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  1. @inspired32 I'm so happy to hear that! Yay!!!!! It sounds like you've got a pretty great guy. I wish you the very best. Blessings and love always! XOXO
  2. @inspired32, my best and only advice would be to wait until you feel in your heart you're ready. I had friends tell me I should tell him, but I felt very unsettled doing it. I'm glad I went with my gut. I think you should wait until you're at peace with the fact that the individual may or may not accept it... and you feel you'll be okay either way. I definitely know how you feel in regards to wanting to touch him. I did other things (foreplay), nothing that would put him in danger though. I'm rooting for you. Take your time...remember, this is about YOU not the other individual. He/she will not die if you don't have sex with hin/her. I think it's important to take your time and be ready. This is just a suggestion, I don't know everything, but I do know waiting literally SAVED me! Xoxo! Here for you.
  3. @inspired32 , hey there! Well, I decided not to disclose... I waited a little longer and I'm glad I did. When they say "H" isn't such a bad thing they are right! If I didn't have this little secret I probably would have slept with him already, but I'm so thankful I didn't. Long story short: Mr. Perfect turned out to be the "Best thing I Never Had." He was still in a relationship with his ex and he was riding the fence... asking me to wait until he could decide if he wanted to be with me or with his ex. There were several other red flags I started noticing slowly after that. I am totally done with him and grateful he never got the goods, haha. I'm also grateful that I didn't tell him my secret. I'm learning not everyone deserves to know the deep intimacies/flaws about you. I have started dating my ex again... I disclosed to him and he's been AMAZING! He's loving, thoughtful and considerate. His words exactly were "oh... well, you're still the same amazing girl I fell in love with 8 years ago.
  4. I love these videos! Awesome, awesome, awesome! Thank you so much! I will let you know if and when the discussion takes place.
  5. Adrial, when do you know the time is right to disclose? I know you have to before sex but... is there like a perfect time? I feel like I'm lying by not saying anything... but I also feel like right now it's not his business.
  6. Thank you Adrial! I still haven't disclosed. He's bouncing back in forth in regards to me and his ex which he feels guilty for leaving. I'll wait until he is 100% he wants to be with me. He does tak about sex A LOT and that makes me nervous. I feel like I should come clean, but techniqually it's not his business yet, right? Man, why is this so hard!!!
  7. I met a man who is simply amazing. I wasn't looking for a relationship, but hey, life happens. Anyway, I found out I was HSV2 positive in January... I've dated since, then, but I've never disclosed because we were never intimate. I have a feeling the conversation is quickly approaching. I really would like to have it before the year is up. During a phone convo he asked if I had any STDs, I grew dangerously silent! I didn't deny it, but I didn't say yes either. I was soooo NOT ready for the convo at that point. I met this amazing man at work. He was in a serious relationship (close to marriage) but he called it off when he realized how deeply he felt for me. We've since been hanging out, kissing A LOT, and etc. I know this convo is just around the corner. I'm weirdly at peace with the conversation, but at the same time I'm so irritated I have to have the conversation. Any tips? Words of advice? This guy is truly everything I've ever prayed for.... I need to go about this correctly. Thank you
  8. @2Legit2Quit, @Sayywhatt hey you guys! Sorry it's been a minute. I was taking a break from the site as I was visiting every single day and I needed to normalize my life and not think about this so much. My guy and I are still talking. He's such a sweetheart. He's coming to visit in May. He actually didn't end up coming this month because of football... He's starting to tell me how much he likes me, misses me, and can't wait to see me. It's making me nauseous because honestly I feel the same way but i've put a wall up to avoid having to have the talk. I don't plan to sleep with him so...the talk isn't necessary right now. He did say he isn't interested in anything serious right now (as he is in college and doesn't have much to offer a woman right now) so I figure i'll hold off until he's at least wanting to date me...then i'll break it to him. I was doing fine for a while...but today has been hard and emotional. I want to get into a corner and cry!!! I text my ex to see if he ever went and got tested and he still hasn't...not sure why..Anyway. I am still in awe this has happened to me. I'm scared to DEATH that my new guy is going to run for the hills when i tell him. That would literally crush my spirit. My mom has been supportive but she did tell me when she sees me she sometimes thinks about it and it makes her sad. That made me feel even worse. I plan to tell my little sister this weekend as practice to see how she handles it and how i disclose of it. This guy is truly amazing and I just can't imagine sitting down and telling him this. He tells me often he can't believe he is talking to me still...and how amazing I am. Every time he says it I want to scream and cry... if he only knew... :( I'm sad today...but I know the sun will shine tomorrow. Thanks for the kind words and words of encouragement! Love y'all!
