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Gimmehope

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  1. Hey there, I got diagnosed 2 years ago and ended up in a relationship with someone who was very kind about it, but it definitely messed with our love life given his hatred of condoms. Now I'm out of the relationship and really nervous about getting out there again. Any tips or advice or inspiration? Much appreciated.
  2. Does anyone feel weird when friends are talking about their spontaneous sex stories? For those of you using condoms, does it get you down? Do you have any good tips/tricks for still having fun with sex with HSV? I used to be love doing it in crazy place, spontaneous time, but now this has taken that spark out of me. Miss it.
  3. I'm wondering if anyone has had this experience - I have never been able to figure out what my OB looks like. I'm sorry if that's gross, but hey, we know we have to check so I feel safe here. Every time I feel a tickle I look with a mirror and I just can't tell...it could be an OB, or it could just be a normal, oversized follicle. Has anyone had this difficulty? It's weird because if I feel a tickle and my bf wants to have sex, I just can't tell if I'm safe or not. If you have had this experience, what do you do? Do you go to your gyno and have them tell you if that's it?
  4. I'm wondering how folks feel about spontaneous sex with discordant couples? Does anyone else feel kinda...sad when hearing other couples talk about their spontaneous sex (without condoms) stories? I miss that the most, the random places and excitement. I would love to hear how you cope with the jealousy? Does anyone else have a tough time hearing about friends' sex lives?
  5. First of all, thank goodness for this forum. Life savers. So, this is kinda weird, but I still don't know how to surely know whether I have an OB or not. I don't know what they look like when I check, and I'm slightly confused. I've also read on here that people will check consistently for signs of it before sex even if they don't feel any side effects, which makes me think that they can just show up without pain? My first OB wasn't that painful (super lucky, I know) and now I'm just confused about what to do to make sure I am clear. There is a little piece of skin that could so easily be it, or not, it doesn't feel weird when poked. Is it usually obvious for you all? In your first years of diagnosis was it easy to pinpoint whether you were having an OB or not? Should I just be going to my gyno every time I see something that may be it and ask her to tell me if that's a OB or not? Thank you!!!!
  6. Have you ever had confusion about whether you're having an OB or not? Whether the tiniest tickle is a shedding?
  7. @Turquoise621 We talked about it at the beginning and I was insistent on using condoms bc I'd be wrought with guilt if I passed it. He agreed. We are still using condoms but he's mentioned he dreads having sex sometimes because of them. It would be terrible if he left because of that bit, I can't really do anything about that? And I'm worried I will never find anyone else that's ok with this.
  8. How have people done it, get used to the idea of using condoms forever? Did you get depressed at bachelorette parties? How did you ever feel normal again? Any mind tricks or helpful hints? The idea of doing that forever is getting me so down, I can't wrap my head around it. Thank you.
  9. Holy crap that was wonderful to read. Thank you I will definitely reach out,appreciate the offer very much
  10. Thanks surfsup. If I may ask, did you have the experience of going condomless with a meg partner? What was that convo like? How did you oh decide, and did you feel more nervous passing it on? If you've not had this experience please disregard and thanks anyway!
  11. Hey there. I've had H for about a year now, and am beyond blessed to have a loving partner. However, we've been having way less sex the last half a year, and last weekend he disclosed that he dreads having sex because of having to put on a condom. He's not complaining or blaming, but was just honest. Has anyone ever had this experience? Any tips? I can't help feeling guilty and am worried to lose him to a lifetime of condom use. I've tried lots of different brands and types. Any thoughts appreciated! Thanks
  12. I've had H for about a year. My partner, who is H negative, is incredibly loving and patient. This past weekend, I think we had sex during an outbreak. I didn't think it was it at the time, it was in a different place and it felt different, now I think I may have done something truly terrible. I can't stop crying, it's hard to work. The idea of giving it to someone so good is too much to bear. Every time we have sex (always with condoms) I worry about whether I have an outbreak and just don't know. The sex doesn't seem worth the heart-wrenching anxiety? Has anyone had these feelings before? How do you deal with it, the possibility of giving it to someone you love or enjoying sex again? Also, the day before the outbreak (worst one in a year), I missed one day of Acyclovir after taking it religiously for a year. What are the chances missing a day could have caused it?
  13. Hey folks, I would really appreciate any wise words on a current state of mind. I am lucky enough to have found a partner who is OK with my diagnosis, but I wonder if I am being too paranoid about outbreaks. We will go for long bouts without sex because I feel an itch that "could be" an outbreak, even though I can't visually see anything. Did anyone have paranoia or feelings like this after being diagnosed? I got diagnosed 6 months ago and am very new to this. We use a condom all the time but our relationship has been strained with all the time we go sex-less because I am so nervous. Most of the time when I "check" down there, I can't see anything at all. I can't see any bumps I would classify as abnormal, but the itches are familiar. Any wisdom on how to tell whether I'm having an outbreak or just paranoid would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!
  14. Hi there- I'm wondering if someone with more knowledge/experience could help me understand how to make sure whether I am having an outbreak or not. I am a female, and the other day I checked twice before having sex with my partner. (with condom) I didn't see anything down there, but then I'm not sure if I ever have. There's always something new every time I look. I just go by the feeling of any itches, which could potentially be paranoia because so many things can cause itches...ingrown hairs, etc. My paranoia is potentially getting in the way of our sexual relationship because we won't have sex for a long time as soon as I feel anything. Does anyone have a method for how to know whether they're having an outbreak...even if they don't see anything? What does it feel like to you? I did have the sex and now I am so nervous I may have passed it on accidentally. Please help.
  15. Hey there, Does anyone have any stories or thoughts to share about having sex without condoms? I am in a new relationship and while the guy is very kind about using condoms, the thought of condoms for the rest of our lives is so insanely depressing. Has anyone ever stopped using condoms in a relationship? How long did it take you? Did you wait til marriage? What are the chances of passing it without a condom, not during an outbreak, and on antiviral meds? Thank you!!
  16. Hey, I was wondering to hear about people's stories and thoughts about eventually going condom-less? I've talked to some people who, after a few years, got to know their body well enough and only used condoms during outbreaks. Some people even put liquid bandaid on that area. Does anyone have stories (hopefully success) about going condom-less? Thoughts? Thank you!
  17. Hello all. Can't tell you how grateful I am for this forum. Saving my life. If anyone has words for me, I would so much appreciate it. I got diagnosed about a month ago and the outbreak was rather mild. This is lucky pain-wise but terrible for knowing when an outbreak is happening. Shortly after, I met an incredible man. We have had sex with condoms since then and he was OK with it, but is still processing. The other night, we had a bit too much wine and I let him go down on me without a dental dam. I don't know if it was the wine, or the feeling of being normal for a minute, but I didn't stop him. I could have sworn there was no outbreak but a few hours later, I felt something under his fingers and I knew. I don't know how I can live with myself if I pass it on to this incredible man. Haven't slept much. He's doing OK, denial probably and not thinking about it. Under wine he said how he loathes cold sores, how he would self-destruct if he got them. I need to ask, has anyone else given in to irresponsibility? How did you live with it? What are the chances he will get herpes? (My outbreak was far from where his mouth was). Please, any comfort or even scolding, I feel so guilty and terrible, I don't know what to do with myself or what to think. Thank you thank you.
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