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  1. Is there a way to remove negative feed back and let other people respond who are more caring, or is that against an Amendment... I can't remember which one... lol...
  2. Hi Adrial, once again, this site is awesome. It keeps growing, which I think is a good thing. I just read a discussion where people were not very kind to a girl posting about her having sex without disclosing. I was shocked to see how insensitive people are. Is there anything that can keep people from running away from this site, once reading such anger filled comments on their posts?
  3. Hi Stuck in a Rut, please don't listen to awful people!! Harry the Herp has a chip, a big one. I am not saying it is right not to disclose, but people who judge you for not telling the truth are not being honest with themselves about all the dishonesty in their own lives. I love that you had the courage to tell this forum what has occurred in your own life. I have made the same mistake and confessed to the person. His response is that he loved me and it didn't matter to him anyway. I have experienced very little rejection because of herpes. Please don't hesitate to seek support on this forum in the future. Most of the people on this site are very kind and understanding.
  4. Hi Everyone, I have been working on a self help course, lol, I am so embarrassed I poured all that negativity on this site. I know what everyone is explaining about getting my life on track, I have been working on it, and feel so much better. Thank you all so much for kindness and support.
  5. Hi Everyone, I think about the forum everyday. I can't seem to get a grip. I purposely drove him away. I could not bring myself to say what I wanted to say, so I started ignoring his calls and texts... he stopped. Let me explain a situation I am currently in... I am a single mother of a three year old boy. We live with my parents, we have a nice home and everything we both want and need, WE are very blessed. I have battles with depression. I dropped out of school with only two semesters from graduating with a Bachelors Degree. I am currently unemployed, only working odd jobs for extra spending money. My purpose in life is to take care of my son. I have tried joining gyms, we go to church, I volunteer, my son is in a program for kids two days a week. I have tried different means of meeting new people and trying new things. I really don't have a career path and this adds to my depression. I don't feel valuable or worthy enough for a partner, but am lonely. I feel a tremendous amount of pressure as a single parent, and this also makes me sad. Add the herpes, it is always lingering in the back of my thoughts... the embarrassment from speaking those words to another person that I have feelings for is deeper than the deepest ocean. It may seem dramatic, but its true. I feel the need to explain that I am not a whore, that I was responsible up to a certain point. But it doesn't change the diagnosis. I am scared I will be alone for a very long time. I wanted more for my son. I wanted for me. Thanks for reading. Feels good to be able to write about it.
  6. Hi everyone, thank you for posting comments on my last discussion post. I haven't told him. I can't. I told him we just need to be friends for now. I am thinking I will just get a cat. It has been really hard dealing with this diagnosis and trying to keep a positive outlook. I am tired and just want a break from disclosing and the relationship not working out or being shown the door. Thank you for all the advice and stories that I have been able to relate to or offer advice myself. The forum has always been helpful.
  7. I have wondered why we as people with herpes worry so much about telling people who don't ask? Before I was diagnosed, I thought I was safe enough. Having a steady boyfriend and asking him about STD's and the last time he was tested was not embarrassing to me at all, I just wanted to be safe.
  8. Has anyone asked themselves why we worry so much about disclosing to people who don't even ask?
  9. My gynecologist suggested that taking the medication everyday will lessen the chances of the medicine actually helping during outbreaks. He did not recommend that I take it everyday. He promotes safe sex and not having sex during outbreaks. Adrial is right, it depends on how severe your outbreaks are and how frequent.
  10. Hi everyone!! Our third date was awesome!! We really like each other and get along so well, I hate to ruin it with my disclosing. I couldn't do it... We have such a good time together... I read everyone's advice and it all is great and not anything I haven't been through many times before. It's not new to me having the talk. Friends, family, and potential lovers all know. I hate it. Sometimes I think it's okay and life will go on. Other times I want to hide from the world and give up on love. It's been 8 years and I still struggle with feelings of shame and fear of telling someone I like in a romantic way.
  11. I like the way you write Matt!! Clear and concise, much like your disclosure talk!!
  12. Hi Everyone! Happy Halloween!! I have a date tonight. He seems to be the one I could spend my life with. It's only our third date, but everything feels just right. He thinks so too. However, I haven't disclosed and am thinking of talking to him tonight. Any suggestions?
  13. I know how it feels also, to lose a relationship that you cared so much for. I was scared to date at first, after my relationship ended with the man who passed HSV2 on to me unknowingly. However, I have dated and disclosed many times. It is important to remember that if the person you are disclosing to is meant to be in your life, then it will not matter to them...
  14. I am curious to know if you disclosed through a text message? And yes, you are much better off without a guy like that. Chances are, with his attitude about casual sex, he may have herpes one day...
  15. Making me smile... love this post!!
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