@hellagood1 Unfortunately, there are currently no transmission statistics available to reflect risk within same sex partnerships, nor are there statistics available for risk of contracting HSV1 orally through performing oral sex on someone with HSV1. However, it is believed the risk of contracting HSV1 orally through performing oral sex on a partner with genital HSV1 is lower than the risk of contracting it from kissing a partner whose HSV1 infection is in the oral region. Likewise, it is lower risk than contracting it genitally from receiving oral sex from someone with oral HSV1. This is because the HSV1 virus sheds more frequently from the mouth than the genitals. Keep in mind the majority of adults have HSV1, so if you've kissed other partners in the past, you have almost definitely taken this risk before.
Do you recall if you've ever had a cold sore? If so, you almost definitely already have the HSV1 virus and would not need to worry about contracting it from your current partner. However, lack of a history of cold sores does not mean you are definitely uninfected. Many people with HSV1 do not get cold sores, and many contract it as toddlers and obviously would not remember if they had a primary outbreak of cold sores upon infection.
Transmission to fingers is rare but not impossible. Way, way, way lower risk than kissing an HSV1+ partner. I would certainly avoid direct contact during outbreaks, however.
Reinfection (autoinoculation) can happen when someone is still building antibodies to the virus. After the first few months, once antibodies are established following infection, the risk of this happening is extremely low. It's not impossible but it's rare.
I'm not sure if I have ever got a cold sore before but I think that I have. I know my mother has, she has had a cold sore a couple of times but its very rare.. That is the same as hsv1?
So if I have had a cold sore before I'm like 100% in the clear and don't really have anything to worry about ???
Like I wouldn't catch it down there if its already in my system or I can ? Cuz I really think I have had a cold sore before but I don't remember, I was very young I think if so.