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I have genital hsv2 and take 500 mg daily for suppression. I forgot my morning medication yesterday and had sex with my boyfriend last night. We used a condom. I know the transmission statistics. But do you think missing just one dose upped the chances from 1% to 2%? We are not in a committed relationship and he has a bunch of stressors going on in his life. I would feel terrible if I transmitted it due to forgetting my pill. He is aware of my status. THANKS for any advice!

i'm wondering if anyone else has had such a reaction to any type of vaccine? I recently received a cut and my doctor recommended a tetanus shot. I said sure. I really wasn't thinking about the impact on my immune system. Several days later I had an outbreak, and now – three weeks later – I am in the middle of the worst outbreak I have had since contracting H. I read up on vaccines and now realize they wreak havoc on your immune system. I wish I had not gotten the shot because only like 30 people a year get tetnusI I had no idea. If anyone has any experience with this, can you tell me how long you think it will take for my body to fight off the vaccine "germs" I received??? The day I received the shot I had been on Valtrex for several month because I was seeing someone. It's the only time I've ever had an outbreak while on the medicine. then I decided to let my body fight off the infection naturally and stopped take no it, but clearly that's not working so I went back on the medicine.

Hiking girl, it sounds like our journey has been pretty similar! I have read a lot of Buddhist books and meditate daily, which is where the inner peace I HAVE achieved comes from. i've also started yoga. I will look Pema's book again. The book that has helped me so much is "the untethered soul" by Michael Singer. I I also listen to the talks that I purchased from his website. Thank you for the reminder about acceptance. I often seem to find myself in a state of resistance instead of a state of acceptance ! But it is one of the tenants of Buddhist practices, along with nonattachment and understanding that all situations change. The good ones and the bad ones. Everything is impermanent. Including my feelings of anger and frustration. I spent a tremendous amount of time being hard on myself too. I worked with a life coach and I literally could not say the words "I forgive myself". I have worked very hard on self acceptance and self forgiveness, which is something I have struggled with my whole life, so it's good that I can now Love myself. It's huge, actually. Maybe another hidden blessing from this situation. Hugs to you and thank you!!

I was married 15 years, and the first time I had sex after my divorce, I got herpes. I didn't know the guy well and I didn't care. I just wanted to have sex with someone whom I thought was cute! My marriage had been sexless for a long time. I met this guy on an online dating site and we went out a few times. I asked him about his testing status. He said he had been tested recently and everything was good. At this time I had no knowledge of herpes and did not realize that doctors generally don't test for herpes unless you ask. But we agreed to use a condom because I was not on birth control The night we had sex I had been drinking. It sounds crazy, but I thought he had put a condom on and he had not. The room was dark, and he was across the room getting undressed, and he came up behind me so I couldn't even see him. I realized during sex that he wasn't wearing a condom but I thought pregnancy was my only concern. I told him I would take a Plan B the next day. A few days later I had a terrible outbreak. I believe he didn't know he had HSV. He did go get tested again but was shady about telling me the results. I think because he is an attorney and didn't want to tell me the test came back positive. He lied to me about some other things and was your basic player and fuckboy, although I didn't realize it at the time because I was so naïve about men. He claimed I agreed to not use a condom in advance and said I would take a Plan B before having sex. He called me crazy. But I kept seeing him for a while because I was in shock over the herpes and didn't think anyone else would want to be with me. I also got the cancer-causing kind of HPV either from him or the guy I dated for a year after him. I've had to have two biopsies and it has been awful and scary. I will get tested in three months again to see if the cervical dysplasia has gotten worse. This issue could continue impacting my life for years. And it's serious. A condom COULD have prevented me from getting both HPV and HSV. Three years later I am in a much much better place. I have had three sexual relationships with guys who were fine with my status. I told someone else my status and he was fine with it, but we didn't end up sleeping together. I've worked on myself a whole lot. I learned to have boundaries and to speak up for myself. Maybe I would not have learned these things had I not had to deal with him and some other difficult situations with men. But I still get so angry at this guy. For agreeing to use a condom and not using it, for taking advantage of my shyness about being with someone new. He rightly figured I wouldn't "make" him wear a condom. It makes me so mad that he would be so unconcerned about not just diseases but getting me pregnant! I saw on social media he did have a baby with someone after me. He still single and trolling on the dating sites though, from what I hear. Both HPV and HSV have been a blessing in disguise for me. The cancer scare got me invested in a much healthier lifestyle. I quit drinking, when I used to have a large drink every night. I started eating organic whole foods. HSV has definitely kept me away from some unhealthy or casual relationships, but has not scared anyone away I wanted to be with. I would love any advice on dealing with anger towards someone whom you feel treated you with disrespect and disregard. I have done forgiveness exercises and I picture him kneeling before God and taking the consequences for his actions. I do believe people reap what they sow. But it's still hard sometimes getting mad at myself for putting myself in that situation, and at him. I also get mad that my doctor didn't warn me about any of this. She said "practice safe sex" – and I intended to that night! – but I still didn't know anything about HSV or HPV. So many people don't. I love this forum… Thank you.

Update here for anyone who may find this in the future. I ended up going to the dermatologist and I had some type of cyst caused by the Brazilian wax. But I think there was a herpes breakout on top of the cyst. I am never getting a Brazilian again if it is going to make me break out! I got a sterile shot in the cyst that cleared it up.

I have lurked here for a long time and gotten so much wonderful advice. Hoping someone can help with my latest concern. I have gHSV1 and occasionally get a cold sore that lasts 2-3 days. Usually I put some wild oregano oil on it and it very quickly dries up. I take 500 mg Valtrex/day for suppressive therapy Nine days ago I got my first ever Brazilian wax. Very painful as my hair is coarse. Two days after that - the same day I unexpectedly saw my out of state boyfriend - I started feeling tingling. I popped two additional Valtrex that day. No cold sores. We had sex that night. Four days after my wax (two days after seeing him) I developed a cold sore that turned into a whitish looking spot. It feels like there is something "in" it. It feels hard. It may be several bumps close together but I can't tell by looking… Only feeling. I only see the whitish spot. I've treated it with Abreva, oregano oil, bactine, alum....but it's not going away. I went to the doctor yesterday and she said it doesn't look infected and does look like HSV. I was thinking it could be some kind of hair follicle infection from the wax. She ordered Valtrex cream but insurance won't pay for it. Today I tried clortrimazonel and betamethasone cream since this sore isn't going away and it seems different than herpes. But I know steroids are bad for HSV I'm having irrational fears. What if this sore doesn't go away? What if I've permanently damaged this nerve ending? Why isn't it gone after 5 days when I've never had a sore last this long? Why does it look different? I also worry I exposed my boyfriend to HSV even though we used condoms, I'm on V, and I had no sores that day. I didn't realize prodrome is dangerous too. I appreciate any advice. Thank you!!