Ohhmandy

@optimist Thank you for the response. Do you know how effective antiviral suppressants are at preventing transmission? Once I am taking an antiviral and I am not having an outbreak, what is the probability that I will transmit mouth herpes through kissing or oral sex? I'd like to better understand the risk, so that when I have disclosure discussions, the both of us can decide what we are comfortable doing at that risk level.

I recently contracted HSV1 in my mouth. As any person would, I jumped right on the internet; and eventually found myself reading pages and pages of this forum. I'm not finding too many instances where people talk about their struggles with HSV1 in their mouth only. I'm a single straight gal who enjoys casual sex with many partners. And my main concern, and what is causing me the most sadness right now (well, besides all the pain from the sores), is the idea of never being able to kiss someone or give a man oral sex without possibly transmitting the virus to them. Kissing and performing fellacio are 2 of my favorite sexual activities. If I meet a guy at a bar and we hit it off, and he goes in for a kiss, am I really suppose stop him right in his tracks and disclose to him that I have mouth herpes? I understand that telling him would be the right thing to do, I get it. But that is such a buzzkill! Ugh! Also, how could I possibly give a man head ever again? I will have to find a man who is ok with the risk of getting genital herpes. Pfffftt. Good luck to me. Are there any other single people out there not in relationships who have mouth herpes. How do you get past this? Help! I love kissing! I love fellacio! I feel that my sex life is over.