Rheilly19

@gr8fulheart I am currently going through the same thing that you went through back in May. My heart is broken. And it's hard to talk to anyone about this because no one knows what it feels like. How are you doing? Have you moved on? As with any heartbreak, you wonder if you will be able to move on. Maybe knowing it is possible - if you have - it will be some peace of mind for me. I guess I also hope that the guy in my situation will come around...did yours? I feel so discouraged.

Thank you so much for your comments. And @optimist, you make such a valid point. The more I harp on this, and he is thinking about the future, the more he'll realize that should he be in this position in the future (assuming he gives me a chance), how frustrating it is. THUS, he may not give me a chance. I agree with you both, and I plan to give him lots of space.

After going on three amazing dates with a guy, he asked if I wanted to date exclusively. I was so excited! I have never felt this way about a guy in a very long time. I told him that before we are exclusive that there was something I needed to discuss with him first, at which time I told him about my HSV 2. Initially he seemed shocked, but after our discussion, he seemed very open to continuing an exclusive relationship. I was very happy to hear this but I expressed that I did want him to think more about what I had told him because even though my HSV doesn't impact my life all that much, it will inpact our sexual relationship. In addition, I told him I would love to continue to go on dates, just so he can get to know me better, and that would hopefully help in his decision - that I'm a good person worth having a relationship with. And he completely agreed to continue dating while thinking about what I had told him. Unfortunately the next day, crickets. Did not hear from him for two days. At first I was sad and hurt, after being honest and open to him, but I understood that maybe he was really digesting what I had told him. After two days, he finally sent me a message and said he had thought about what I had told him, and he would have a hard time being anything more than friends. I told him I respected his decision, but if at all possible could we hang out a few more times so he can hopefully see me as a good person and to not define me based on my HSV. He said of course we could, but he wasn't sure if it would truly change his mind. We're planning on hanging out mid next week when he gets back into town from a business trip. My question is....how do I handle this situation? I've read some threads that have said to give him more facts, answer his questions, etc. and I have read other threads that say to not really discuss my HSV, because you don't want your life defined by this. Essentially, let him know your life does not revolve around this disease. I really like this guy, and he obviously really liked me by asking to be exclusive so soon. Not to mention, he's willing to hang out with me, to get to know me better. I think that's pretty admirable!! Anyone else been in this situation? What did you do? Did it end well? Any points/facts/data that I should share with him? Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated!!