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  1. On 8/19/2020 at 6:47 PM, Snookie B said:

    Hey, Question? Is your husband H+ ? If he’s not, how did you guys go about having babies?

    I'm H+ but my spouse is H- and we want to try for kids but I don’t want to put him at any risk. what would be your advice ?

    My husband is not H+. Unfortunately my tubes were blocked, so we did IVF to get pregnant.

    I would say in your situation, take antivirals and proceed. 

  2. 2 hours ago, Livinglife2019 said:

    Wow, seriously? That’s amazing! I really wish it was more resources on the way the values work.

    Not amazing. I can barely get help because no one believes I have the virus. I get pains but no lesions. 
    I started getting dizzy; I also experience a hosts of other symptoms. I saw to an infectious disease doctor who said my symptoms sound like encephalitis but I’m testing as negative. It truly sucks. I’m not sure what twisted hsv2 type I have. 

  3. Hi there,

    I have HSV2 & I had a baby in September. You will be fine. As long as your doctor knows and continues to monitor you, all will be well. I have friends who have delivered vaginally with H2 & they had no problems.

    Due to medical complications, I had to be rushed in for an emergency cesarean. 
     

    Wishing you and your sweet baby girl all the best. 

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  5. I’m still waiting for my results. I tested in 2014, I tested positive positive HSV1 (2.88) & HSV2 (1.26). I tested a week later and the results were equivocal (0.90). Afterwards, all of my tests have been negative <0.90.

    I feel that my results will be positive because I have mild itching & leg pain when I sleep in a position for a while. This is very scary in my opinion. If I’m showing negative on a test but am actually positive, imagine how many others could possibly do the same?

    It is going into third week after testing for me. I should have my results this week. I’ll definitely share. 

  6. Prayerfully. I’m not wholly convinced. I like the research, but nothing has been successful. EVER! If this is successful, I’m certain big pharma which pays/funds the FDA will have the treatment halted to preserve the interests & assists of their initiatives: Valtrex & acyclovir. 

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  7. Hi Kacey,

    I am sorry to hear about your traumatic past. I know becoming intimate with someone after that can cause all types of emotions. Then to find someone you vibe with, must have put you at ease.

    I am so happy you found a guy that you felt comfortable enough with to try & be intimate again. H can cause us to stop living especially when all you think about is having it.

     

    After not experiencing outbreaks, I can understand your thoughts. You thought all was well when you engaged in a little foreplay. I would not beat yourself up just yet.
     

    I would get the rash swabbed, if possible, to see if it is herpes and to find out the type of it if it is herpes. This would inform you and help put you at ease. I know everyone likes to spat facts as if they’re a walking herpes almanac. Most people who reply are going to say after having it for a while that you can autoinoculate yourself because your body has built up a sense of immunity. However, I disagree. 
     

    The rash may be acne (positive thoughts). 
     

    I am not encouraging nondisclosure; I am saying make sure that you are sure that your symptoms are herpetic before you beat yourself up. And if your symptoms are herpetic, give yourself a break. You didn’t wake up with thoughts of being deceitful. Things happened, you felt wanted, & acts occurred.
     

    If you feel the need to have him tested, do it. I’ve been where the guilt of engaging in a simple act makes you so worried it consumes you. For peace of mind, do what is best for you.

    Because I experience extreme levels of anxiety, my peace comes from disclosing early on so my anxiety stays at a healthy level. 
     

    Hugs & best wishes. 
     

     

     

  8. I understand both schools of thought on the topic. 
     

    Pheobe, like you, I have also have questionable test results. I was diagnosed is June 2014 with a low-value IGG (0.92); it was right above the cutoff. I retested & the next time the results were equivocal. Since then, I’ve tested every year and my results are negative. I tested in July before I gave birth & I recently tested last week.

     

    I am also in the process of getting the Western Blot. I was shocked and hurt, when I was told that I had HSV2 in 2014. I, too, felt like I shouldn’t have to disclose. I felt like I got it because someone didn’t disclose to me, so why should I have to be a saint. But then I thought about how I’d like someone to handle the situation if the roles were reversed.

     

    AlthOugh I don’t have a definitive answer to whether or not I have herpes, I operate like I do. Perhaps it’s my Puritanical upbringing, but I believe that you should do unto others as you’d have them do unto you. 
     

    Do I hate having herpes? F&@! Yes! Do I hide in shame when my friends make jokes about herpes? Yes! Was I one of those small-minded people before my diagnosis? Probably! I’ve learned through experience that the same thing that’ll make you laugh will also make you cry. 
     

