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Thanks for that...as an update... I have been online dating, which has mostly been chatting - I have been on a few dates. Anyhow, out of the blue a guy and I started chatting and after a day of chatting we decided to get together and that turned unexpectedly into a massage...and then I had to have the talk. I did, and he didn't think it was a big deal. He said, "I have had cold sores sometimes." And that was that! This reminded me that actually any time a person makes me feel like a leper after I tell them, they are not a person I want to spend time with. There are folks out there who see this for what it is - we need to seek those people.

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with me.

Hi there - new to the forum. I was diagnosed with genital HSV 1 about 8 months ago. So far, I have had one man I told tell me, "I'm not worried about cold sores," and we continue to be lovers. Another never wanted to see me again. Anyhow, I am dating, and I have a few questions about the whole disclosure thing. First off, am I wrong in wanting to downplay this whole thing? I feel like physically, since my first OB, this thing has not affected me at all. The only time it is an issue is when I have to tell a potential lover. I have it in mind that I got "lucky" with HSV 1 because it is not as active as much in the body and it is harder to transmit. Am I correct? I would always tell people anyhow, as well as use condoms. I am not taking the anti-virals, but I would be willing to. Secondly, part of me wants to get to know people first, but another part of me thinks I should just come out with the news pretty soon. It is part of who I am, and if it is a deal breaker, I would rather just move on. I'd love to hear from some of you who HSV 1 genital and who are more experienced than I.