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WorkingOnIt

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  1. Can HSV2 pass to the mouth from oral sex while having an active outbreak? Unfortunately, I just received oral sex without knowing that I had an outbreak, none of the signs were present, I just decided to look in the mirror and saw a scab forming. I'm not completely sure if it is indeed a herpes sore if it was a cut from the previous time healing over, but if it is, is it possible that it transferred over to my partner?
  2. Ok yeah. I'll just look at it that way then. Thank you
  3. Hey all. I'm back after some time and I can honestly say this isn't as big as a deal as I initially thought it was. However I do have a question. My boyfriend and I have decided we no longer want to use condoms because, to be honest, we both seem to be in it for the long haul. He understands the risks and we don't really talk about it unless we have to talk about it. But now we have to talk about it. Currently I'm not on my meds because he's away and I havent had any outbreaks since the original one in October (thank God) and long story short, I don't see the point in taking the meds. He said he stands behind whatever choice I make because he plans on making it work with me forever (I told him all of this and he's supportive) but I'm split on not taking the meds and upping his chances to 4% or taking it for 2%. I'm nervous. And I know he's an adult and can make his own decisions HOWEVER, I don't want to be responsible for giving it to him and I told him that as well. I do remember a post about someone only taking their meds when they felt it coming but otherwise, not, and having unprotected sex with their partner for years while not passing it. I'm currently at a cross roads, I want to do everything possible not to pass it but I also don't see the need if it's not acting up. My doctor also agreed there was no need for a suppressive dose but again, I wanna lower those chances as much as possible so I'm stuck.
  4. Uh I'm fairly new to being diagnosed myself and I can honestly say, your friend will be ok whether or not you have sex with him or not. Put him onto this site because when I say it has helped soooooo much. I've only been diagnosed for a month and a half and while I do still have my bad moments (not days anymore, thank God), I'm mostly positive about it. It's literally a skin condition and he'll find someone to accept him through it. Also, a lot of what I've read has said the longer we have it, the less it'll rear its head and that we'll soon forget about it until we remember it lol. But as far as you risking yourself, that's solely up to you. There is medication that he can take to lower his shedding, i.e. transmission rates, which will cut the chance of you getting it in half. Since you're against condoms, his transmission rate will be 2.5% if I'm not mistaken. I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong. I don't know what to say to this besides its your choice if you want to chance it or not but even if you don't and he does have it, be there for him. When I found out, my best friend was there through all my tears and feelings of worthlessness and one day she sat me down and gave me some tough love and after that, I felt sooooo much better. And like I said, this site in itself is a blessing. So if he has it and you decide to engage and get it too, y'all will both be ok. This isn't as bad as I thought it was when I first found out. The hardest part was telling my now boyfriend and he accepted me and it fully, hence "now" lol.
  5. Hey guys. So I'm still getting used to this diagnosis and my initial HSV2 outbreak was a month and a half ago. From my diagnosis, I started Valtrex and did suppressive therapy, if you can call it that, for about 2 weeks, 3 weeks max. I then had a few tingle tingles down there but nothing broke through. It was nothing like the first run through though and I don't know if an actual outbreak didn't happen because I started treatment just in case or what. And I must admit, the initial outbreak was mild and I probably wouldn't have noticed if I wasn't routinely checking after psyching myself out. Anyway, I have a cold right now and I've been pretty stressed as of late because its finals week here in college and I'm extremely worried that I contracted HIV during the same encounter but through all of that, no outbreak. Not even prodrome. I'm only feeling a tingle right now as I type this and I think its because I'm thinking about it in the moment. Does this mean that I have gone asymptomatic or something else? I read that 80% of here cases are asym but does that mean after the initial outbreak or before? Really, the reason I'm asking is because I'm curious. I think I've come to terms with this situation but I still have questions that pop up in my head throughout the day. Thank you.