    Telling my then boyfriend was the most humiliating thing I’ve had to do to date & I’ve pissed on a lover in bed after a drunken night of passion. 

    Aside from the shame, I feel good about myself for being honest with my partner. It all boils down to character for me: what you do when no one is watching or when no one knows the truth. 

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  9. I’m not one to scold you, but I honestly think that it is only right to disclose.

    How did you get herpes? How did you feel afterwards? If it was like majority of us here, you were surprised and felt deceived. More than likely, you went through a period of self pity. 
     

    With that in mind, why would you put someone through that? It is truly despicable. Similarly, trying to rationalize and minimize the deceit is also utterly disgusting. 
     

    I could not do it because I’m a firm believer in karma. 
     

    Imagine that you hooked up with someone, because “hey, it’s just herpes,” and they were hiding something equally as bad and you acquired HIV. Would you be upset? What if they tried to rationalize having HIV like you tried to minimize having herpes? How would you feel?

    What if the person who gave you HIV said “it’s just like any other chronic illness-diabetes, Crohn’s disease, lupus?” Would you see their perspective on the subject?
     

    It’s your life and you will do what you think is best. However, I hope that you have enough empathy and compassion to not put someone through the hurt and life-altering anxiety that many people experience when they are initially diagnosed with herpes. Allow the other person to have a choice; give them what you, perhaps, did not receive. 

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  10. Hi & welcome,

    Getting an initial diagnosis can be pretty devastating. I’ve been there; it’s safe to say that most people on this site have been there.

    When you found out, did the nurse or doctor not indicate the type of HSV?

    For what it’s worth, herpes is herpes in my opinion. There isn’t a joy of having one over the other. I would like to not have either HSV1 or HSV2, yet here we are. 
     

    Don’t let this get you down. Over analyzing the situation isn’t going to change the outcome; over analyzing will simply rob you of any joy that you can have.

    I was doom and gloom when I found out that I lost 3-4 years of my life. I’m still losing moments due to regret, shame, & fear.

    Find someone to talk to who knows that “H” isn’t the end of your life or sexual life. I, like you, believed that but my husband (then boyfriend) did not. Just as he
    accepted me, someone will accept you. You’re more than herpes.

    As for your friends, there’s probably someone in your circle that is afraid to say anything for fear of being ridiculed. If there isn’t, that doesn’t make you any less lovable.  
     

    I hope you realize that this isn’t your fault and it doesn’t define you. May you find comfort soon. Message me if you need to talk/vent/whatever. 

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  11. 2 hours ago, Kjlo82 said:

    I was diagnosed with hsv 2 in August last year and I have also had daily symptoms.  It really gets me down and I have been on speed dial to my local clinic in the hope that they will help. I have to say I've been made to feel like I'm over reacting that was until my last appointment I went got a swab taken I had bv but most importantly I was listened to.  She gave me treatment for my bv, for my herpes but also advised me to take antihistamines which i have just started taking in the hope that they will help I am on day 4 and they seem to help ease them.  I hope that it is my body getting used to having it and will eventually feel better. 

    Do you know why she suggested taking antihistamines? Is to relieve the itching?

  12. On 4/2/2020 at 11:58 PM, Scropioking said:

    That’s crazy I hope your baby is ok but I’m confused nobody has said anything about me infecting them or anything then I take a herpes test and they say I have it but ever since December I haven’t had an outbreak and even in my blood test the doctor said I was clean 

    Thank you for the well wishes. I guess I’ll never know unless I get a Western Blot. I had a spinal tap because I felt bad once and I thought for sure the virus would’ve been detected. The results came back negative. My mouth dropped. 
     

    when I asked the doctor about the results, he informed me that if I had HSV1/2 it would’ve shown during the analysis of the spinal fluid. SMH! 
     

    My husband and I were shocked; well, mostly me because my husband believes that I don’t have HSV. 
     

     

  13. @mr_hopp thank you for your inquiry. I posted before about my presentation of GHSV2 isn’t textbook. No doctors believe this; however, the worst is happening. 
     

    It’s sad that this had to occur for anyone to listen. My baby has the virus in his mouth like I do. No one will listen because I don’t get blisters or ulcers. His mouth presents like mine: without blisters, just peeling of the membrane.

     

    We have an eye appointment this week as well because he has rubbed his eyes. I’m trying my best to keep him from doing so, but he’s only 5 months. His eyes are watery & reddish. I’m praying that the virus hasn’t transferred there, but I need am not too hopeful seeing that I was right about everything else. 

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