Thank you, I am really struggling with this. Yes we both had been drinking, and I wouldn't even call this a friend more of someone I know from college. As I have thought on this more, I am very angry. I am very much into disclosing and accepting the fact that I have it but I felt like my choice to disclose was taken away from me. There was not one part of that night, where I changed my mind and went I want to be having sex right now. From all that I've seen on this site about disclosure is giving the other person the CHOICE to make the decision themselves. I feel like BOTH of my choices were taken away that night, my choice to engage in sex and choice to disclose my status. Now I realize I have a lot to own up to as well, I should never have gotten so drunk that I wasn't logically thinking, I remember saying No, we can't do this but looking back now I feel guilt that talking about my HSV wasn't even on my mind it was more No I don't want sex right now. I'm scared for myself and am going to go get tested for everything. With disclosing, I'm not even afraid of rejection, I want nothing to do with this guy. Like I said, I just don't even know how to approach this.