway, how have you been? I'd been wondering how you've been doing.
  16. Hi all, I've gone awol for a good while, and first of all would like to apologise for posting and then not responding. This was a personal thing and I'm sorry to not follow up on my own panicky question. Anyway, I tried to beat the primary outbreak myself but it just wouldn't go away. My doctor proscribed me 5 days of aciclovir sandoz (4 per day) which did not do the trick. So I started taking half of one every day which did seem to help. When I ran out I made an appointment with my doctor to talk about taking them like this. So after I went to my appointment (4 days after I ran out) I got a blister, exactly 2 hrs after seeing him. So I had a conversation with him about suppressive therapy (I know I had a conversation with one of you lovely ladies about this and our Universal health care so this will interest you). So, basically, if you have 5 outbreak or more in a year, suppressive therapy will be suggested to you and paid back. Now, I brought it up myself and my doctor checked and suppressive therapy for HSV is paid back almost fully (like most medication) for 5 years after blood diagnosis. And then they reevaluate whether you van now fight it yourself or need to keep up with the medication. If outbreaks occur again, you can keep taking the meds and they will remain reemboursed. I asked him about my way of taking 1/2 pill a day and he said there isn't a sure fire way that works for everyone so as long as it works for me, it's okay. I also asked for a copy of my bloodwork. It came back at value 80, when a negative would be below 5 for this specific test. though it's just specified as 'herpes simplex', no number added. Anyway, the reason I was so panicky and spaced out at the time was because I was going through some terrible phase with the boyfriend. None of which had to do with HSV. His ex came into the picture and threatened to move continent if he didn't return to her. Which is something she would be able to do, realistically. He was torn and in the throws of all that he got the test and I was scared it could be a reason for him to end it with me if he thought I'd been lying. In the end I decided to take a step back and let him go, told him to just go back to his ex because his son is more important. And I figuren his son will be in his life forever, but so will the mother. If she can't say Goodbye to him, I can't deal with that drama. I love him but he needs to figure out his life before he starts something new. So they moved back in together. And they already broke up again as well. I think they're the type of couple who can't live with nor without each other so I just let them be. I don't want his child to grow up thinking I broke up his parents. Against all odds, I have met someone new, very soon, I know. Also Spanish speaking, and we're facing being long distance half the year as he's in and out the country for 6 months each time. He's kind and considerate. I disclosed to him on our 4th date. I told him he could reconsider dating me, tried to give him all the facts/risks as well as I could in Spanish and told him to take his time to think it through. But he didn't even blink an eye, asked some questions and let it go. I told him that if he went home and then changed his mind, he could still do it, I would totally understand. But he didn't. We're taking it slowly. I'm hoping to stay in touch this time as I'm not expecting any emotional tornados coming my way anytime soon. So basically, to summarize: I still don't know if it's HSV-1 or HSV-2 or maybe I misread my chart. Even though I consider it to be HSV-1, I have told the new guy it could be either. I'm now looking into getting tested again somewhere else, maybe the tropical institute. But my doctor also found out I haven't been vaccinated against hepatitis A and B so I'm sorting those out first. Anyway, long post as usual. How is everyone here doing?
  17. Hi, so I don't know how relevant my input here still is but I don't feel at all like my life is ruined. Had I known up front that I risked getting hsv because he told me about it, I had taken the risk. I don't regret 1 moment with him and am not at all upset. He didn't know, he didn't betray me. If I were your boyfriend I would do the things he did. He's an adult who can make his iwn decisions. Let him. You're abviously worth the risk to him. Had I known before, I still would have chosen to let him take my virginity. I love him.
  18. Hi all. My bf just got back his results and his values are 60.9for herpes type 1 and 0.60 for type 2. Should I phone my doctor because I haven't seen my results, he just said I was exposed to the virus. What do I do? He's not answering me. I'm scared he thinks I lied about being a virgin. Maybr I got it from going down on that 1 guy once 3 years ago? I did get a weird flu after that. I'm freaking out a little.
  19. Omg, I've been awol but I'm back. It's 2am here but I'll come back tomorrow and read through the whole thread and comment! Sorry, guys!
  20. I never want to live in a country without universal healthcare. I pay €85/year and I'm basically covered for anything. I have no idea how people afford to have health insurance in the States. And how they afford not to. Guess it's what you're used to.
  21. So I've been looking around for numbers in the Benelux. The stigma seems to be a lot smaller here (it's def not an STI that gets a lot of joking around, we're more likely to joke about chlamidia or syphilis here, which is equally bad I guess). I found some numbers, it said 75% of all genital herpes is HSV2 and 5-10% of adults are infected with HSV2. Which sloppily calculated would mean 6.5-13.5% of adults in Belgium and the Netherlands have genital herpes (disregarding the fact that some of the people with HSV2 might have it orally or elsewhere). I've also read that te go-to treatment is 5 days of antivirals on primary OB (wjich is hat I got prescribed too). Then moving into 'preemptive antiviral meds with each OB, if you suffer from 6 within a year, suppressive therapy will be actively suggested. I have found no info on what if you proactively ask for suppressive therapy bedre those 6 OBs. But I can imagine in Belgium, they would let you. There's a huge strain on our universal healthcare bit we pay a whole lot of taxes to make up for it. I tjink it would be down to individual doctors, I guess.
  22. Haha, about the sharing, being in this community feels like a whole TMI type thing anyway (even though it really shouldn't) so this was just fine. I was actually just about to post something myself on the topic so I'm glad you already mentioned it. My symptoms are finally really disappearing so yay. I started my period yesterday and against all odds, they didn't seem to kickstart my symptoms again so I'm pretty chuffed. How are you feeling?
  23. @JJJ2015 I've been off my meds since Tuesday (on GP's prescription) and am planning to see if my body is getting control of the OB by itself before I go for supressive therapy, but still had the sensitive skin (the pins and needles type feeling on thighs when you touch them etc). It was slowly fading away and I told the bf I was refraining from any 'fun' face time until I was sure everything was settled down but I might have had an accidental rambunctious moment (or 2, I keep thinking my OB is over and my bf is such a sweetheart oops) where I was fine until I climaxed and I felt a nerve sting from my clit to the right side of my groin. It's always the same place. And then it's like I feel my nerve endings existing, if that makes sense? Now the sensitive skin has weirdly moved from the thigh area to the back of my upper arm? Not sure if that's normal. So I have no explanation for you but I'm definitely having a similar reaction. So yeah, I've now told the bf that we def need some downtime on the playtime because I don't want to risk still struggling with my OB next time we see each other, if I can help it. He's super supportive but we always end up doing things I shgould be avoiding :) But yeah, it sucks balls, tbh. This is the hardest part right now for me. Not getting frisky with my latin bae :( And it's really hard to tell when it's safe to go for it again. I don't kow how to estimate it. So I can't help you, but I'm hoping someone else will pop up?
  24. I disclosed to my bf with Whatsapp and hated, but he dragged out of me while I was in the doctor's waiting room before getting tested. I would have preferred telling him in person (which wasn't an option) or at least on video chat but I caved. He took it fairly well but that migjt be because he with 100% certainty infected me. Obviously it was a different situation but I wouldn't want to be disclosed to by text, tbh. Whether in a casual or committed context, I'd want to see the person's face. I'd also be a lot more likely to want to take the risk of contamination if the person sat me down face-to-face. Now my boyfriend might be a person to talk things out by text and then phone me/video chat with me when everything is sorted out. So I guess it just depends on the person you're dealing with. Some may even prefer it. I wouldn't.
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