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Okay thank you so much that goes a long way towards putting my mind at ease

@surfsup @HikingGirl Thank you for the replies. I got a blood test and the results say I have HSV2.

Hi, all. I was diagnosed with GHSV in September last year I have never had an outbreak. I really had a hard coping with the diagnosis and I only found out after infecting my then boyfriend. You guys really helped me to deal with the all the crazy things that I went through. I managed to move on and realize that having herpes does not make me less of the person that I am. I am still me and I can still achieve my goals and work towards living my dream. Now I just met the most amazing man and I am falling in love. We have been dating for a month now and I feel that it's high time I disclosed. I just have a few questions; how do I prevent transmission to my partner? Here in Zimbabwe, we don't have Valtrex, we only have Aciclovir. Does it work the same way if I take it as suppressive therapy? Also, does L-lysine help to prevent transmission? Can I give my man oral or kiss him without transmitting because I got a blood test I dont know if i have it genitally only or both genitally and orally? Thanks

I understand where you are coming from. I think you should tell him and send him links to this site especially the h partners section. Trust me the rejection and is way better than how u will feel if u give him h without telling him. He could react in a terrible way and that could bring u down. I gave my boyfriend HSV 1 during oral and I didn't even know I had it. He reacted in a bad way and I went through hell. I had also found out I had h because he got cold sores, I was also trying to come to terms with it and he was texting me everyday ranting and blaming me saying I've ruined hs life. It was a terrible experience . I wish I had found out about my status and disclosed before passing it on to him everyday.

I am ,a 26 year old lady. 5 weeks ago my boyfriend gave me oral sex he had a cracked lip and a few days later he sent me a picture and he had a few bumps on his upper lip. He is a pharmacist and he to ld me it's herpes and he got it from me because he has never had cold sores before. He was really angry and he essentially told me I had ruined his life. I explained to him tht I have never had any blisters or lesions on my vagina before. He did not understand. I started researching on herpes and came across this forum. It gave me the courage to go and see a doctor. The doctor said I probably don't have HSV since I have never had symptoms before. I got a blood test yesterday but results will take a few days. I know I probably have HSV and it's asymptomatic after reading and researching on herpes. During the first two weeks I lived with immense guilt and feelings of worthlessness especially given the fact that I live in a country where herpes is almost equated to leprosy. I wanted to die and felt suicidal.The reading material on this site helped me deal with this. The boyfriend kept texting me venting and blaming me all the time and this only increased the mental anguish. Even if my test comes positive I believe I have accepted it in my heart that it's not the end of the world or my life. Im still suffering from the mental anguish and my boyfriend recently had another outbreak and Everytime I see a text notification from him I get so afraid if what he is saying. The guilt consumes sometimes. But I want to thank you guys for all the posts and support I got from reading on this site. I still have a long way to go in terms of self esteem and mentally dealing with herpes and dating and having a future sex life but I am thankful. Thank you so much for all your posts all your success stories I want to start an awareness program in my country Zimbabwe to help people meet people like you and find sites like this. There are days when I forget about herpes entirely but there are still days when I can't sleep thinking about it feeling guilty and lost.

Hello buddies I am a 26 year old female with hsv2. Your posts have really helped me. Im not from the US and I come from a society where HSV is stigmatized and seen as something life threatening and people discriminate. I would really like a pen pal someone who can support me and I will support them too. I have a long way to go in terms of self esteem and dating. I am still trying to learn how to live with HSV and you guys have been an awesome source of solace.