  6. lol. got mine down the week after i found out, these nails are 4 weeks strong. no they will not break easily
  7. Is it possible to imagine having prodrome. I've been having a slight sensation for about a week now. I've taken my medicine for five days, twice a day now today and have had no outbreak (espisodic treatment right now). The sensation doesn't feel like the first go around a month and a half ago and I've read to take the sensation as viral shedding but if viral shedding only happens a percent of days, it can't be that, right? Could I just be imagining it or is it actually prodrome? HSV 2 btw. Also I was reading up on some forum posts and saw that most herpes infections happen during asymptomatic shedding but how is that possible? Granted people who know they have virus are less likely to pass the virus because we can recognize symptoms and such but if asymptomatic shedding is so low, how is it still passed that way more than? And the stat is that there's a 4% chance of passing it during no active outbreak and no medicine/condom use so that also makes me wonder how it's more common to pass during asymptomatic shedding And one more thing, I had sex with the person I got it from twice over a two week timespan. The first time, it was unprotected(stupid I know) and the second time, we used a condom. However I broke out three days after the second encounter. Or immediately after the second time we had sex. I'm not too sure but I can clock the exact time I started getting worried was three days after the second encounter. It was a non stop discomfort. Then I broke out Saturday night/Sunday morning. That would mean that it was 13 days out from the first encounter when the tingle started and then 17 days out for the actual outbreak to occur. But it was 3 days out from the second encounter and 7 days for the actual outbreak. I keep thinking the unprotected encounter resulted in the infection since my outbreak was on my labia minora but I'm not so sure anymore because I've been reading that people usually have their outbreaks a few days after being infected (so for me, my second encounter, the protected one). This is starting to freak me out now because I gave him unprotected oral sex (stupid I know) during the second encounter so if I got it the second time, and not the first time like I thought, it's now possible for me to have it in my mouth as well, right? And I don't think I would be as worried as much if I didn't have a boyfriend that I'm trying to protect to my full advantage. He knows about the situation and we used a condom when we had sex but I don't know, I'm still worried that he'll get it from me and that's the last thing j want
  8. Fron everything I've read and from answers from other people on this site, it's possible but a 1-2% rarity and if it does happen, recurrences is will be little to none and shedding is low. Like *low low*
  9. Oh no lol. I know. No contact w the infected area if I feel something. I was referencing ME doing the favor. But all your advice is noted. Thank you.
  10. I'm not sure if I will have outbreaks on my mouth. My giver has HSV2, I have HSV2 but that was confirmed through a swab. My blood work was negative everything so I'm not sure if I have HSV1 too or if I'm just part of the rare HSV2 in your mouth group and its frustrating. My initial outbreak, I had a burning sensation on my mouth. Nothing came of it but I don't know if it was because of my antivirals or because nothing was there. Now I'm having a less burning sensation on the OTHER side of my mouth that came out of NOWHERE. It was intense at first but now its dull. I don't know what to make of this and its frustrating the beejezus out of me
  11. No. My doctor took me off suppressive but I think I'm gonna start it again because it makes me feel better about it. And the tingle does mean to abstain right? Just to be completely sure? I've been monitoring it and no physical breakthrough yet. Well at least i don't think so. I can't tell the difference yet
  12. @2Legit2Quit Ok so I have two more questions that I'll just ask here since you answer all of my posts anyway lol. I think I may be having another outbreak coming on but I'm not sure. It's a slight tingling sensation but I know it can just be my mind because my first one was like a *tingleeeeee* that just wouldn't go away but this one just seems like "eh, you may be thinking it's there." I just took my medicine anyway to start the 3 day treatment. Secondly, I feel the need to ask in case this is an outbreak. I'm currently seeing someone negative for HSV, any strains, and I know you can't participate in sexual activity when having an outbreak but since mine is HSV2 and if doesn't travel up into my mouth, can I still participate in *those* activities for him? And thanks btw, you and this site have helped a lot w my dealing w this. I appreciate it. *update: the tingle went away but I feel like it'll be right back*
  13. I know I've been posting a bit but just trynna gather as much info as I can. I know it's extremely rare that HSV2 will be found in the mouth but what if my partner gives me oral sex, is it possible for the HSV2 virus to travel southbound and start breaking out on his genitals? I viewed the FAQ and couldnt find the answer.
  14. The bump on my lip? Even though it didn't flare or ulcer? It wasn't painful and the doctor said there was no fluid on it so it couldn't even be swabbed
  15. She's a OGBYN. She said since its a medication that effects the liver, I shouldn't take it everyday unless the outbreaks start happening frequently.
