Belle3738

Emmy19, Maybe you should try, like I did, postive singles. Granted, you will get the jerks still. I went on two dates with guys on that site that, one guy I wanted to slap into the next state and another one who made me scare to talk about h in public. He was also bitter about his divorce. So there are more things to be concerned about then h, but then I met a guy on there that was wonderful. We have been together for over a year now and I couldn't be happier. We do have our problems, but they are normal problems that every relationship has and will define a relationship. He makes me feel normal like I should feel and just because we both have H, it's not that big of a deal for us. To each other, we are normal people in a normal relationship, even if we do talk about it, our experiences and how we got it, it's like two people having a normal conversation. There is no stress and no worries. So think about that website. It might be a little easier. Hopefully this helps you and others who read this.

Something I have read once before on here is that people see their friends running around sleeping with people not giving any thought to what may happen to them or what may happen to them, but they don't know it. Since I have taken a break from dating to work on myself and what I want and who I chose to to have the "talk" with, I have noticed that too. I want to warn them that if they are not careful and just stick to one person, they may get H too or something worse. Having "fun" can have consequences, you think nothing will happen to you. I have looked back at my experience and took it as a wake up call, work on what i value and make sure they are mature enough to handle anything i throw at them. I have come to the point twice with two people that I was going to have the "talk" but then something happens either we stop talking or he does some immature move and shows me that he isn't worth my time. So when you date either with H or without, keep it simple, know what your looking for, don't let your desires get the best of you, give it time to see if he is worthy of the "talk" and your time.

I don't know if this will help anyone, but when I see the posts on here, Everyone knows the day or month or years of when they found out. I seem to think it's weird how you remember the major life changing events and when you started to find out who loves you for you. Its like anniversary of finding out your true and loyal people in your life. Since I was diagnosed, i have found out that my family loves me supports me and knows I am doing everything in my power to move on. I admit it's not easy at times, I do come back with my aniexty about it and the fear of rejection when it comes to dating. That fear is what keeps from moving on sometimes. But just remember one thing, your anniversary of your diagnose is also the day you find out who was there for you, who looked at you as you, still loved you still worried about you. I am coming to find out that my friends who do know, don't look at me any different, tells me I am overstressing when it comes to worrying about people finding out. Most people don't know and still don't look at me any different then before. Also being a member of this helps me out when I want to be reminded I am not alone. So thank you to people who keeps this site going. You are the strong people.

I have been disagose with having herpes type two, according to my reports from my 1st and I think only outbreak in about 10 months, well according to my doctor, who pats me on my knee and said I would know if it happened. I have been in counseling to heal myself and to work on my self esteem but I think I am ready to date again. I have been tested for everything else and it's negative so my question is, knowing the percentage of transmission using only condoms from female to male is 2% when not having a outbreak, is it worth it take suppressive meds? I understand that it's 1% if you do but I have used condoms in the past and I more comfortable doing that and less anitexy knowing I am doing that. Cause I also want to protect not only him but myself from getting something else cause that 3 times more likely to get hiv with what I have vs the other type has my fear into high gear.

Hikinggirl, thank you so much for posting cause I feel the same way at times.

In fact. I never got retested cause I have been, in the last 9 months working on me and building a stronger self image. I have been working on forgiving myself for the wrong choices I have made in my life and remembering what makes, me. But I still wonder about it.

Since you are talking about test results I need to ask if this is right or kinda of fishy cause I always wondered about.it. When I had my 1st outbreak, I was in such pain I didn't know that they tested me for herpes, I just thought it was more then likely a yeast infection. The nurse said she found some bacteria and here is some medience for it. When I called back about a question on it, they said that they are waiting for one more test to come back and when I asked what kind of test, the nurse was a little hesitant to answer then she, rather rudely said, herpes. I was shocked cause there was no way. When they told me I had it, I demanded a retest which I think they talked me out of which was easy for them since I was so upset and in shock. When I asked them why they would test for that they said they saw a lesion. Does that sound right that they never told me that they were testing for that? In fact, they never told me the numbers since they claim they saw a lesion. It was then.they have me valterx to take. Before the results I was taking some sort of bacteria medience.

Casi1001, Thank you so very much. I have to say that finding this site is truly a comfort, Reading and getting Encouraging words from someone who has experience in the same issues is truly gives a person piece of mind. Thank you again.

At casi1001, I don't know if you were replying for me but the problem with him is that he is too used to being by himself and working in his garage. It is really hard for him to go out with me as a friend instead he would rather be in his garage working on his cars. I don't mind it at all cause I love the quality time spent with him in his garage watching him and learning about cars. Since we talk all the time while he does. He has become my best friend in all that 9 months. So I have tried everything to see him happy with me but I am ruining out of ideas. I can't walk away from him either he such a wonderful guy.

I need some advice, I have been thinking about this for a while and I decide to seek advice. Hopefully someone will response but I got diagnosed about 9 months ago. Ever since I have been in counseling to deal with it and forgiving myself for the wrong choices in my past relationships. It does get hard and I given up on dating and the idea of marriage and kids. But in all this, I have met someonee who was around when I had my 1st outbreak, me and him never went all the way. But he would have been the perfect guy for me. He knows I have it and thinks we can never be a true couple because of it so we are friends. We have come to have deep feelings for each and I have fallen hard for him. He is truly would have been the best choice in a husband cause he is everything I ever wanted in a husband. He likes me in many ways I have always wanted to be liked, he took his time in knowing me. I laugh and smile a lot around him. He has a daughter from a previous relationship and she is a great little girl. With that he has his own issues so that is why I wanted to patient but I am trying to figure out why he stuck in my life after knowing what I have and how to get him to be ok with it. I know he is scared as I am but I don't know how to convince him that I am always looking out for his best interests and how I know I can protect him. If anyone has advice it would be wonderful to hear.

Hi my name is Belle and I found out I had it about 8 months ago. I live in wisconsin, I am 37 in april turning 38 and I would like another female to talk to that had experience with this for many years because I have many questions and I have read about all the facts, transmission rates and ways to prevent anyone from getting it but I am I still concerned on the dating side cause I still want to get married, maybe due to age no kids but still get married and live my life with someone for long term. I am so upset that it won't happen, so anyone who can relate and can talk to me would be great. Thank you Also if anyone needs someone to talk to I am also here to help, i don't know how much I can be since I very new to this but I will always listen