grapeofwrath

Hi - looking for a friend in the South Bay area of Los Angeles, male or female. I was diagnosed nearly 12 years ago and got it from my husband. I've been divorced for almost 6 years and so far it hasn't been a deal breaker until just recently. I only have one other friend who has it and it would be nice to have more people to talk to about it. Thanks!

Thank you so much, Bambina3! I'm overwhelmed by the support here!

Thank you! Once again I agree. The difficult part was at first he seemed engaged and put in a lot of time getting to know me, and he did seem more genuine than a lot of others I have dated in the past. Because of that I had higher hopes for this one so the rejection hit much harder than expected.

It absolutely is... Hopefully someone new on here, can gain that knowledge from your post and do the right thing. When did you last hear from him? @2Legit2Quit: we've only been texting a little as "friends", but I'm thinking he just wanted to remain friends to alleviate some guilt... @everyone: I can't thank you enough for your kind support! You're amazing, and have made me feel so much better. It's been a shameful, lonely road and I'm thankful to now be a part of this wonderful community.

Once again, thank you. I always have because I feel it's the right thing to do.

Thank you so much! :)

I'm a 44-year-old, divorced female. My husband gave me herpes and it devastated me. I know I stayed in my marriage a lot longer than I should have because I was so ashamed and felt no one would want to be intimate with me. I've been divorced for nearly 6 years now, and have had a few partners within that time with whom I have disclosed everything up front and they have been accepting, and I have been extremely careful not to transmit. They are all fine to date. I know I am not the first to go through this, but recently I met a wonderful man with whom I really hit it off. I felt we had a wonderful connection and had very high hopes for a relationship. However, I disclosed I had herpes because it was looking as if it were going in that direction, and he shut me out. He initially said it was all new to him and wasn't a deal breaker, and that he needed more information. I encouraged him to do all the research he needed and and tried my best to make him feel comfortable and more at ease. Two days later he told me he didn't need any more complications in his life and that he just wanted to be friends. This is the first time I've been rejected and it hurts tremendously. There was nothing I could do or say to change his mind, even though he readily admitted he didn't know a lot about it. I'm so frustrated, confused, and downright despondent at times. I knew it had to happen at some point, but didn't realize it would hurt this much. Having the talk always leaves me raw and vulnerable, and now being rejected on top of all that is just too much. My hope is that he does care enough to eventually do the research and hopefully look past it and see me as a caring, loving person with a lot to offer, but it's not looking good. Please, any support will help. Thanks.