  9. @sayywhatt you think disclosing earlier is better? Wow... well I'm not sure yet. I'm going to have to feel this thing out. Since we are long distance, I will check our vibe around each other, etc when we're together and make the decision. I really feel its best to wait and see if he's worth telling...I appreciate your input and I will definitely be using you as my PM buddy if it's okay. Thanks so much for all of your input. :)
  10. @2legit2quit @WCSdancer2010 thank you both so much! I really love this community. I feel like we're one big happy family, lol. You're both absolutely correct. He and I have continued talking...he's brought up sex a few times and I act my normal self...I don't usually rush into sex in any relationship so... I'm not too worried about turning him down if he tries it, lol. Anyway, I've decided I'm not going to share until I feel in my heart i'm ready to disclose something so intimate to him. I've made this about him the entire time...I forget I have to accept him (compatibility, etc.) as well...so thank you both! I'll let you know how the dinner date goes in March anyway and if I feel the need to disclose in the future. I lost $180 to him this weekend over the stupid Super Bowl bet...i almost cut him off after that because i thought he'd be a gentlemen and tell me to keep my money, hahaha...he didn't... we'll see if we make it to March. Much love! xoxo
  11. @justagirl72 I'm new to all of this, so I won't give advice. I do want to applaude you though on your confidence and ability to just lay it on the table. Do you think you can just ask him if he has any questions from your recent conversation? I hope everything is going well with you all! :)
  12. @2legit2quit thank you for the reality check! You're actually right... I need to take things one step at a time. I should focus on IF I even like him and care about him enough to expose my heart and share this personal thing about me. I will slow down and not romanticize it.... That's very hard because I tend to do that! Have you dated long term since your diagnoses?
  13. Oh and by the way... He did mention to me that he is germaphobic... which makes this even worse!!! I just stared off into space when he said it..I was thinking, "GREAT!!!"
  14. Hello friends, I have been talking to an amazing man. He's 7 years younger than I am (I'm 27) and he's one of the kindest most amazing guys I've met in a long time. I was uneasy about dating him initially because he's so much younger than I am, but he wore me down and I decided to give it a shot. I found out I tested positive for HSV2 about three weeks ago. He and I haven't done anything outside of kissing... We talk every day (he's in Nevada away at college...he plays college football), FaceTime often and talk on the phone. He's coming to visit in March for about a week and I'm starting to get mortified. I can feel myself wanting to just shun him to avoid the conversation I have to have. I keep thinking why would he want to date me after finding this out? He's young, successful and he has so much going for him (not to say I don't because I'm proud of my many achievements). He says things like "I'm so happy I met you", "you're so easy to talk to" and making plans and dates for the summer. It really makes this so hard! I'm not sure if I should tell him in march or wait until the summer. I want to cry!!!! I've never been the promiscuous type. I've been with only a few guys and of course this is an ego bruiser! Should I disclose in March? Or wait until June when I have more confidence? Any and all advice is accepted. Success stories/how to's, etc. thank you all so much, I'm thank you for each of you. Much love always! <3
  15. @2legit2quit I will start journaling. I don't necessarily have full blow outbreaks but the random pain muscle pain is quite annoying. Wow! At 21? That's interesting. Well...I will keep that in mind. I really am starting to believe whoever is meant to be with you will be regardless. :).
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