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ah Ajmj...there is no way to predict..if he can see how truly wonderful you are then he will deal with it accordingly..it wont be a big deal. Then you will know you have a keeper..if he gets all freaked out..then you know he was not worth your time...OR he may just need some time to adjust to it. ..so be kind to him too...any way... go on to this forum and you will see the herpes talk, disclosing. That will give you an idea of others experiences. Let me know how it goes, I will be sending you positive and warm thoughts. Good luck

ok...I am one week into this new "discovery" and i just got back from seeing my Dr and discussing my options...I really really want to not take any drugs..i did take a prescription to fill "just in case" but would like to keep my OB's down with diet and such. Is there anyone else that is doing that..changing the way you eat, yes to some things, no to others, certain exercises, supplements, something what will help me to not have to take the drugs...I will of course if I have to ..but my experience in the past is that drugs and I do not get along very well and i am trying there for to avoid any if I can. So all you wonderful H friends out there..i am open and ready for all advice. Bring it on!!!

Hazeleye...I am new to my diagnosis and I am still working on dealing with it, I don't know where I got H but my earlier life was pretty loose and i imagine I got because of all those wrong decisions I made before i married my husband of 10 years. The hardest part was telling my husband..he is a wonderful Christian man and is helping to raise my grandson as if it is his own child. I felt so awful having to share this news with him, and he took it very well. What I am telling you is that your life is not over, you are a young healthy (Herpes is a skin virus and is not fatal) woman and you have years ahead of you to find someone else and be happy. ..or just be happy on your own..do your research..there are alot of us out there...this is a great site to use for encouragement and answers and just someone to talk to..we are all here to support you during your journey....take care

Thank you both so much for your positive comments, it is like I suddenly have friends I can talk to about this disease... because you are right..who really do you talk to...I know you understand, the fear, the sorrow.. it makes it soooo much easier knowing you are here for me to talk to. I told my husband, and he has handled it to this point very well..said he thought that might be the case, that I would have herpes because he just didn't think it could be shingles..I guess he was afraid to say something too...he seems more worried about me since I (in his words) don't seem to be handling this very well. I should be handling it better, i guess, for goodness sakes i am 57 years old, I have been through so many more difficult things in my life then this....I had natural child birth for goodness sakes, three times....what the hell...but this is so different...this is forever and it isn't a nice forever... and I hate having a pity party..I mean really..someone needs to tell me to buck up!!! But until then.....thanks..you have no idea how important this site is to me right now!!!! I was afraid no one would comment on my post...that even here I wouldn't have any one to talk to...Thank you for your feed back and your prayers..blessings to you!

I don't know when or from whom I got this virus..I know that I have had it about 10 years without going in and getting a for sure diagnosis...my first Dr. said sounds like shingles and I just went with that because I was scared it might be something I would have to face and share..I had just got married...was not young..was 47..kids all grown..raising a grandson with this wonderful Christian man..I wasn't who I had been..didn't want to believe I could have this "sexual" disease. Plus mine is in such a weird place, on my right butt and nothing and no where else, except this time it isn't going away, just keeps reinfecting the area, then drying up and starting all over again, and my lymph is huge ..hard to ignore that. well Just got back from my Dr appt... did the test..she thinks it is for sure herpes..now have to deal and am having a hard time..really hard..I read your discussions before I went in and your positive feelings helped me make that appointment and finally face the truth I had already really known. What a coward I have been and I wish I had handled this years ago because now I have to tell my husband and deal with all that this entails..and being menopausal doesn't help and now I have been weeping since I got home. Thanks for being here...