  16. HSV2 positive. When I was diagnosed, I was given the valtrex, twice a day for seven days. After it was confirmed, she sent in a prescription for another bottle. I thought it was for suppressive therapy so I've been taking one a day. I went back yesterday for a check up and she told me no, I wasn't supposed to use it everyday, only when I felt an outbreak coming on. I was confused and asked her why because I read it cuts transmission rates and she said only slightly and that 1% difference isn't worth taking the medicine. Something about benefits to risk and since it doesn't benefit me much, no need to take it every day and the only time I would need to is if I start having 6-8 outbreaks a year. But I want my partner to be safe when we have sex. And I know 1% from 2% isn't a big difference but it's more assuring. So I'm not sure whether or not to take her advice. It's bothering me
  17. The bump went down. Barely here anymore. Never amounted to anything. The cuts in my mouth are fully healed now so I can't get a picture now but it wasn't like you said yours was so again, I think I'm overthinking everything. I keep thinking I contracted HIV along w herpes so I'm looking at every little thing that happens to me
  18. I've been getting little cuts in my mouth for about two weeks now. One here, one there, it would heal in a day. Then, as posted previously posted, I got a bump on my lip. No prodrome, no blisters, just a bump. A literal bump. I posted a discussion about it and everyone said it was probably nothing so I chalked it up to my lips being chapped and it healing. Then I get a cut on my tongue. Its been here for a day, healing. But now, yesterday morning, I woke up with a weird taste in my mouth along a piece of my gum line. I ran my tongue across it, didn't hurt. It was fine. I looked in the mirror today and it *looks* like its healing. Its mostly a white patch with a red part in the middle that runs into my gum line. Feels rough, doesn't hurt. Don't know its even there until I touch it. Could it be HSV1? I started googling (bad idea, I know) and saw intraoral herpes. Kinda looks like what I have but not really. I go to the doctor tomorrow but I'm scared it'll heal before I can get a swab. (Its confirmed via culture swab I have HSV2 BUT my blood work came back negative for both, infection too early. The guy I got it from, HSV2. I gave him unprotected oral sex a week after the encounter that I'm 95% sure gave me the virus. I don't want to have HSV1 and not know it because that is much easier to spread, something I do not want to do. )
  19. Hey guys. I'm going through it emotionally wise right now and I gotta vent. I feel like no one who knows about my situation knows how I feel and I just gotta let it out. It's been built up. I've been dealing with this situation pretty well I would think. I still can't say "herpes" without a shiver right now but I know I'll get there. But anyways You know, recently diagnosed with herpes. Because of a stupid mistake, you know? One of those things you wish you could change but can’t. And after the initial shock, I got over it you know? Like I’m stronger than it. I’m stronger than that. But the only people that know are my parents, my best friend, the boy who gave it to me, and the boy I’m interested in. And my best friend now has an interest that goes to our school. So she forever occupied. Sucks. Because I’ve yet to meet him yet. But I’m sure our other friend as. You know, a little best friend jealously here. And the boy I’m interested in, he says he’s okay with it, he said he still wants to move forward but I don’t know. I hope he’s telling the truth. Because right now, I feel lonely. Like really, really lonely. And I feel like no one’s ever gonna want me. You know, because of the herpes. And I know it’s not true but when two of your closest friends are in relationships and your interest isn’t contacting you as much as before you told him, you feel like garbage. Absolute garbage. And I know I need to chill but it’s hard. My emotions at a 6 right now. I don’t want them to be. But I’m a big girl, you know? I can handle it. I got God so nothing’s against me, huh? Exactly. I don’t know man. Life’s tough right now and I don’t want it to be. I just, yeah, it sucks. But after every storm, there’s sunshine so yeah. Life.
  20. When I asked, she told me it was the BV infection because I had no presence (well over production) of yeast and the itching started after everything cleared up. I wasn't even itching during the outbreak, just felt really sore. But that would make sense too. Still learning everything.
  21. You may have a bacteria infection. I went to a doctor before I was officially diagnosed, same symptoms. Rash, itching, irritation. I'm pretty sure I was having my prodrone now as I look back at it. Anyway, she put me on yeast infection medication. Nothing. I asked her if I was having a bacteria vaginitis, she said no, it would have shown in my urine sample. Went to the gynecologist, she tested my sores, came back with not only HSV2, but what else? Bacterial vaginitis. It was a constantttttt itch and it only got worse of I scratched. She put me on the right medication and I felt better within a couple of days. Could he that
  22. @2Legit2Quit oh ok no. I don't feel any liquid in it. And I noticed it last night I think I may be over analyzing everything that's happening with my body right now since this is all recent.
  23. @2Legit2Quit I'm not sure what a blister feels like to be honest. It's kind of hard, not really. It doesn't hurt. It's just there. It's just like a piece of my lip that raised. I'm not sure what to make of it
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