Thanks for your note. I really relate to a lot of what you say. For example I realized that I too was getting ahead of myself, when I started stressing about this after only 2 dates. Now I have been seeing this guy just over a month, we will go on our 8th date this weekend. I really like him and can visualize a relationship with him, and I feel like he feels the same way. So now it is really time. But first, I have to have another talk with him, because I don't want to sleep with him unless he is willing to be exclusive with me. I will have that talk first... and if I decide he is worthy, I will then have the H talk. Over the last month I have really gotten to a much better place in my own mind. I know I have a lot to offer, and that H is such a minor and insignificant part of who I am. I plan to present the news as casually as I can, not a big deal, because that is the truth for me. He is 52 years old and has been single for 10 years, so I have a feeling he has probably come across H with other women in the past. Hopefully he is as cool about this as he has been about everything else so far. Wish me luck friends! I will check back in after the talk. Thanks so much to all of you for the support, it is so helpful.